I'm too old to attract anyone

[JuneL]

Dude....you are 28.

 

Come back to this conversation in a decade LOL

 

Couldn't agree more. I always find my bf's slightly gray hair and slightly receding hairline so sexy

[sabaton]

Dude....you are 28.

 

Come back to this conversation in a decade LOL

 

yeah, yeah, but remember that at my age most of the women I meet who are my own age, or are a few years older, are either married,divorced or looking to get married/having babies. How am I not supposed to feel old?

 

When I was 18 women my age sure as heck weren't asking what do I do for a living, and where do I live, to figure out how much money I have based on the places I was living in.

 

Couldn't agree more. I always find my bf's slightly gray hair and slightly receding hairline so sexy

Yes, some young women will find that to be attractive. But if I was to let my facial hair grow instead of shaving it religiously everyday - the facial hair on my chin grows white - and if I was to let the 4 white hairs that keep growing back white, stay alive - I would look older.

 

That is not good!

Edited January 19, 2019 by sabaton

[goth-gal]

Now it makes sense lol. I was like... sabaton points don’t sound like what matters to someone in the 40-60 age range.

 

If I’m honest I’m so glad I’m older. I couldn’t care less if a guy has a full head of hair. What’s inside his brain matters more to me. Do I like a good looking guy? Yes sure but it won’t determine whether I go on a date or if I’m interested in a relationship.

 

Dude....you are 28.

 

Come back to this conversation in a decade LOL

Edited January 19, 2019 by goth-gal

[Wallysbears]

yeah, yeah, but remember that at my age most of the women I meet who are my own age, or are a few years older, are either married,divorced or looking to get married/having babies. How am I not supposed to feel old?

 

When I was 18 women my age sure as heck weren't asking what do I do for a living, and where do I live, to figure out how much money I have based on the places I was living in.

 

 

Yes, some young women will find that to be attractive. But if I was to let my facial hair grow instead of shaving it religiously everyday - the facial hair on my chin grows white - and if I was to let the 4 white hairs that keep growing back white, stay alive - I would look older.

 

That is not good!

 

 

At 18 they’re going to college. Just out of high school.

 

You’ve probably never used a rotary phone or had to get up to change a channel on the tv or lived life pre-internet.

 

This conversation isn’t about how you “feel” old at 28. That’s on you.

 

This is about the realities of people close to or over 40.

 

Which you aren’t able to contribute to first hand because you aren’t there and have no idea what you are talking about.

[elaine567]

What is a ''sports widow''?

 

 

A woman who has so little interaction with her husband/bf/partner due to his obsession with a sport or sports, that he may just as well be dead.

[goth-gal]

Dude, no one cares about FB anymore So you're saying men join OLD and just "leave" their profiles up just because? You clearly don't use some of the apps. You can't match with someone who didn't swipe right on you.

 

I'm not seeing any of what you're saying first hand myself. Like I said, I meet quality men. Just like in life, there's quality men and there's trashy men. There are women who are eternal complainers and there are women who go into it with a positive outlook and meet many men with potential. Just like in life, some relationships off of OLD work and some don't. I am not sure why you make such broad generalizations.

 

The only thing I'm "struggling" with is finding someone who has a compatible personality, not for a lack of quality men.

 

Conversely, the first thing any woman I know that's single., recently divorced, etc. does is put her mug on dating sites...That's why I believe many woman in this age group struggle with this venue and bemoan the lack of quality guys on there....You are seeing it first hand...

[sabaton]

A woman who has so little interaction with her husband/bf/partner due to his obsession with a sport or sports, that he may just as well be dead.

 

 

but she can take part in the sport aswell, no? There is a couple that lives a street away from me. Every night at around the same time, they get out of the house and they go running for 2 hours. They stay healthy, fit, and they share quality time together.

 

At 18 they’re going to college. Just out of high school.

They have jobs. They are either living alone renting a room, or sharing a house with roomates. They have cars. They have bank accounts. That makes them adults, and they make adult decisions.

 

This is about the realities of people close to or over 40.

 

Which you aren’t able to contribute to first hand because you aren’t there and have no idea what you are talking about.

True, I'm lucky to not be in that situation yet.

[introverted1]

A little OT, but if I were you, I'd leave out rock scrambling and skiing from your profile. I think a lot of women would be willing to do the other things, but those two are more strenuous activities (not to mention skiing involves prior experience and talent) and if a woman has had any kind of knee or ankle injury, she may want to cool it on stuff like that, but be willing to be active in other ways. Maybe you don't even have them in your profile at all.

 

I'm in Nospam's demographic and I think he should leave this info in. So many older guys lack the ability to be active. And if a woman is looking for a partner with whom to be active, this is important info.

[chillii]

Dude....you are 28.

 

Come back to this conversation in a decade LOL

 

 

Yep , exactly.

lt's one thing to have an opinion but another to preach and woffle on to people near twice ya age with such obviously the lack of.

