Would a young attractive woman date a much older man for free?

[Lemontea]

I know of a guy who is like 55 and is dating and sleeping with a girl who is like 25. He never really admit that it is a sugar daddy relationship. I told my friend that I believe it is, but my friend think it is not, and it is just true love.

 

Girl is high maintenance, nice face, great shape, well groomed, can easily be an a stripper or escort or cam girl. Guy is low maintenance, dad bod, untidy, hair, and doesn’t look like he exercises at all.

 

If u were that girl who would u be content to be with that guy for free. U can easily look for a sugar daddy and might as well get paid to hang out with older men. 55yo men only look good in movies when the camera can hide their defects, in real life u see everything clearly.

 

It’s a 25yr girl who is top notch and who spent time to make herself look good and has a lot of dating options, I really don't think she would be with him for free.

Edited January 15, 2019 by Lemontea

[chillii]

l dunno but l certainly don't pay for it or look like l could pay for it have money or anything like that.

l do know l get heaps of young chicks eyeing me though and they sure ain't thinking about money l can promises you that.

l never follow it up though as l'm really not interested soooo, not much help l'm afraid.

Some younger chicks do just like older guys though too pure and simple just like some younger guys like older women, the reasons are all the same my ex w always said.

Edited January 15, 2019 by chillii

[ExpatInItaly]

Eh, why does it bother you? Are you a little jealous?

 

He's a grown man. He's got a hot little thing on his arm for a while. You might think it's foolish, but it's his choice.

 

And you're dead wrong that 55-year-old men only look in movies. My own partner will be 52 this year (I'll be 38) and he's a very attractive man; I know I am not the only one who thinks so, either.

[central]

Sometimes it IS love, or at least a deep affinity and attraction. My long term FWB (and friend) is 27 years younger. She pays for things as often as I do, too.

[LastStraw]

To your question, yup, why not?

 

I’ve been with older guys, not to brag but I am pretty good looking by any ‘traditional’ standard, and they were at most part broke as a joke. I had to cover up lots of their living costs let alone dating costs so if anyone was bringing the ‘sugar’, it was me not them.

 

Why I prefer older guys? I find young ones incredibly boring! I find young guy mannerisms a turn off. I also have zero interest in ‘young guy entertainment’ types - eg never been to a club in my life. So my obvious choice has always been older men.

 

It’s a 25yr girl who is top notch and who spent time to make herself look good and has a lot of dating options, I really don't think she would be with him for free.

[rightondude]

maybe he has a big, huge personality?

[elaine567]

Does he actually earn enough money to be able to pay for a sugar baby?

If not, then that isn't it, is it?

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

55yo men only look good in movies when the camera can hide their defects.

 

:lmao: Um, this is not true. How old are you? If you're in your twenties I guess I can see why you could not imagine finding a 55 year old attractive, but some men age like fine wine.

[elaine567]

:lmao: Um, this is not true. How old are you? If you're in your twenties I guess I can see why you could not imagine finding a 55 year old attractive, but some men age like fine wine.

 

 

It's called love, love affects your eyesight...

[PRW]

:lmao: Um, this is not true. How old are you? If you're in your twenties I guess I can see why you could not imagine finding a 55 year old attractive, but some men age like fine wine.

I do kinda ferment

[PRW]

Well looking this over....hmmm

 

I think he is a sucker. Older guys sometimes get young girls because they are highly skilled at doing so,...but his description says that he is not such. I'd say he is either a Sugar Daddy, or the hot chick in this story has a bunch of issues of her own. Otherwise, she would be chasing the hot guys in their 20's or 30's.

[Kitty Tantrum]

My fiance and I met when I was late twenties, and quite often the most objectively attractive woman in any gathering - thanks to aging gracefully, and being in excellent shape at the time. I'm early thirties now and even with a few extra pounds and a more matronly figure, I STILL get routinely mistaken for a much younger woman, hit on regularly if I venture out alone, etc. I could have easily had a wealthy husband or a sugar daddy or made lots of money selling my body in some other way. Believe it or not, not all young attractive women want to do that! I never wanted anything to do with that way of living.

 

He's fifteen years older than I am, so not quite as much of an age gap, and he's muscular but definitely low maintenance with some extra pounds of his own. He was also about as broke as he could be without being a financial liability. In fact, I suspect that if you go back and tally up the actual dollars invested in the relationship on either side, my number might actually be higher. He's paid for more "dates," but I've dropped chunks of money on tools he needed to start his business, and it wasn't until quite a while after he moved in with me that I started asking him for help with rent and groceries. He's a hard worker, though, and wants the same kind of family/household I do, so I see it as a worthy investment. It's paid off, too - I recently was able to quit my job to stay home with my kiddos and take care of the house - so I guess the tables are turning. We live frugally, but he takes very good care of me, and we have a very loving relationship.

