Crush on a guy at my college who all girls thinks is insanely gorgeous

[d0nnivain]

Does this mean that lots of girls are willing to go all out with tempting him sexually and making it clear to him that they are physically available for him at all times, no matter what?

 

Yes, some girls can do this. That is not necessarily "lots" but enough that men like him have a variety.

 

You are probably not wired this way. That is fine. Just don't try to be like this, to separate love from sex if that isn't you. People who try this & can't do it end up hurting themselves.

[thefooloftheyear]

Yep, that part if very frustrating.

 

I wonder how other girls do to get around this;

maybe they avoid falling in love with him and just focus completely on taking any chance they can to have sex with him, even if he jumps between different girls.

 

Women that lead with sexual innuendo and basically handing themselves to a guy on a silver platter is the biggest rookie move in the world....Some think that's the easiest way to get him to like them, but in reality most desirable guys see it as weak and insecure on the part of these women...

 

TFY

[Katie1999]

Yes, some girls can do this. That is not necessarily "lots" but enough that men like him have a variety.

So basically they are ready to possibly give up their self-respect both in front of him and everyone else, as long as they get multiple chances to sleep with him, like one of his many toys who have put him on a pedestal?

[Garcon1986]

Some women either can mentally separate the sex and the affection - or don't know the emotional disaster that is about to come their way until the morning after. Those women might be too enthralled by the opportunity that they are blinded by desire.

[d0nnivain]

To some extent. It depends on the girl. Not everyone has the motives. In college when I played this game it was for the ego boost. It made me feel better about myself to get some guy to "like" me or at least pay attention. As I matured I learned there were better ways to get somebody's attention

Edited December 31, 2018 by d0nnivain

[Katie1999]

To some extent. It depends on the girl. Not everyone has the motives. In college when I played this game it was for the ego boost. It made me feel better about myself to get some guy to like me.

Ah okay, because sometimes it seems like lots of those girls decide to completely ditch their self-respect and instead start thinking of themselves as his sex toys or something, so that they are fine with letting him take advantage of them and having zero respect for them as long as they get chances to have sex with him.

I get that vibe from some of them.

[d0nnivain]

What does that have to do with you, or your crush on him? Is it telling you that he might not be as discerning about his partners as you would prefer? Is it telling you to maintain your self respect or something else?

 

When you started this thread I repeatedly asked you what you wanted. You need to answer that Q. If the answer is you want a sexy guy like him who isn't swayed by every pretty face he might not be your guy.

[Garcon1986]

Yeh don't just ponder about thinking about trying to get his attention

[Katie1999]

Well, um, one of my friends cautioned me that apparently this guy has a habit of dating 3-4 girls at the same time, and it's always purely about sex to him, so that would mean that he generally strives for casual group sex.

Not sure what to feel about that one, since I would prefer to be with him in private.

Edited January 4, 2019 by Katie1999

[RevengeOfTheCuck]

Well, um, one of my friends cautioned me that apparently this guy has a habit of dating 3-4 girls at the same time, and it's always purely about sex to him, so that would mean that he generally strives for casual group sex.

Not sure what to feel about that one, since I would prefer to be with him in private.

 

Well then I guess it's time to move on.

[Garcon1986]

Then you found the answer you were looking for.

[edgygirl]

I also went for the hot guys for a phase in college. If only I knew... that doesn't matter one iota.

 

The most worthy men for long term relationships are the nerdy weirdos who have a BRAIN, are witty, make the effort to be nice people as they don't have droves of women lusting after them.

 

These days sometimes hot guys write me, I don't even respond. Huge turn off.

 

Not to mention hot looking guys are also usually lame in bed They think their looks are enough.

[edgygirl]

Told ya... these guys are always mega lame and not relationship material. Nah. Pass.

 

Well, um, one of my friends cautioned me that apparently this guy has a habit of dating 3-4 girls at the same time, and it's always purely about sex to him, so that would mean that he generally strives for casual group sex.

