Otter2569 Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 My GF is probably the worst gift giver ever. Now I am far from materialistic and do not need or ask for much but I know thoughtless gifts when I get them. For two years in a row I received pretty crappy stuff. I, on the other hand, look for things I think she would enjoy and things I know she likes. This year she got sad (after opening her gifts) that she didn't get me anything thoughtful. Of course I said it was no big deal BUT it does suck - so much so that I held back on giving a gift certificate to our favorite restaurant. Again its the complete lack of thought and effort that went into this... Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 Did you give her any hints?? My girlfriend just asks me what I want... And for her, she tells me what she wants/needs. You may have to just give her a list next year. Some people are hard to buy for. Link to post Share on other sites
Geraltt Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I'd suggest to simply not take this personally. (So much of one's life can be made easier by not taking things personally.) I have no idea why she's like this, but it looks like getting gifts for others simply isn't her strong suit. She did express some regret about her gift to you being somewhat less than spectacular, which to me means she recognizes the inequity. I'd go with what Happy Lemming suggested: don't make her guess. Give her hints. And she may need the dots put very, very close together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted December 31, 2018 Author Share Posted December 31, 2018 Did you give her any hints?? My girlfriend just asks me what I want... And for her, she tells me what she wants/needs. You may have to just give her a list next year. Some people are hard to buy for. Well I found it odd that we never ever discussed gift giving or exchanged ideas prior to the holidays. I wont make that mistake again! LOL I did tell her I wanted a memory foam pillow and she did buy me two. I'm guessing I just need to be crystal clear. For my birthday I did ask for a few things (suspecting it would be a flop if I didn't) and did get everything I asked for (a few $15 to $20 items). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted December 31, 2018 Author Share Posted December 31, 2018 I'd suggest to simply not take this personally... I'd go with what Happy Lemming suggested: don't make her guess. Give her hints. And she may need the dots put very, very close together. That is definitely the way to go. I think I am pretty obvious but maybe not. l don't see her buying thoughtful gifts for anyone in her life so its not just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Giraffe-A Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I listen to people all year round for hints. I pay attention to what their favorite shops are and what colors they like. It makes gift shopping so much easier. And it’s really cool that people do it for me too as I know they notice my habits. I get a bunch of DD gift cards from my nieces to my bosses as I always carry ice coffee around. Just listen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
See-Me-Feel-Me Posted December 31, 2018 Share Posted December 31, 2018 I say, just give and don't waste too much on what you get. I for one, just want peace and love. And giving well without expecting helps. That's not to fault you--how bad is it? Candle? Potpourri? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted December 31, 2018 Author Share Posted December 31, 2018 I say, just give and don't waste too much on what you get. I for one, just want peace and love. And giving well without expecting helps. That's not to fault you--how bad is it? Candle? Potpourri? I really don't want much or ask for anything but that approach clearly sucks...unless you like oven mitts, dish towels or protective pillow covers. I am really damn predictable: craft beer, cigars, lingerie (for her to wear), steak, grilling, restaurant gift certificate... Going forward I need to give a list...and or expect random kitchen utensils! Link to post Share on other sites
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