gow311055 Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 A friend asked if my ex missed me. She said she misses me as a friend and feels bad because she told me we would continue to be friends. A Month later I contacted her and we ended up talking for 2 hours. She REPEATEDLY said I'm so glad you reached out to me and we are talking again. Basically we started by catching up then her bragging about all the guys she's talked to and ended with her opening up to me about some deep stuff (didn't even open up to during our friendship before) So my question is.... Is this some ego thing? why say i feel bad when she seems more desperate to stay friends? Link to post Share on other sites
manfrombelow2 Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 Nobody wants to play the bad guy's roles, especially women. Women don't want to be labelled as bad guys. The only reason girls like to "be friends" after breakups (I assume she was the one who broke up with you, not vice versa) is they don't want the other party (which is YOU) to hold any grudge or resentment or hatred or whatever against them. The feminie energy inside of them is so scared of that stuff. So, she's glad that you can be "friends" so she won't feel any kind of guilt for you anymore. And that's it. And you know what? I don't understand why you had to call her (reaching out to her) and had this nonsense conversation about "friendship" and stuff? Ask yourself what do you truly want? Do you really want to be "friend" with her (I doubt that). If I were you, I'd never make that call, I'd just keep walking away and never look back. If there's someone who has to reach out to the other one first, that's always the dumper (which is her in this case). I won't accept anything other than that. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 A friend asked if my ex missed me. She said she misses me as a friend and feels bad because she told me we would continue to be friends. A Month later I contacted her and we ended up talking for 2 hours. She REPEATEDLY said I'm so glad you reached out to me and we are talking again. Basically we started by catching up then her bragging about all the guys she's talked to and ended with her opening up to me about some deep stuff (didn't even open up to during our friendship before) So my question is.... Is this some ego thing? why say i feel bad when she seems more desperate to stay friends? No contact is for a reason. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted January 6, 2019 Share Posted January 6, 2019 It is possible for exes to remain friends if there is no hurt or attraction left on either side. It's very rare that this is the case, but it's great when it happens. She does still feel close to you and wants to be a part of your life, but not in a romantic sense. You have to consider whether that's something you can cope with. If hearing her brag about new guys and/or a new relationship upsets you then you need to stay out of contact. If you're happy with hearing about it and don't have any desire to get back into a relationship with her then go for it and be friends with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Fekenaws Posted January 7, 2019 Share Posted January 7, 2019 What you need to realize is that the reasons for wanting to "be friends" with an ex aren't as innocent as they seem. Dumper's often feel guilty for leaving and want to assuage their own guilt, it's not really about you. They just don't want to think of themselves as the bad guy in the situation. Other times they just want you in their orbit just in case their new relationships fall apart, that way they have someone "safe" to fall back on. Either way, I'd go NC for the foreseeable future. Do you really want to hear her talk about others guys to you? Do you actually not care about what she does anymore? Or is it out of some misguided feeling that you should have a foot in her life even though it's not on your own terms? Love yourself. Don't help your ex through a breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gow311055 Posted January 30, 2019 Author Share Posted January 30, 2019 Been almost a year since we broke up. During this time we tried being friends since the break up wasn't harsh. For the last 2 months she was talking to a new guys and started blocking me from seeing her stories but still has me added. She still views my stories too and im just wondering why not just completely block me at this point? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted January 30, 2019 Share Posted January 30, 2019 Why don't you block her? It's your best path 3 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 30, 2019 Share Posted January 30, 2019 You know you can take control here if you want. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 30, 2019 Share Posted January 30, 2019 She's waiting for you to make the first move to block her/unfriend her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted January 30, 2019 Share Posted January 30, 2019 Been almost a year since we broke up. During this time we tried being friends since the break up wasn't harsh. For the last 2 months she was talking to a new guys and started blocking me from seeing her stories but still has me added. She still views my stories too and im just wondering why not just completely block me at this point? A lot of women like attention. Why block you when she can look back over her body count? Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 I have never, not even once, been friends with an ex gf. What is the point? As you've just experienced, you're now some emotional tampon that she's using to absorb the regurgitation of her selfish exploits. Pick your self esteem up from off the floor and ditch this witch (there's a better word that rhymes, but you get the point) . Link to post Share on other sites
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