Ambaspam Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 (edited) My ex and I were off and on together for 3 years. Have a 2 year old son together. We lived together until our son was 4 months old. He walked out on us because he couldnt handle my anger of him not helping and past issues (we'll get to that). After he left he immediately tried getting with other girls, not caring to ask about or see his son, etc. Eventually we tried working things out. We didnt move back in together though. So he would come over maybe once a week or we would stay with him. He didnt help me or spend time with me or our son. He would usually play on his phone or video games. He was still texting other girls trying to hide it. He spent more time with his friends than he did with us and then made excuses as to why. And I would get angry and we would fight. This went on until about 3 months ago when he decided he had enough of my (I think justified) anger. He broke up with me in a [] text message. And then not even 2 weeks later got with the same little girl that was the root of our issues to begin with. Before we started dating he was 21 and had sex with his best friends 14 year old sister. He lied to me about it and then decided to tell me the truth on my birthday. So that was the onset of my mistrust. After he left me and got with her, he again didn't care to ask about or see his son until AFTER I found out that he was with her. Now he all of a sudden wants to play daddy of the year when he never cared to be there for either of us for most of his life. I'm not in slightest bit upset that we're not together anymore. What upsets me is how quickly he moved on and with whom he moved on with and how he wants to act like hes a real father now. It's really [messing] with my head. Am I overreacting or does this sound beyond messed up to anyone else? Edited January 9, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs, language, move to BBU Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 What do we know about this guy... He is a total jerk. If this child's parents knew the truth, he could be charged with statutory rape. His behavior is criminal. Be glad he has moved on, the relationship you shared was extremely unhealthy. Focus on your child, and creating a healthy and happy home for him. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 Don't even try to reconcile with him. He's not worth it. But as a mom, do protect the child he's statutory raping. Call the police. Tell them he confessed to you that he had sex with her when she was 14. He's a predator. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ambaspam Posted January 9, 2019 Author Share Posted January 9, 2019 I have no intention of reconciling with him. Shes 18 now, so its not considered statutory rape anymore. And since it was so long ago, I doubt calling the cops would do any good. It's my word against his and hers. The fact that I have to let him take our son is what worries me. He can barely take care of himself much less a 2 year who he has never spent more than a couple hours with. And I don't like the idea of him bringing him around her when she is still a child herself and o have absolutely no idea how she is with kids. It just really bugs me that I have to share my child with someone who never cared to be in his life until he got with a child. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 the child has a right to know its dad, there are 3 of you in the equation Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ambaspam Posted January 9, 2019 Author Share Posted January 9, 2019 I never said he doesnt have the right to know him. I said I dont like the idea of him taking him around the child he is dating when he never cared to be there for his child before he got with her and idk how she is with kids. I have been letting him have him when he is supposed to and my son freaks out. So that is on him. Not me. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 9, 2019 Share Posted January 9, 2019 I have no intention of reconciling with him. Shes 18 now, so its not considered statutory rape anymore. And since it was so long ago, . Wrong. I am talking about when he had sex with her when she was 14. Report that. It's still a crime & the statute of limitations has not yet past. If someone knew that your child had been the victim of a sexual predator, wouldn't you want them to speak up? Link to post Share on other sites
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