[thefooloftheyear]

Dude, no one cares about FB anymore So you're saying men join OLD and just "leave" their profiles up just because? You clearly don't use some of the apps. You can't match with someone who didn't swipe right on you.

 

I'm not seeing any of what you're saying first hand myself. Like I said, I meet quality men. Just like in life, there's quality men and there's trashy men. There are women who are eternal complainers and there are women who go into it with a positive outlook and meet many men with potential. Just like in life, some relationships off of OLD work and some don't. I am not sure why you make such broad generalizations.

 

The only thing I'm "struggling" with is finding someone who has a compatible personality, not for a lack of quality men.

 

Dude....Yes they do...FB is still pretty popular...... 3 Billion people popular....But you're right no one cares..

 

I don't use ANY apps and would never have to...Why would I?. I won't get into all the reason's why,I've made them clear already...And no...None of the guys in my circle I know who are out there single, divorced use dating apps either...Why would they if they are regularly attracting women off the street, in an area where the average woman might have more going for her than anywhere on Earth...? One guy I know(50+) did, and spent a year and a half pumping and dumping naive women...Broke guy with almost no positives other than some may think he's cool....Its certainly not his looks...

 

Go back and read the post, this time clean your glasses first...They have FB pages up and don't use them....not dating apps...

 

"Quality" has a broad range of what one or another agrees on...I'll just leave it at that...

 

Good luck on your journey...I wish you all the best!

 

 

I hear a

Edited January 19, 2019 by thefooloftheyear

[Ruby Slippers]

^ It also depends on where you live. I live in the U.S. South, where single men outnumber single women. This is also true in the West. In the Midwest, North, and Northeast, generally it's the opposite - more single women. It depends on the city, though.

 

I think largely because of location, it was much easier for me to get a decent to good date from a dating site than it ever was when I lived in Chicago.

 

When I go out, too, cute single men are everywhere, surrounding me. It's awesome lol

[chillii]

Yeah we have no shortage of women but personally l was only on one very briefly nothing serious but due to location..

My whole district say of 150k radius it's very understandable why anyone might use old.

Although the area is covered in some very cool towns most spend all week driving 30-45min ea way runs all over the place in work and life as it is so by the time the wk end comes around , well.

So funny but my site turned out pretty cool in that way with pretty well a given all through it locally that most were just ordinary people scattered all over 40s 50s in my bracket but just in the same sitch.

 

Met some damn nice women too no way l would've met otherwise.

Edited January 19, 2019 by chillii

[edgygirl]

LOL sabaton you are hilarious. You're lucky cause... you were born after us? You think it won't happen to you? You think we were not 28 once? And it feels like it was yesterday. You better prep for getting older, it doesn't seem like it will be easy on you.

 

True, I'm lucky to not be in that situation yet.

[sabaton]

LOL sabaton you are hilarious. You're lucky cause... you were born after us?

I don't know when you guys were born. I was born in 1990.

 

You think it won't happen to you?

Probably it will. Not even George Clooney can get attractive 18-22 year old women based on his looks alone anymore, he had to be a worldwide A-list Hollywood actor to get a 40-something wife.

 

For the time being, I'll get what I can get for free. When the ability stops being there, I'll likely use money to hire 18-22 year old escorts.

Prostitution is legalized in the major European Countries, and even in those Countries where it's not specifically legalized, you can find pages and pages filled with prostitutes offering their services, right next to the job ads, in the major national newspapers of that Country haha.

 

Seriously, it's amazing how a man can spend 10 seconds writing down a text message and not long after, have an hour or more of sex scheduled with women who could be making a lot of money working for Playboy. 730 million people. 365 million women spread out through the Euro nations, with many millions either being interested in casual sex, and others putting out for a small amount of money. No wonder the Turkish men want to join the UE so much.

 

 

You think we were not 28 once? And it feels like it was yesterday. You better prep for getting older, it doesn't seem like it will be easy on you.

That's true, just being 28 makes me feel old. Thankfully the mirror lies to me.��

 

Edited January 20, 2019 by sabaton

[sabaton]

^ It also depends on where you live. I live in the U.S. South, where single men outnumber single women. This is also true in the West. In the Midwest, North, and Northeast, generally it's the opposite - more single women. It depends on the city, though.

 

I think largely because of location, it was much easier for me to get a decent to good date from a dating site than it ever was when I lived in Chicago.

 

When I go out, too, cute single men are everywhere, surrounding me. It's awesome lol

 

Everything is about location, especially when it comes to picking up the opposite sex. That's what many men haven't figured out yet. When there are more men than women in a city/Country, the women are going to be more picky and expect to get paid to put out, but when there's a lot more women than there are men, things become much easier.

 

I live in a beach resort/slash college town, with there being 2 to 3 times more young women than young men. My University was 90% female and 10% men. Most of the women were 5'8''. 90lbs for the shortest ones, and 120-130lbs tops for the tallest women. They were very pretty and feminine, and you could easily go up to almost any girl and chat her up and she'd hang out with you if she was single.