Not sure what to feel about that one, since I would prefer to be with him in private.

[nittygritty]

Well, um, one of my friends cautioned me that apparently this guy has a habit of dating 3-4 girls at the same time, and it's always purely about sex to him, so that would mean that he generally strives for casual group sex.

Not sure what to feel about that one, since I would prefer to be with him in private.

 

He probably has STD’s.

[thefooloftheyear]

Well, um, one of my friends cautioned me that apparently this guy has a habit of dating 3-4 girls at the same time, and it's always purely about sex to him, so that would mean that he generally strives for casual group sex.

Not sure what to feel about that one, since I would prefer to be with him in private.

 

Who knows if your friend is telling you the truth...For all you know she is angling for him and wants you out of the picture.

 

TFY

[Garcon1986]

Go ask the charming bloke about him, get to know the old lad.

[basil67]

So basically they are ready to possibly give up their self-respect both in front of him and everyone else, as long as they get multiple chances to sleep with him, like one of his many toys who have put him on a pedestal?

 

That's quite a judgement call there Katie. If they are happy to just have some casual sex, I can't see that they are giving up their self respect. They're just having fun.

[edgygirl]

Exactly... which is actually quite normal in college.

 

That's quite a judgement call there Katie. If they are happy to just have some casual sex, I can't see that they are giving up their self respect. They're just having fun.

[Only-yours]

You don't ask him out and you don't act like a giggly school girl.

 

You DO look your best, you DO make a point to be known for who you are/what you are involved in/what you stand out at (clubs, athletics, organizations you belong to) and you smile when/if you see him looking at you.

 

He has girls chasing him...so do NOT do that. Let him come to YOU.

 

A guy who has girls chasing him does not give a F*uck about any girl who wants him to run after her like a street dog. The problem with many women is that they want guys to run after them like street dogs. Unfortunately, many females think that it is OK to view every male as a dog who runs after women.

[stillafool]

So basically they are ready to possibly give up their self-respect both in front of him and everyone else, as long as they get multiple chances to sleep with him, like one of his many toys who have put him on a pedestal?

 

Yeah Katie, much like this:

 

Haha, I have actually considered the "full steam" approach to begin with.

What should I do if I attempt that?

Just dress in tight revealing clothes, call him hot and encourage him to touch me?

 

All of you girls have the same idea. This guy probably has a gf who goes to another school and won't get serious about any of the girls that are after him at your school except for sex.

[d0nnivain]

Well, um, one of my friends cautioned me that apparently this guy has a habit of dating 3-4 girls at the same time, and it's always purely about sex to him, so that would mean that he generally strives for casual group sex.

Not sure what to feel about that one, since I would prefer to be with him in private.

 

You can prefer whatever you want. You can feel however you want. What you can't do is change him or his preferences.

 

This guy is not about monogram. If exclusivity is your goal, he's not your guy.

 

Stop focusing on him & go find a nice boy who will be the kind of BF you want.

[Only-yours]

Well, um, one of my friends cautioned me that apparently this guy has a habit of dating 3-4 girls at the same time, and it's always purely about sex to him, so that would mean that he generally strives for casual group sex.

Not sure what to feel about that one, since I would prefer to be with him in private.

 

Maybe your friend is lying to you, so that she could divert your attention and make him her BF?

[BreakOnThrough]

8, 9 and 10 women don't typically have sex casually, they are top tier and are always able to get into relationships, which most if not all women want, they are pursued endlessly, even by top ties males, and they are ALWAYS the gatekeepers to sex, more often than not, contingent by a commitment (relationship). Overall, they NEVER need to chase. All males who receive vast amounts of female attention KNOW this and will NEVER respect ANY woman who chases him, there are strictly for sex and sex alone, a good time. Now, if that is your only desire, go for it, but NEVER be fooled to believe you will EVER be more, based on everything I said above.