d0nnivain Posted June 3, 2019 Share Posted June 3, 2019 Hope can be a terrible thing. She's saying things you have longed to hear & you remember when things were good. You have to remind yourself that talk is cheap & she has shown by her actions that she is not trustworthy. Remember those bad actions -- not the good times -- when you continue to reject her advanced now. You made so much progress. You know she's not a good person. What is there to go back to? The relationship you want never existed. She is incapable of being that person. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 3, 2019 Share Posted June 3, 2019 Keep in mind that if you are foolish enough to take her back, she will likely bounce again when she meets the next guy she's attracted to. She called you because she doesn't want to be alone. Not because she actually loves you, as a person. I think you need to block her and be done. You are seeing someone else and it's terribly unfair to her to even engage in this sort of talk with your ex. Add to that the heartache this woman caused and will almost surely cause again? There's no future here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lonelyplanetmoon Posted June 6, 2019 Share Posted June 6, 2019 Wow this was a really messed up situation. You got really lucky getting all the great advice in the replies. I hope you listen to the other posters. Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted June 6, 2019 Share Posted June 6, 2019 Update: She probably just called because the other guy dumped her and wanted her share of validation and to see if her safety net is still available. Think you hit the nail on the head right there. Hold to that thought and (even if it's not correct) it will steer you in the safest direction. You were Plan B. Plan A didn't work out so NOW she misses you. Uh huh. Too much baggage. Too much work to get to a place where you could even start to feel trusting again. Too much monitoring. I'm not a BS, but I understand for most the trauma and difficulty trusting never FULLY fades (just mostly). Now you have someone else who you can put trust in. Why put yourself through going back. It wouldn't make sense. So there's your answer IMO. Hope you have a wonderful relationship with the new GF. Link to post Share on other sites
fromheart Posted June 6, 2019 Share Posted June 6, 2019 You're doing great. You've got a cheater out of your life, moved on and met someone else. Feel free to tell your ex, yes she made a mistake. That's where cheating gets her. Then recommend a number of a therapist. Then tell her you've got to get ready for a date. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sant Posted June 24, 2019 Author Share Posted June 24, 2019 First of all, thank you guys for giving me advice and reading my "story". Mini Update: Fortunately I havent heard from her and I of course didnt text her and honestly havent really thought about her at all. In the last update I forgot to mention that she said she broke it off with the guy she cheated with because it didnt feel right and because of me. A friend of mine saw her eating ice cream with the guy she cheated on me with a couple of days ago. I shouldnt care, but now I am angry at myself that I believed her again. That she made me feel sorry for her again. Either she lied again or she went back after she finaly realised I am gone for good. Why does it still upset me ? Why cant I just be happy that she is that messed up and will most likely end up even more messed up with him ? Link to post Share on other sites
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