Author Otter2569 Posted January 1, 2019 Author Share Posted January 1, 2019 Why aren't you going out as much etc? Farting honestly doesn't bother either of us, lol. Just not a big deal for us. But the other issues that you mention - not going out on dates or having sex etc - would be a concern to us. If it bothers you, fair enough. Reinvigorating the romance/intimacy takes two, but either one of you can take the initiative to start trying. Why not take her out on a date this weekend? Staying in has a lot to do with the holidays, family activities and two unexpected car repairs. Plus here in the North East its cold and dark by 430 so too easy to curl up on the couch with a cocktail and a blanket. Normal farting is not a big deal - it happens and we all do it. It hasn't quite escalated to dorm room farting with your college buddies but its not far off. Perhaps increased farting is a passive aggressive sign of frustration in other areas? I am not a fart whisperer but its definitely a recent phenominon. Link to post Share on other sites
dream of me Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Can't help but laugh while reading this topic, even though I can understand why you feel that way. It could be a sign of comfort (if I remember my parents!) but I personally try to be discreet in front of a SO, at least silent There have been accidental obvious ones, but because they were rare they evoked laugh and affection. By the way I've heard that some people are very much into it as a fetish! There's someone for everyone I suppose? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 1, 2019 Author Share Posted January 1, 2019 Can't help but laugh while reading this topic, even though I can understand why you feel that way. It could be a sign of comfort (if I remember my parents!) but I personally try to be discreet in front of a SO, at least silent There have been accidental obvious ones, but because they were rare they evoked laugh and affection. By the way I've heard that some people are very much into it as a fetish! There's someone for everyone I suppose? LOL next time we are in bed and she rips one (or I do) I'll pull the covers up over her head and hold them. When she asks WTF I am doing I'll say that I thought she was developing a fart fetish and wanted to play along Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Which would turn into a lethal weapon if pressure wasn't released regularly. Motorcycle helmet with face shield wold be mandatory, maybe some light body armor too 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Get and read the book "Dealing With a Passive Aggressive Fart Partner". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 1, 2019 Author Share Posted January 1, 2019 Get and read the book "Dealing With a Passive Aggressive Fart Partner". The reviews all say it stinks 2 Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 Can you tell her it kills the attraction without her getting upset? I think as a woman I'd prefer to know. I've been reading that couples shouldn't do too much bodily functions in front of each other if they can help as it does kill attraction. Maybe show her an article on it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 1, 2019 Author Share Posted January 1, 2019 Can you tell her it kills the attraction without her getting upset? I think as a woman I'd prefer to know. I've been reading that couples shouldn't do too much bodily functions in front of each other if they can help as it does kill attraction. Maybe show her an article on it? In all seriousness that is what I need to do. If she gets upset then so be it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 In all of my 46 years on earth I have never intentionally farted in front of a partner. Or anyone. It is rude, in my opinion, because farts smell! I think my ex-husband probably only heard me fart unintentionally maybe 5 times in our entire 14 year marriage, and at least 3 of them were when I was in labor. Nobody should be doing this. I also feel the same way about constant spitting. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 My thoughts exactly: it happens, you should be comfortable and understanding. Coming out of the shower naked, holding your arms out looking for a hug then ripping one as I begin to approach is not my idea of cute and funny...and will definitely NOT result in a hug. If it happens, you should furrow your brow to show you still have some standards, and then studiously ignore it, while finding a quiet place to go lose it laughing. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 In all of my 46 years on earth I have never intentionally farted in front of a partner. Or anyone. It is rude, in my opinion, because farts smell! I think my ex-husband probably only heard me fart unintentionally maybe 5 times in our entire 14 year marriage, and at least 3 of them were when I was in labor. Nobody should be doing this. I also feel the same way about constant spitting. My dad used to fart on purpose to make my little girlfriends laugh. No wonder my mom slept in her own room on the other end of the house. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted January 1, 2019 Share Posted January 1, 2019 If two people are ok with it then great, but clearly you're not (I wouldn't be either). