I threw up in my boyfriend's bed last night. SO embarrassed....

[parkerbrook]

my boyfriend of about 5 months invited me over to sleep over last night because his family was away. (I'm 22 and he's 21). since I was staying over, we had a couple drinks. I hadn't eaten anything all day, but I thought a couple drinks wouldn't hurt me. we both got drunk and had a great night, had sex and fell asleep together in his bed. a couple hours later I woke up because I was all of a sudden throwing up. I didn't even have time to make it to the bathroom. I was SO embarrassed, it was in my hair, all over his sheets... it was gross. he had to strip his bed and throw them in the wash, and he told me to go shower. I did, but when I came back down he was really angry at me, rightfully so. I started crying my eyes out (partly because I was still drunk), but mostly because I felt SO bad and kept apologizing to him and could see that I upset him. he told me he hated seeing me cry and wanted me to stop crying. he sat with me while I cried, then I eventually fell asleep on his couch and he went up and slept in his parents' bed.

 

in the morning, I got up and finished his laundry for him and put his bed back together while he was still sleeping. he came in and immediately hugged and kissed me, and didn't seem upset anymore. I told him how embarrassed I was and kept apologizing for what happened and he kept saying "it's okay". when I went home he told me to text him when I got home, then we talked a little bit more. he keeps saying it's okay when I say sorry, but I can't help but feel like he's just being nice, and I'm scared he's not going to want anything to do with me anymore now that he's seen me at a really low (and gross) point like that... I really like this guy and I'm so afraid I've messed it all up. has anyone had any similar situations or just have any thoughts on this that can help?

[Normm]

I see 2 problems here.

 

 

1- He gets angry too easily.

2- You drink too much.

[Lotus_Luna]

my boyfriend of about 5 months invited me over to sleep over last night because his family was away. (I'm 22 and he's 21). since I was staying over, we had a couple drinks. I hadn't eaten anything all day, but I thought a couple drinks wouldn't hurt me. we both got drunk and had a great night, had sex and fell asleep together in his bed. a couple hours later I woke up because I was all of a sudden throwing up. I didn't even have time to make it to the bathroom. I was SO embarrassed, it was in my hair, all over his sheets... it was gross. he had to strip his bed and throw them in the wash, and he told me to go shower. I did, but when I came back down he was really angry at me, rightfully so. I started crying my eyes out (partly because I was still drunk), but mostly because I felt SO bad and kept apologizing to him and could see that I upset him. he told me he hated seeing me cry and wanted me to stop crying. he sat with me while I cried, then I eventually fell asleep on his couch and he went up and slept in his parents' bed.

 

in the morning, I got up and finished his laundry for him and put his bed back together while he was still sleeping. he came in and immediately hugged and kissed me, and didn't seem upset anymore. I told him how embarrassed I was and kept apologizing for what happened and he kept saying "it's okay". when I went home he told me to text him when I got home, then we talked a little bit more. he keeps saying it's okay when I say sorry, but I can't help but feel like he's just being nice, and I'm scared he's not going to want anything to do with me anymore now that he's seen me at a really low (and gross) point like that... I really like this guy and I'm so afraid I've messed it all up. has anyone had any similar situations or just have any thoughts on this that can help?

 

Its embarrassing but everyone pukes... dont let it eat at you. I dont like talking about my reproductive organs but last night I was going on and on about the pain in my ovary.

 

We all have bodies and they have bodily functions.

[Normm]

I see 2 more problems here.

 

 

 

3- He hates it when you cry. Rather than trying to comfort you he makes it all about him.

4- You respond to his anger by feeling badly.

[Giraffe-A]

That was very uncool of him to react that way. If he starts ignoring you, realize that he just saved you from a crappy relationship. You also need to stop drinking so much. There’s nothing attractive about it.

[Garcon1986]

From the medical professional's perspective - if you drink so much you vomit, that isn't healthy my friend

[parkerbrook]

guys thanks so much for all your input, but I do NOT drink often, and I didn't even drink that much last night. I just had nothing to eat all day and I had 2 tall drinks, as did he. he actually had more. I am really not a heavy drinker.

[Normm]

Ok lets put your drinking aside as it's an aberration and not really what you do.

 

The rest of it is troubling. His angry reaction, you feeling so bad about it and him "hating that you cry".

 

He's rather lacking in compassion, quick to anger, and you seem to have some serious self esteem issues where you put him on some sort of pedestal while you are begging for forgiveness as if you are a lesser person.

 

I suggest you take a different approach. "I puked in your bed because you didn't give me food and kept serving me alcohol. Do it again and I'll puke all over YOU!"

 

See the difference?

[amaysngrace]

Why didn’t you eat anything for a whole day?

 

That sounds worse unhealthy than drinking two drinks.

[Garcon1986]

Alcohol is absorbed faster when you've been hungry.

[Normm]

Alcohol is absorbed faster when you've been hungry.

 

 

Alcohol is absorbed faster when your stomach is empty.

[thefooloftheyear]

So what if he got mad(didnt sound like he was apoplectic over it.).??

 

As long as he didn't carry on with it(sounds like he didn't), don't sweat it...

 

Lesson learned...

 

Nothing good ever comes from getting blind drunk....Nothing..Be glad it wasn't worse...There are video's all over the internet of stumbling drunk women with half their clothes hanging off puking in the street, while crowds of people are mocking/laughing at them.....This is nothing, really IMO, and won't be much more than something you laugh about every once in a while...

