Being stalked & terrorized by ex-boyfriends new girlfriend

[venusinlibra]

My ex was very abusive and stalked me for months- he still does. I posted about him in 2016 & 2017. He has actually been diagnosed as a narcissist.

 

After 22 months of my being NC with him, I get word via a Google Alerts with my name smeared and address posted all over the internet, that I am insanely jealous of Girl X, because she is dating the man I’ve been stalking for two years who rejected me!

 

Lol. His spin on it is very interesting and police are actively pursuing stalking charges on him, although they have not contacted him yet. He has stalked me relentlessly, even using drones over a 50 mile radius.

 

Girl X had been the only mutual Facebook friend we had. I think that’s why he picked her. I previously heard him smear her as ugly, flat chested, crazy, etc. I hung out with her twice in 2017, and realized she was deeply disturbed. I was actually too afraid to unfriend her...she was that scary. So I just made a new Facebook.

 

The actual police chief threatened her with arrest if she didn’t leave me alobe. Girl X kept it up. She sent me threatening texts, photoshopped pictures of me, altered governmental records to make it look as if I’m a convicted felon, and sent several others to terrorize me. It’s very scary how she increased her information gathering on me.

 

I up and moved from the home I’d been renting for four years. I think she found my new place, and the police do too because of the vandalism at my new home.

 

I hired a lawyer who sent her a letter to stop and that he is drafting a lawsuit to be filed on Monday. She actually called my lawyer and asked if he was real! And then she kept up stuff, having my boyfriend’s FB deleted, hacking my FB and changing settings that I am bi-sexual, which I’m not.

 

All the while, the ex is allowed to appear innocent and stay around her. I found out from another girl he claimed to have dated after me that he is obsessed with me and pits girls against each other to try and feel better. It’s so hard to stay silent while the truth is uncovered. He has been trying for 28 months to make everyone hate me, simply because I dumped him.

 

I do know that a large organization strongly suspects my ex for hacking or heir servers to get my contact info every time I changed my number. They are trying to prove it, then kick him out, and hopefully press charges on him.

 

Right now, I so want him to just abandon her to deal with the reprucussions. In the end, I know that I’ll be victorious with both being arrested and the story on the news due to him being a captain of major airline. But it would give me joy to see her discarded. I don’t want anything to do with him- I hate his guts and his personality is ugly, and his looks have drastically declined since I dated him. I’m just so sick of him for all of this time, recruiting others to harass me. For the record, he was once diagnosed as a narcissist, having st least six out the nine criterion.

 

Any tips for dealing with it? The police are sooo slow because they are understaffed and overworked. I just want to wipe that smug grin off of his face.

Edited January 6, 2019 by venusinlibra

[ExpatInItaly]

Any tips on how to deal with this should come from your lawyer, OP.

 

This is not a relationship issue anymore. It's a legal one. Don't try to take any of this into your own hands. Whether or not he discards her is completely irrelevant at this point.

[stillafool]

Do you have restraining orders on the exboyfriend and his new girl filed yet?

[d0nnivain]

You are doing everything right with the police & the lawyer. Keep listening to them.

[Rayce]

How scary! I am so sorry that you are having to go through this after so long of NC... yes do whatever you need to protect yourself. I think too many people take stalking lightly instead of seeing it for the danger it really is. Do you have a home alarm system? it's worth the $35 a month. Being a survivor of such a situation myself I also have a CWP.

[venusinlibra]

I have a major update!

 

But first, thanks to all of you for your support and encouragement.

 

I have to find a new lawyer. The one who sent the letter got all scared of the reply from the other lawyer.

 

Now, Girl X has only been warned to stop by the police chief. That was October 11th. So she really shouldn’t know that she’s being investigated by police. The detective was going to call her one day next week. That would be her first call from a detective.

 

Get this:

 

Girl X hired a white collar criminal defense lawyer! What the heck? Why lawyer up before a detective even calls?

 

Think the police will grow even more suspicious of Girl X now?

Edited January 9, 2019 by venusinlibra

[ExpatInItaly]

What does that even mean? Your lawyer declined to continue representing you, or?

 

How do you know what sort of lawyer this other woman hired, and that is directly related to your case? She might have other charges pending, for all you know. So no, it doesn't necessarily mean the police will be more suspicious of her with regards to her behaviour toward you. Is the detective actually going to call her? You say he was going to, so I'm not clear if that plan has now changed for some reason.

 

I have to be honest, I feel there are a lot of pieces missing from your version of events. It would be helpful if you could connect the dots a little more.

Edited January 11, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator