digger Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 15 months now and the thot of her walking out still gets a fist in my chest. I talk to alot of people, still unable to accept it deep down inside. Some help. Others dont. What makes me feel worse: (others say) 1) Move on!! 2)Why would you want her back? 3)You'll find someone else 4)People change 5)She was holding it in a long time What makes me feel better: (they say) 1) Well if it was meant to be 2)If you love something let it go, if it comes back... 3)Well people do reconsile 4) Give her time Even #5) Is she on some kind of substance? Add your own upper/downer Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 Digger- I know I've said alot in the past, but I do feel bad for you hon because you love her so much........ I'm sorry you're not getting what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
cherrysoduh Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 My number one downer is: Your young move on with your life while you can... Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted September 16, 2005 Share Posted September 16, 2005 My number one upper is : You're a very beautiful person and he's a complete idiot to let you go My number one downer is: The people who say the above is all my friends. I still havent been asked out on any dates. I want to meet Mr Right who wants to date me say that Link to post Share on other sites
b52srock Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 AMEN digger! I'm so sick of hearing "It'll get better", "Why don't you go out?", "There's someone out there for you". Good God. Don't they realize what kind of a town we live in? The single's scene consists of a few bars, most of which can be compared to the bar in Star Wars because you don't know what kind of creature you're going to run into....the men my age are paunchy, balding, missing teeth...sorry to be so vain, but I've taken care of myself and I don't think asking for a man with all his teeth is too much! Find a man at church. Yeah, right. My church is populated by people in their 60's for the most part...those that aren't are happily married. Go out with friends. Nope. They're either all married, which makes me feel like a third wheel, or they're his friends too, which means that everything I say and everything I do goes right back to him and his wench to laugh about while they're lying in bed talking about how pathetic I am. The only thing that keeps me going is my children. I think the worst thing that happened during our separation was when someone asked me, in public, in front of my 11 year old daughter, if I was seeing anyone. My answer? "No, I'm still married." What I wanted to say was why do you people think that just because he's having an affair that its OK for me to have one too? Where are your morals? Do you not think this is wrong? digger, darlin', I'm with you all the way. Link to post Share on other sites
cherrysoduh Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Oh what about if he really loved you he would come home. Link to post Share on other sites
JayKay Posted September 18, 2005 Share Posted September 18, 2005 Unfortunately, many people simply don't know how to deal with horrible emotional situations like this one. It's almost like when someone dies! You hear stupid things like, "Now you have an angel up in heaven looking out for you!" Corny stuff that makes you just want to scream! Keep in mind your friends and family are just trying to support you as best they can and the WILL bungle it sometimes. Be assertive when they make insensitive comments and say, "I appreciate that you're trying to help, but it really hurts me to hear things like what you just said." Otherwise, they don't know any better Link to post Share on other sites
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