I originially posted this in wrong place...

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Okay, this one is complicated. Please bear with me.

 

There is this guy named Sam that I worked with and had classes with at school (we're in grad school). I met him when I tried to set him up with a friend. The setup didn't work and I discovered that we had a lot in common. But I had a boyfriend, Ryan...soon afterwards, Sam had a girlfriend.

 

Well, me and Sam always flirt with each other. We tease each other mercilessly, which has always irritated Ryan and Sam's girlfriend...Sam's girlfriend always acts very cold toward me and has mentioned to him that he gravitates toward me too much.

 

Well, people at work started to catch on. It even got so bad that my friends staged an intervention...telling me that me and Sam have something great and that if I don't pursue it, I'll live to regret it (this is while I was dating Ryan, who had a notoriously bad temper). Meanwhile, Ryan has been dropping hints to friends that he is only with this girl (Sally, I'll call her) because he's lonely. Not coming right out and saying it, but... he's confided to me since the kiss that they have been having huge problems.

 

Well, things with me and Ryan spiraled out of control. Right after I threw him out of our apartment (breaking up with him) I had to call the cops one night to get him out of my apartment because his temper flared up and he was cussing at me and my best friend. Sam insisted to me that I call him the next time anything like this happens and to call him before he calls the cops.

 

Well, I'm getting to a point. A little while after this happened, he met up with me and some friends at a dance club. He had been drinking a little bit, which was obvious when the first thing he did was kiss me on the cheek in front of everyone and wrap his arm around my waist.

 

We went out on the dance floor and he began dancing with me. Well, with our faces in front of each other it didn't take long before we began kissing. It was great!! Then suddenly he pulls back, saying he thinks he made a mistake. I tell him that if he's uncomfortable, I can leave. He says no, then kisses me again. During this time, he is not taking his eyes off of mine. He keeps kissing me again and again and again, telling me he's sorry, he has to leave. I tell him at the least I can walk him out. He grabs my hand and squeezes it tight. Right before he left, he told me he was sorry again and gave me a deep kiss.

 

Fast forward a couple of days. He finally calls back, saying that he had wanted to call sooner--and had picked up the phone--but was too embarassed to call me. He was scared that I had thought he was "a perv". He kept telling me to call him if everyone goes out this weekend, but he'd call me next week if no one went out and kept apologizing for acting like a perv.

 

We've been out by ourselves since then...neither one of us could bring up what happened, calling it "an incident" --well, actually he brought it up several times in the conversation, then would turn bright red whenever we began to discuss it.

 

I'm confused as to what to do....