 

I don't think anybody REALLY dates anybody for "free." Everyone wants to get something they need out of the deal. But it's not necessarily money or material things. You don't mention whether the guy in question is spending a lot of money on this girl, spoiling her, giving her an allowance, etc. If he is... well, then yeah, it's likely that he's essentially a sugar daddy.

 

But there ARE some of us who just have a deeply held affection for dirty old men. Mine could have been quite a bit older and I'd still adore him.

[edgygirl]

Depends on the person... some women have daddy issues and/or are attracted to older men.

 

I am in my 40s and once went on a date with a 60 yo man. Won't be doing that again anytime soon, zero attraction. But for some reason all my BFs were always about 4-5 years younger, including my ex-husband.

[basil67]

Well looking this over....hmmm

 

I think he is a sucker. Older guys sometimes get young girls because they are highly skilled at doing so,...but his description says that he is not such. I'd say he is either a Sugar Daddy, or the hot chick in this story has a bunch of issues of her own. Otherwise, she would be chasing the hot guys in their 20's or 30's.

 

OP says she's high maintenance. Probably a heap of guys her own age wouldn't put up with her nonsense.

[preraph]

Unless he's really hot for his age, I agree with OP. I think he's paying her one way or the other. I mean, sure, if he's hot or famous or high profile some way, it can happen. And yes, there are women with daddy issues. I knew one on the internet, but she was NOT attractive and neither were her old men she crushed on. She was very mentally ill, and told me all about it.

 

I saw a video of this aging prostitute who had the tattoos from her pimps and everything and she was posing as this married man's chef, but she was his sugar baby and he spent a whole lot of his money on her and his wife came after him for it. This prostitute was obnoxious in the extreme, so indoctrinated, so smug, so superior acting. She was about 40 and had not a care for anyone except herself. And all he cared about was his dick, so good riddance. Her license plate said something about "lick: on it, as did one of her tattoos and a price.

[loversquarrel]

:lmao: Um, this is not true. How old are you? If you're in your twenties I guess I can see why you could not imagine finding a 55 year old attractive, but some men age like fine wine.

 

Have we met?

[loversquarrel]

Personally, I would have a cutoff age of no more than 15 yrs my junior as I have twin daughters that are close to 20, it would just be weird for me. I have never been a sugar daddy but I have had some younger sugar mommas.

[snowboy91]

I don't really understand the need for people to be with people of similar age or "hotness". I get that it is typical for people to do so, but everyone is attracted to different types so just because (say) I'm not attracted to someone doesn't mean someone else shouldn't be. And that goes for age too - some women quite like the look of an older man. Works the same way for some guys too (not as common but it does happen).

 

Attraction is based on a lot more than just looks anyway. Some women like older guys because they're more interesting, or there is a perception that they are able to provide for them better. Or, the personalities just fit together nicely.

[Sunlight72]

I know of a guy who is like 55 and is dating and sleeping with a girl who is like 25. He never really admit that it is a sugar daddy relationship. I told my friend that I believe it is, but my friend think it is not, and it is just true love.

 

Girl is high maintenance, nice face, great shape, well groomed, can easily be an a stripper or escort or cam girl. Guy is low maintenance, dad bod, untidy, hair, and doesn’t look like he exercises at all.

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Yes, she might date such an older man 'for free'. It is possible that she is proud of her appearance, and yet bored with most men her age who notice only her appearance.

 

For example, your description of them mentions only looks. I am guessing you are in your 20's or so? From what you wrote, it sounds that you see her main value comes from her looks. What if she is also intelligent? Sure some guys who are 23 -25 are also intelligent and worldly, but it would be a hard to find combination.

 

Some people also like their minds stimulated with culture (opera, museums, fine foods, the culture of wine and aged liquors, fine clothes, architecture), stories, humor, conversation and the like - these can develop more with decades of life experience. And, yes, for some people who are caring and pay attention, the knowledge that comes with decades of sexual experience can be a fun thing to share with a partner who prefers it.

 

It just depends on the two people.

Edited January 16, 2019 by Sunlight72

[SmartDude]

I had a younger friend live with me for a few months who was my sex partner. We had a 25 year age difference.

 

She did not get a bunch of money from me. She really just wanted a secure man to be around her at that time in her life. Guys her age would break her heart and then she would come stay with me for awhile. It was beautiful to watch her change and grow as a young adult. We were from different generations, and that WAS the attraction. We could talk about different things all day and never get stuck on boring conversations, like you would if you were with someone your own age perhaps.

 

It is just a different kind of love. It does not follow the structure of a traditional relationship. There are no life commitments to each other besides treating each other well. That was my experience anyway.

[alphamale]

the 55 yr old man is probably paying her rent, utilities and car pmt...