manfrombelow2 Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 It is by no way "normal" for a grown adult man to be naked in front of a kid (in this case, a female kid). If I were you, I'd have some serious conversation with him. Link to post Share on other sites
mrs rubble Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 It is by no way "normal" for a grown adult man to be naked in front of a kid (in this case, a female kid). If I were you, I'd have some serious conversation with him. I disagree, it should be normal for children to experience nudity around their family. There is no shame in accepting our naked bodies and the more comfortable they are with it the better. This guy is sleeping naked with a prepubescent daughter and new girlfriend that’s where this gets inappropriate in my opinion. Ewww! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
edgygirl Posted January 8, 2019 Share Posted January 8, 2019 My German ex said it's normal there to see both parent's bodies naked often as a child. It's just a "natural" thing he said. Depends on the culture I guess? And for the record, they're older parents, and his father was the president of a large company abroad. So it's not like they're some hippies comfy in being naked or so. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 8, 2019 Share Posted January 8, 2019 My German ex said it's normal there to see both parent's bodies naked often as a child. It's just a "natural" thing he said. Depends on the culture I guess? And for the record, they're older parents, and his father was the president of a large company abroad. So it's not like they're some hippies comfy in being naked or so. The Germans have always been famed for their tolerance of nudity. We in the UK are pretty buttoned up. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/general-election-2015/politics-blog/11664860/Naked-rambler-why-have-we-spent-300000-imprisoning-this-harmless-eccentric.html Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 8, 2019 Share Posted January 8, 2019 (edited) My German ex said it's normal there to see both parent's bodies naked often as a child. It's just a "natural" thing he said. Depends on the culture I guess? Without a doubt, there are differences between cultures in how people view nudity and cosleeping. I will say it again, the difference here is the age of the child and the fact that they are sleeping in the same bed when he is naked (with his girlfriend, not the child's mother). As a young child, I saw my parents naked when they were changing. We probably showered together, no big deal. The naked body is "natural" and there is no shame in talking about or seeing your parents naked body. But as kids get older, we start to teach them about their bodies and we start to educate them about many things. Many parents will teach their children when it's appropriate to show their bodies, and when it's not. They will have many conversations with their pre-teen and teenage children, helping their children to understand which clothing is appropriate to wear in different situations. Children who have previously coslept with their parents, often begin to want their own personal space (although some cultures will share a family bed for a long time). They may come less frequently to sleep with their parents, and eventually stop altogether. We also start to teach children how to be safe - we educate them about child predators and sexual abuse. We teach them that their body is their own, not to be viewed or touched without their permission or consent. A child at this age should be starting to learn these things. Which is why I find it odd and inappropriate - not necessarily that the child sleeps in the same bed with her father - but that he doesn't have the good judgment not to expose himself to his pre-teen daughter and bring another woman who is not the child's mother into the same bed. If the mother was bringing her boyfriend into bed with her daughter, particulalry if the boyfriend was naked, people would be telling OP to call CPS. This isn't necessarily a discussion about cosleeping or cultural differences related to nudity... This may be the child's father, it doesn't mean that she is not at risk of being sexually abused. Just saying... Edited January 8, 2019 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted January 8, 2019 Share Posted January 8, 2019 My background isn't exactly your average American - I'm half German and half Russian, with both my parents having a VERY foreign streak. I'm here to tell you - it isn't normal for parents to hang out naked with their kids, especially those of the opposite sex. Yes, sleeping together happens. Often as a result of poverty. But usually children will sleep together, especially when they are younger. But closer to the teen years, even having kids of opposite sexes sleeping together isn't the norm. If for no other reason, remember "morning wood." Awkward.... Link to post Share on other sites
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