Art_Critic Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 ....physically invading someone's private areas with their nose is just way... I think the phrase "physically invading" is taking it a bit far for a husband and wife .. He isn't raping her.. But I see your point and understand it.. If she doesn't like his behavior then she needs to ask him to stop.. Which she has and he has said he would stop. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I think the phrase "physically invading" is taking it a bit far for a husband and wife .. He isn't raping her.. But I see your point and understand it.. If she doesn't like his behavior then she needs to ask him to stop.. Which she has and he has said he would stop. Exactly. And in the upcoming days/weeks, we'll see if she posts again and tells us if he has stopped or still sniffing her. I agree, it's not rape, nor physically invading. I mean, then I guess I "physically invade" my husband everyday because I always flash him my boobs, walk over and give him a boob smack. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 a boob smack. I knew there was something I was missing being single Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I knew there was something I was missing being single Get creative...I have an idea for you... Link to post Share on other sites
RainyDayWoman Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 Exactly. And in the upcoming days/weeks, we'll see if she posts again and tells us if he has stopped or still sniffing her. I agree, it's not rape, nor physically invading. I mean, then I guess I "physically invade" my husband everyday because I always flash him my boobs, walk over and give him a boob smack. well, there is an obvious difference between doing something someone enjoys, and doing something they obviously don't. (my boyfriend is also a boob man, so i am with you on that one! ) but it doesn't have to be rape to be physically invasive. that would be the extreme, as in totally wrong/physically invasive, where as this, to me, is annoying/disturbingly physically invasive. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I'm a believer in negative reinforcement. Often when the respect is lacking like it seems to be in this case, then asking for him to stop probably isn't going to do much good. In fact, if she's like me, she's probably thinking it's not something to dignify by discussing it at all. (NOT that I've ever had to deal with someone compulsively smelling my pooh). Is this something you should have to ask someone to stop doing?? I submit that it is not. I suggest that she cease to clean that area or possibly enhance it in some way so that his next trip down South kills the fantasy once and for all. Spend the afternoon sitting on a dead fish or maybe put the cat's litter box to use. If nothing else, maybe eating a huge bowl of undercooked onion soup will make a difference. Trust me that last one will clear him out of the house. That's how you get respect for your pooh. As for getting respect for the rest of your body and mind, I think that's going to take a lot more strategizing. I have a friend who farts all the time, and considers it his birthright. I guarantee his wife goes nowhere near his pooh. Link to post Share on other sites
RainyDayWoman Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I have a friend who farts all the time, and considers it his birthright. I guarantee his wife goes nowhere near his pooh. i can't stop laughing, i'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
katiebug27 Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I'm glad some people find my post amusing and glad I could provide a good laugh. However that really wasn't my intention being that this is a real matter that I'm dealing with. Maybe I should have worded my title a little different. And yes maybe its been a good snicker for some, but the main issue here too, is the fact that he did cheat a year ago. We did the whole marriage counseling thing, I forgave him etc, we worked through things and its been a hard road. This is just something he recently started doing not to long ago and it is ridiculas and I too find it to be odd. Especailly since I'm the one hes doing it too. Yes he agreed not to do it anymore, and so far he hasn't. He came home yesterday from work and while we ate dinner together, he just stared at me for the longest time. When I asked what was wrong, he said it was nothing. The way he was looking at me came across as him being a little nervous acting. I am really starting to think he may be back to his cheating ways and this is where this whole thing with the "sniffing" comes from. Thanks to all. Link to post Share on other sites
mookie Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 What a coincidence to run across this thread, I can relate to what your going through with your husband. First I was really open to my wife and told her why I was doing this very same thing to her but in a different way...How it all began. One really hot summers night we headed off to bed and did not even need covers it was so warm, We went to bed naked, She turned her back to me so I could give her a massage, Then I noticed a faint smell coming from her and as I continued rubbing her back the closer I got to her butt the louder I started to moan, She said mikey what's gotten into you? Does rubbing my back make you get off? I said no I just love your scent it's a real turn on. So as I was more open to the reason she then took it as a compliment and said well don't stop now. But I would never do it while my wife is on the phone or doing house work, he can at least respect there. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 I had a friend whose husband would sniff her underwear when she would shower after she'd been out with her friends. I always thought that was unacceptable! Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 20, 2005 Share Posted September 20, 2005 A LS member used to sniff her own. Whatever floats yer boat... How flexible is that... I'm impressed! Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 Hey Katiebug, I feel for you.. Have you said anything to him since you made this post.. Is it still going on.. You think maybe he is feeling guilty for what he done in the past and thinks that it you will do it too as a revenge against him.. Or maybe he is feeling guilty for doing it again .. If my h was doing this i would think it was weird ... Good luck hope it all works out Link to post Share on other sites
Sheba Posted September 27, 2005 Share Posted September 27, 2005 I agree with the other posters, that it seems something that an insanely insecure person would do in search of evidence of infidelity. If it is really that he finds this a turn on and if he were doing this as part of lovemaking it seems tolerable enough - but while you are on the phone? As you describe it, it is entirely one-sided - you are merely an object in this "event" - and therefore it seems somewhat abusive. In fact, to me, it seems a little like an assault in either case - he is either searching you as if you were of low moral character, or treating you like you are barely human. Don't put up with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Iluvsiamese Posted October 2, 2005 Share Posted October 2, 2005 I love how you turned the tables on him. Keep it up! Drive him nuts! I also like the rolled up newspaper thing. Maybe you could start calling him bowser and start referring to yourself as lady! If the name fits...... Link to post Share on other sites
Gold Pile Posted October 2, 2005 Share Posted October 2, 2005 In order to present an informed opinion, I must sniff your poo. Link to post Share on other sites
BadBadGirl Posted October 2, 2005 Share Posted October 2, 2005 wow, and i thought i had problems. hope this clears up for you, i would be totally disgusted and would have given up dealing with it by now. Link to post Share on other sites
Quixote Posted October 2, 2005 Share Posted October 2, 2005 I've heard of women sniffing their husbands to check on fidelity. I suppose it works both ways. Maybe you should tell him" Don't just sniff it, get busy!". Link to post Share on other sites
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