 

TFY

[d0nnivain]

You had too much to drink & got sick. It's unfortunate & embarrassing.

 

He initially reacted badly but he & his bed were covered in puke. The smell alone makes me gag & that makes me curt. Nobody likes to deal with somebody else's puke.

 

In the cold light of day he managed to pull it together & reassure you.

 

In the long run, things we be fine. You will laugh about it in time. For now just carry on. Stop obsessing about it.

 

 

On our 1st roadtrip together as BF/GF, my now husband & I were asleep in the back of the car after a weekend of partying. I had gone to bed hours before him the night before & did not know how much he'd had to drink. That morning he had a milkshake. He was drowsy & hungover when he yawned in the back of my friend's car -- all over me, him, her, the ceiling . . . just yuck. She quickly as possible pulled off the interstate into a truck stop so we could all get cleaned up. As I was literally sprinting away from my BF to get to a bathroom to clean the puke off me & get rid of the smell so I could stop myself from vomiting, he yelled "I love you!". I blew him off, said something about yeah me too & kept running. When we are being silly we now make fake gag noises at each other to mean I love you. It's dumb but we worked with it & turned a positive into a negative. My friend still won't let DH into her car if he's been drinking. lol It's not the end of the world.

[See-Me-Feel-Me]

Give him some latitude for having been rousted from sleep after you both "got drunk". He seems to have gotten over it. It's not a deal-breaker--or shouldn't be. Personally, I might say something like "OH FOR CRISSAKE!" maybe a couple of times, but I wouldn't be mad AT YOU. He may have just been annoyed at the situation but not at you. Try not to internalize that it's a "thing" where he blames you and cease blaming yourself. Men--especially hung-over ones--vocalize over situations (shi+, god damn it, et al) but don't necessarily fault and blame. Only *******s do that.

[Wallysbears]

You’re 21 and 22 and got overly drunk by accident and puked.

 

It’s not the end of the world.

 

Always eat something. And drink a glass of water for every drink you have.

 

And I promise, you will laugh at this one day.

[guest569]

Omg people, she had 2 drinks. Calm down.

 

I don’t think you should be so embarrassed, it’s some puke and you remade the clean bed the next morning. You’ve been together 5 months, but you don’t sound very secure or comfortable. He seems to have overreacted but maybe he was just tired and grumpy. Not very supportive. You can stop apologising. Puke happens.

[snowboy91]

I think things are fine. I'd be pretty annoyed if someone was sick and puked all through my bed and on me, but I wouldn't hold it against whoever did it forever. He's probably more angry at the situation rather than at you - now the situation is over, and he's no longer annoyed.

 

In all relationships you will see each other at your worst. I think he's definitely moved past it - and hopefully in time you will see this as a funny story you can share with each other.

[Logo]

I've seen worse. Don't sweat it. If he's understanding and caring he should be quiet and supportive and pretend like nothing happened.

[Cersei]

Meh don't sweat it. Yeah he got a bit mad initially but he was likely just grossed out.

 

When I was about 16 I was riding in the back of a car in the middle. It was a 2 door. Some guy farted and it was so bad that I needed to throw up. As we climbed out his girlfriend who was on the outside was slow getting out. I threw up all over her. She was wearing the farter's jacket at the time!

 

Accidents happen.

[grays]

I’m with Normm. I can imagine feeling frustrated in his shoes but I’d never show it like that. My first impulse would be to try to make you feel better about it.

[Art_Critic]

First off... no real biggie.. it happens to more than you think...

Learn from it and just don't drink to that point when partying...

 

As far as what others are talking about regarding his reaction...

I only have this to go by as I've never had someone vomit in my bed however..

My son when very young would crawl in our bed at night and then sometime in the night pee thru his diaper to the point it soaked the sheets and me/wife..

More than once he did that.. in fact many times and I can't ever remember being mad or angry and all we did was clean it up and change the sheets and I happen to have a quick temper...

 

FWIW....

[thefooloftheyear]

First off... no real biggie.. it happens to more than you think...

Learn from it and just don't drink to that point when partying...

 

As far as what others are talking about regarding his reaction...

I only have this to go by as I've never had someone vomit in my bed however..

My son when very young would crawl in our bed at night and then sometime in the night pee thru his diaper to the point it soaked the sheets and me/wife..

More than once he did that.. in fact many times and I can't ever remember being mad or angry and all we did was clean it up and change the sheets and I happen to have a quick temper...

 

FWIW....

 

You tolerate a lot of that stuff from your kids, because they are young, innocent, don't know any better, and they are your blood..I did too with my kid..

 

When some woman that you haven't been with for even 6 months, gets stone drunk and tosses cookies in the place where you lie your head every night, ...well...a little leeway for this guy to get pissed is in order...

 

Its a natural reaction, imo….As long as he didn't make it a huge issue, then its understandable..

 

TFY

[Els]

Why didn't you eat anything all day? Alcohol is absorbed much more easily on an empty stomach.

 

I'll be honest, if a boyfriend of 5 months drank on an empty stomach and puked all over my sheets, I'd be miffed. Firstly 5 months is a really short time, secondly it was completely avoidable, thirdly being woken up in the middle of the night to the sight and smell of vomit really sucks. We're not exactly talking about a long-term partner vomiting from chemotherapy or a wife vomiting from morning sickness here.

 

I do think this incident is mostly sorted, but in the future please eat normally and be aware of how intoxicated you are.