 

Because there were very few men, and then there was the problem of the few guys in a relationship being loyal to their girlfriends, some men being homosexuals, and some men being more interested in porn/video games than real women - it wouldn't be rare to see an attractive woman with an unattractive man(5'8'' 140-150lbs 10% body fat, feminine facial features) and darn it if she didn't look excited to be with him.

 

Meanwhile, I graduated from an high school that had 60 students. 40 boys and 20 girls. We had to share the girls amongst us, with the overweight/plain-looking men getting nothing in return.

 

Things are much better now, because women actually have to be proactive to get a boyfriend, and if you play your cards right, you can have several(attractive)girlfriends at the same time without spending a dime on them.

Edited January 20, 2019 by sabaton

[brigit87]

^ It also depends on where you live. I live in the U.S. South, where single men outnumber single women. This is also true in the West.

 

If my marriage doesn't work out now I know where to move.

[brigit87]

if you play your cards right, you can have several(attractive)girlfriends at the same time without spending a dime on them.

 

OMG that is so sad.

 

This is why people are having a problem dating. If you approach it like a game show you'll have lots of nonsense contacts and nothing worth keeping.

 

OP don't listen to some of the "sport-dating" banter you're getting on this thread. Yes. It is good to put yourself in an area where the men outnumber the women. But that is only to make your search for your partner easier.

 

I don't know where you "should" look but I think if you develop a strong spiritual foundation things might become easier.

[Woggle]

A bit off topic but the best advice I can give to people of either gender is think about things that you look for and value in a significant other and realize that most people are looking for the same things. Be what you are looking for in a partner.

[goth-gal]

Sad indeed I can't believe people out there really think this way. I hope not to come across them in my dating life.

 

OMG that is so sad.

 

This is why people are having a problem dating. If you approach it like a game show you'll have lots of nonsense contacts and nothing worth keeping.

[Nuggnuoy21]

Do you make efforts to get noticed? That kinda sounds negative but what i mean is, its more likely (depending on guys you find interesting/compatable as well) they dont think you accept any advances. Im 24 but ive got friends up to age 38 and the diffrences aren't much other than the one whos now 38 tends to want to either stay home and drink or go out and drink and typically sticks to blind dates and online conversation, i think its a loss of confidence for him still not finding anyone and worrying hes running out of time. So for older guys id say confidence is an issue, if younger guys are your thing, it seriously matters what ur looking for for the attention you will get, if u want something serious youll have to talk a bit -either way you most likely wont be ignored- but if u just want a hook up thats really all u have to do wave smile sonething and youll have attention. But dating wise talk for bit and if hes still there hes interested in more than a cougar, i dated a woman well older than ne once i guessed she was maybe 33 or close to it, wasnt until months into the realationship she actually told me her age and asked if i was still ok with it she was 19 and half years older than me, bothered me a little at first because my moms only 16 years older than i so i was dateing someone who could have went to school with my mom or very easily been one of my friends moms but i liked her soul enough i over looked it and was happy for a while until i realized i was just a trophy for her, but that dosent mean itll always end bad, she just wasnt for me. But she was pretty overweight and looked older than me and i still showed her tons off attention and affection. So thats why i say make a move some how. She met me at her friends house and actually made fun of me , and the mutal friend didn't tell me until id had a very bad day -wich she told her about- that the woman told my friend to tell me if i wanted to smoke some bud to help calm me down to come by her house, and then the friend told me she told her that she thought i was hot.

[mortensorchid]

I try to be noticed. I go out (not as much these days since it's winter) and I associate with others. But I am consumed with working and traveling a lot, between jobs. The only way I get dates is through the internet, and they all turn out to be duds. People keep saying it will happen when you least suspect it. I suppose so. Just have to keep waiting. But I still feel like I am too old anymore.

[basil67]

I try to be noticed. I go out (not as much these days since it's winter) and I associate with others.

 

Have you got the hang of smiling yet? People are more likely to be attracted when we put out a warm and welcome vibe

[LuckyM]

I feel the same way as the OP--and I am a senior. Way too old and have been for a long time. Greyish hair, wrinkles, and do not care to stay up late at night like I used to. Women in my age bracket are usually unattractive to me -- So many of them where I live don't care about their appearance--they dress down and with white hair, they think is trendy. It makes you look 10-20 years older. You are perceived as an old man and people cannot imagine that you once had very risky youthful adventures.

 

the OP may feel old inside, tired of the Chase and the tension or anxiety of dating and potential disappointments. Sorry if this sounds negative.

This situation has been written about--in the play Six Characters In Search of an Author and a novel I read.

[Sunnydaysandsome]

You are never too old.

 

Why do you need someone anyway? You don't.

[Blind-Sided]

I absolutely agree that you are never too old... but the other part is a lie people tell themselves. It's human nature to want to be bonded to another human. And while it may be true that you don't need someone... it's not in our psyche.