Internet affair?

[sleeplessincnd]

Ok so here is the story as briefly as possible.

 

My bf and I have been together for about 3 months, we are in love and he is the sweetest man I have ever known. He does things for me that no man ever has and treats me like a queen.

 

Right now he is out of town on military training and left me the keys to his house. Last night while surfing the net at his place I ran into some e-mails from another woman that said "I love you" in them - some of them are very old, some of them are more recent.

 

Well I freaked out and got a hold of him today to confront him about it. He claims she was someone he met online, cared about a lot and loved, but has never met. She was supposed to meet him when he got back from overseas last year but never showed up. He claims she disappeared for a long time then recently reappeared.

 

He is mad at me for snooping which I didn't do intentionally, it just kinda happened. He says that he loves me but now that she is back he doesn't knwo what to do. I am beside myself b/c I am so in love with him and really thought there was potential for something long term here.

 

Can I believe what he tells me, should I trust that he will choose the real relationship over something that appears to be a game to her and just messing with him.

 

Can anyone please offer some advice? He tells me he has not cheated on me and never even seen her but I find that hard to believe since they say "I love you" - do you love someone you have never met?

 

Thanks folks!

[whichwayisup]

Yuk and Yuk! You get what you get when you snoop, so now I guess neither of you can fully trust and respect eachother.

 

Two wrongs don't make a right.

 

I don't know what else to say, I feel bad for you as he maybe likin' somebody else online...I guess time will tell and also you two need to sit and talk about this, decide together how to handle this situation.

[sleeplessincnd]

Thanks,

Yeah I know what I did wasn't right and I have apologized but I know that I would rather know now than later. He says that he doesn't know what to do b/c he cared about her a lot and she just kinda dropped out of his life and forced him to move on.

That being said I know that if an ex came back to me right now I would tell them I was happy with someone else and to screw off.

We have such a good relationship and I always feel like we can talk about anything and get through it together - but is this something that can be overcome? Has anyone experienced something similar? Have you been able to trust again and gain that bond back?