nepenthe Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 There's a guy I had a crush on (long distance, have yet to meet) and we'd been mutually flirty over the Summer, but he got together with another girl early this Fall. We haven't talked as much but over Christmas he texted: “Happy holidays precious little jewel.” It seemed strange considering his new relationship and I know the girl thinks he loves her. She's actually pretty obsessive over him. Was this text loaded / inappropriate or am I reading too much into it? Wondering if I should even reply. Thanks in advance for any advice! Link to post Share on other sites
UltimateSoprano1 Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 It is inappropriate and it is loaded but I don't think you're reading the right things into it. The holidays are a time that exes, lovers etc. use to make themselves visible again. He made his choice and he is simply trying to make a place in your thoughts until he's ready to make you an option again. I do not recommend you reply but if you do, three words maximum. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 Text back, "sorry wrong number" and stick to it if he replies... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 I think I'd send back a meme of Gollum saying "My Precious" 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted December 29, 2018 Share Posted December 29, 2018 , but he got together with another girl early this Fall. We haven't talked as much but over Christmas he texted: “Happy holidays precious little jewel.”To me it seems more condescending than 'inappropriate'; and like he just wants to keep you on a string for when/if he's current choice falls off the rails. Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs._December Posted December 30, 2018 Share Posted December 30, 2018 Something tells me that lame text wasn't for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 30, 2018 Share Posted December 30, 2018 Something tells me that lame text wasn't for you. This is exactly what I thought plus he sounds drunk. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author nepenthe Posted December 30, 2018 Author Share Posted December 30, 2018 To me it seems more condescending than 'inappropriate'; and like he just wants to keep you on a string for when/if he's current choice falls off the rails. Interesting insight there, I sort of got that vibe from it as well. We hadn't spoken for a month and he sent that text just hours after I decided to deactivate my Facebook profile through the holidays - almost like he noticed and fired that off to see if I'd blocked him or his number. I just found it very odd to say. Though we've never met, behavior patterns suggest he might be a covert narcissist, so the "on a string" thing would make perfect sense. He pursued me pretty intensely until I wasn't fawning all over him and wasn't available last minute. The girl he ultimately 'chose' has certainly been responding with the adulation and lack of boundaries I could not. I'm thinking he doesn't appreciate that I took myself off his shelf. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted December 30, 2018 Share Posted December 30, 2018 I'm thinking he doesn't appreciate that I took myself off his shelf.It's not that he does not 'appreciate' it, but that he does not like it. For narcissists, there is a HUGE difference between the two. When you 'got the vibe' that he's trying to string you along, your vibe is probably right. Right? If you haven't already blocked, unfriended and otherwise deleted and ejected him from all aspects and levels of your life...why not? What are you waiting for? Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 Did you ever reply? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 It's him trying to keep his options open. Ignore it & him. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted January 27, 2019 Share Posted January 27, 2019 over Christmas he texted: “Happy holidays precious little jewel.” Was this text loaded Not to me. inappropriate Not to me. or am I reading too much into it? Looks like it. Wondering if I should even reply. How about a standard "Merry Christmas". It would have been innocuous and no big deal. But now Christmas is over, so you can now text "Happy 2019". Link to post Share on other sites
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