What is he doing?

[Fair]

Me and my ex brother in law had Christmas together. He brought all the food and a gift, the whole thing was his idea.

 

He checks in on me periodically on fb because of my anxiety. He's always willing to help me whenever I need it, not that I ask him for anything very often.

 

I'm trying not to overthink it, but … the whole thing seems a bit strange. He acts nervous around me and I sometimes wonder what's going through his head when he's here. It's all been innocent, and he's never hit on me or anything, but I was surprised when he wanted to spend Christmas Day with me. I was surprised by the gift... by everything.

 

Truth is, I'm not feeling really trusting these days if I ever am. I feel like since I've been down with an anxiety disorder I'm suddenly getting a lot of male attention for being in such a small town. My ex is out of the picture now. I've gone NC with him. But he lives just around the corner from my and my ex brother in law was asking around to make sure he's gone, saying he 'wouldn't want to make anyone uncomfortable' by coming here on Christmas. I told him he wouldn't be.

 

I hope I'm not inadvertently giving him the wrong impression. I have no interest in my ex brother in law, but if not for his company I would have been alone on Christmas and was glad he stopped in even while wondering if it was all as innocent as it seemed. Maybe I'm just being cynical... but do you think he's just being nice or does this look to you like he might have other ideas? He's awful nervous around me, but then, most people are. Lol.

[Gretchen12]

Your ex brother in law is not the brother of your ex, right?

 

You should probably say something to make sure he knows you're not interested in him romantically.

[stillafool]

 

But he lives just around the corner from my and my ex brother in law was asking around to make sure he's gone, saying he 'wouldn't want to make anyone uncomfortable' by coming here on Christmas. I told him he wouldn't be.

 

 

This statement pretty much says he's thinking the same thing you are and doesn't want anyone getting the wrong impression. He's not interested. Purely platonic. That was nice of him to come by on Christmas.

[Fair]

Your ex brother in law is not the brother of your ex, right?

 

You should probably say something to make sure he knows you're not interested in him romantically.

 

No. Was my sister's husband.

[Fair]

This statement pretty much says he's thinking the same thing you are and doesn't want anyone getting the wrong impression. He's not interested. Purely platonic. That was nice of him to come by on Christmas.

 

I think it was platonic but never know for certain with men. Usually men doing anything for you or with you means they're interested, otherwise they don't bother, normally.

[stillafool]

I think it was platonic but never know for certain with men. Usually men doing anything for you or with you means they're interested, otherwise they don't bother, normally.

 

That isn't my experience. I've been blessed with very good friends who are men and it's strictly platonic.

[chillii]

Well personally l wouldn't just hang around with somebody if l was interested l'd probably make a move fairly soon but if no interest then l'd leave her to it,

 

 

butttt , sometimes though for whatever reason he could stick around in wait for some more positive signs first and l'm kinda thinking this might be him.

Reason being he sure wouldn't want your sister knowing you knocked him back if he tried so you'd have to put out something pretty strong before he'd try anything if he is interested.