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 2, 2019 Author Share Posted January 2, 2019 In all of my 46 years on earth I have never intentionally farted in front of a partner. Or anyone. It is rude, in my opinion, because farts smell! I think my ex-husband probably only heard me fart unintentionally maybe 5 times in our entire 14 year marriage, and at least 3 of them were when I was in labor. Nobody should be doing this. I also feel the same way about constant spitting. Its like I entered the farting twilight zone or something! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 LOL next time we are in bed and she rips one (or I do) I'll pull the covers up over her head and hold them. When she asks WTF I am doing I'll say that I thought she was developing a fart fetish and wanted to play along They call that a "Dutch Oven" in these parts... TFY Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 I've known my husband since we were young....I still don't want to fart around him. Sometimes life happens and things slip, or you get sick, but it shouldn't be a daily event. I know his ex-wife and her family were more comfortable about it, and she'd also leave the bathroom door open while sitting on the toilet. Some things should just be kept private to preserve the attraction. It isn't a barnyard. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 (edited) I don't think an adult couple, no matter how long they've been together, should get to the point that they are passing gas out loud and in the vicinity of one another. Absent a medical condition, I feel that there is a level of discretion that should be maintained, regardless of the comfort level. Just my two cents. Edited January 2, 2019 by Logo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
zouz71 Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 if you love her you won't mind her farts , if you are sweeting and she loves you she won't mind it either Link to post Share on other sites
Author Otter2569 Posted January 2, 2019 Author Share Posted January 2, 2019 They call that a "Dutch Oven" in these parts... TFY That's what they call it here too! Didn't know how widely recognized that was LOL Link to post Share on other sites
ChatroomHero Posted January 2, 2019 Share Posted January 2, 2019 In all of my 46 years on earth I have never intentionally farted in front of a partner. Or anyone. It is rude, in my opinion, because farts smell! I think my ex-husband probably only heard me fart unintentionally maybe 5 times in our entire 14 year marriage, and at least 3 of them were when I was in labor. Nobody should be doing this. I also feel the same way about constant spitting. I have had friends fart in a room and I am always mad because it's like, just step into the bathroom or another room for 10 seconds when someone else is around. To me, intentionally is just gross...Like here, smell my poop wind. In a SO, for me it would probably be a deal breaker. Unintentionally on the other hand is usually pretty funny. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
greymatter Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 Maintaining attraction in a relationship is hugely important, and farting is totally a dealbreaker. My ex husband used to do it around me frequently and between that and other things, I had zero attraction for him. In my relationship now, we would never do that around each other and I plan to keep it that way. I would never do that in front of anyone, male or female. Actually, when my son was younger I jokingly told him "women don't fart" and he believed me because he never witnessed it. Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 In all of my 46 years on earth I have never intentionally farted in front of a partner. Or anyone. It is rude, in my opinion, because farts smell! I think my ex-husband probably only heard me fart unintentionally maybe 5 times in our entire 14 year marriage, and at least 3 of them were when I was in labor. Nobody should be doing this. I also feel the same way about constant spitting. Agreed. Bodily functions are sometimes unavoidable, but you should never act around an SO as you would act around your college buddies. With the exception of my dog, I would not do it in front of anyone. Not sure how she feels about it lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Geraltt Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 With the exception of my dog, I would not do it in front of anyone. Not sure how she feels about it lol. My SO's dog, a little poodle-something (not really sure of her lineage) could clear Yankee Stadium at 400 yards. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 Agreed. Bodily functions are sometimes unavoidable, but you should never act around an SO as you would act around your college buddies. With the exception of my dog, I would not do it in front of anyone. Not sure how she feels about it lol. Even dogs and cats are sometimes freaked out by it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 5, 2019 Share Posted January 5, 2019 I've never known anybody special enough to make me get out of a warm bed to go fart somewhere else. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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