Why do women go for the damaged men when there's plenty of men who have it together?

[major_merrick]

Why? Because someone who has some damage is going to be able to understand MY damage...which is significant. And, just because you are damaged doesn't mean you don't have it together. Those things aren't mutually exclusive. I think "damaged" people just have more "no go" zones in their lives, and greater obstacles to success in life. Overcoming the circumstances is harder when your resilience is mostly depleted.

 

My husband has a great job, no debts, nice portfolio, nice house, etc... Big family with lots of kids. Underneath - we know each other's issues. We both appear to be strong on the outside, but inside there's lots of hurt. Neither of us would be right with someone "normal."