Should I Say Anything?

[birdybird7775]

This post is about my roommate. We are both guys and have been friends for years. He has been through quite a lot and doesn't think very well of himself...at all. There was a girl (I will call her Anna) that worked with him last year, and they both really liked each other. Before their feelings grew, and she had a feeling he liked her, she said about meeting up for coffee and he rejected himself and talked down about himself as a person. Being the shy, awkward person he is he didn't really have a clue what to do as both their feelings for each other grew. Where they worked wasn't the best place to have feelings for someone, as it seemed everybody was in everybody else's business. I saw her one time, and he was so shy he didn't even introduce us even though he had mentioned her before to me, but he did look at her the whole 2 hours (a party after work). A few months went by and Anna was let go from work. She didn't do anything wrong...the people they worked with were prejudice, so much so that a guy they worked with told her to kill herself on Facebook at one point, relating it to work. The place they worked with kept the horrible person and got rid of her so they didn't have to deal with it. My buddy knew all along she wouldn't be coming back, but she thought she was. He blamed himself terribly. When she found out she tried contacting him in different ways to talk to him, but he basically ended up ghosting her by blocking her on each outlet she tried to reach him with. I heard the voicemail with her crying extremely bad. It was horrible, he blamed himself. I didn't know what to say.

 

Fast forward. I knew how badly he hurt, and had a feeling up until everything happened that he loved her. I discovered last year he made an extra Facebook profile just so he could see what he could of her page. They were still connected on one platform, and I know he looked at her stuff there too. I came across 5 emails she sent him this year, 3 where more recent. She told him how much she loved and cared for him, talked about things they both said they wanted to do with their lives etc., and while she did say a lot in those areas, more importantly she tried to build him up...they have a lot in common. I knew nothing of these. He obviously didn't delete them, tell her to stop, tell anyone. While he didn't reply, I can say they aren't emails he is reading just to get a kick out of, he isn't like that and I would have been the first to know and hear about them if he thought it funny.

 

I do want to add that I found out Anna ran into him at another place he works part-time. They haven't said anything to each other, but she brought up to him in one of the letters about how much he looks at her and tries to let her know he is around and sees her, which isn't a lot, maybe twice a month. She said he wouldn't do that if he didn't still have feelings for her.

 

The thing is he is with someone from work now. I never thought it was serious and don't think it is. I know the people where he works used to be on his butt about not having a girlfriend. Not too long after it was posted on Facebook that they were going out a bunch of people from work friended him. It is weird, like he is trying to be accepted by these other people he really doesn't care for.

 

Should I bring up to him about what know? It isn't fair to his new girlfriend for him to be reading emails from Anna. Anna has no clue of course. If he wasn't over her and didn't have feelings he wouldn't read them, and would have said stop...or better yet blocked her. Should I say anything or just let it go?

Edited December 29, 2018 by birdybird7775

[Cersei]

You seem pretty nosey. Stay out of their business and worry about your own life.

[Mr. Lucky]

Don't see why any of this is your business and it's disconcerting the level to which you've already inserted yourself into his romantic affairs. Let him make his own conquests and mistakes, reap the gains and suffer the losses, that's how life works. If you want to be a friend, be there for him when he wants to talk about it.

 

Is there a lack of things going on in your own life?

 

Mr. Lucky