elaine567 Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 I ask for nothing I don't provide myself I'm in really great shape, make a great income, come from a great family, am intelligent and educated. I'm also asking for someone roughly my age I'm not a fat old guy asking for a 22 year old But you are not "earning" the girl if you are holding back and not approaching her. or you are not going to places to meet likely candidates, or you are not presenting yourself as an attractive and interesting personality. If you, as you say, are amongst the best looking guys in the club them why are women not falling over you? Something is putting them off... you need to find out what that is. The best looking guy I ever knew in real life, male model looks, good job, the full package seemingly, but actually no confidence, as dull as ditchwater and had an intensity about him at times that it was scary... his dating history not unsurprisingly was a disaster. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BassNectar Posted December 22, 2018 Author Share Posted December 22, 2018 But you are not "earning" the girl if you are holding back and not approaching her. or you are not going to places to meet likely candidates, or you are not presenting yourself as an attractive and interesting personality. If you, as you say, are amongst the best looking guys in the club them why are women not falling over you? Something is putting them off... you need to find out what that is. The best looking guy I ever knew in real life, male model looks, good job, the full package seemingly, but actually no confidence, as dull as ditchwater and had an intensity about him at times that it was scary... his dating history not unsurprisingly was a disaster. I agree with your last point. I have a co worker who is 6'1 and very handsome with absolutely zero game and he is horrible with women I'm good around women once somebody shows some interest in me but the initial cold stage is very hard for me. I struggle to get past that initial awkward stage once I'm slightly comfortable around a woman, im fine - I have no problems carrying a good conversation. My overall social skills have to be decent - I make friends everywhere I go pretty easily I just have to stop being so afraid of rejection. i really want a woman who works out with weights though - I need to approach ay gyms somehow. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted December 22, 2018 Share Posted December 22, 2018 I just have to stop being so afraid of rejection. . You will just have to go for it. You are not in Afghanistan fighting the Taliban, so what is the worst that can happen? She says no... Link to post Share on other sites
Author BassNectar Posted December 22, 2018 Author Share Posted December 22, 2018 You will just have to go for it. You are not in Afghanistan fighting the Taliban, so what is the worst that can happen? She says no... here's my issue. I've always made friends in a very natural way. I naturally bumped into somebody doing something in my daily routine and we had great chemistry and started hanging out I don't feel comfortable just trying to force something with no natural introduction but that's what I have to do because of my incredibly specific taste My other issue is I feel that women have impossoble standards so I am very harsh on myself and never feel i am good enough. I feel like the only way a quality woman will like me is if I'm totally perfect in every way I also tend to assume 99% of women are not single and don't want to meet anybody. Link to post Share on other sites
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