How do you meet new people?

[Tagalz]

Hey!

 

These days I feel lonely. I have an apartment which is just me that’s living there.

 

Trough my whole life until now has been a hell. I had alot of fake friends that I had to cut off and I only have one real friend.

 

Not only that but the last girl blew me off which you can read on my profile (if you want). Early 2018 until summer I actually dated two girls at the same time which also blew me off.

 

I’m still young at the age of 23 but there is still alot of problems. My work life is just ok. I earn enough money to live but I live a boring life with no girlfriend and just 1 friend. Bottom line I need more friends and a girlfriend. I don’t need a lot of friends.... just 2-3 is enough

 

Does anyone have advice on how I could meet new people?

Edited January 21, 2019 by Tagalz

[Nilfiry]

Join hobby groups/clubs/meet-ups.

Hang out with your co-workers.

Use a free service like meetup.com to see what interest groups are in your area.

Maybe use this site to see who is around you and willing to meet up.

Go to conventions.

Go to local events.

Contact your old school friends.

 

And generally just make time to get out more. No method guarantees you will meet a new friend or potential date, but the only way you will get a chance at all is to get out more whenever you have free time.

[amaysngrace]

Go volunteer somewhere. Around here hospitals and animal shelters will gladly take volunteers.

[Garcon1986]

I drive 530 km to meet new friends that share my interests because there are none where I live who share my interests.

[Tagalz]

Join hobby groups/clubs/meet-ups.

Hang out with your co-workers.

Use a free service like meetup.com to see what interest groups are in your area.

Maybe use this site to see who is around you and willing to meet up.

Go to conventions.

Go to local events.

Contact your old school friends.

 

And generally just make time to get out more. No method guarantees you will meet a new friend or potential date, but the only way you will get a chance at all is to get out more whenever you have free time.

 

Sorry for late answer and I hope you see this. Out of everything that you mentioned I would say hanging out with co-worker is the most possible. The manager does sometimes invite us out for drinks but that does not happened often.

 

I'm working in a big mall so next week the manager for the mall invites every store in that mall to go out. It's a chance for me there, but I don't have experience when it comes to hanging out with co-workers. The same goes for starting a conversation. The only thing I know is that I would feel more comfortable talking to other employees that works for other stores.

 

Me in general don't want anything to do with co-workers. Meaning I'm just doing my job and everything that I speak about is related to the job. The same with female workers too I don't dip my ink in company's ink.

 

- As for meetup.com we don't have it in Norway. We have something called tinder and hot or not.

- Conventions is only possible if your job has an convention that they like you to be in.

- Local events is only okay if I bring my friend. Other than that Norwegians will not think positive about you going alone.

- Old school friends are at different stages of their lifes and might not be interested in hanging out. People at school have groups here and if you're not part of it the chances are low. Which in case is me because I wasn't part of any group. So if I slide into their dm's they probably remember me as "The guy that got bullied"

Edited January 23, 2019 by Tagalz

[Happy Lemming]

Working in the mall is perfect!! Is there a food court where you can have your lunch?? If so, talk to the women in the food court or sitting around the fountain (assuming your mall has a fountain or water feature). Try to strike up a conversation...

[Nilfiry]

Sorry for late answer and I hope you see this. Out of everything that you mentioned I would say hanging out with co-worker is the most possible. The manager does sometimes invite us out for drinks but that does not happened often.

 

I'm working in a big mall so next week the manager for the mall invites every store in that mall to go out. It's a chance for me there, but I don't have experience when it comes to hanging out with co-workers. The same goes for starting a conversation. The only thing I know is that I would feel more comfortable talking to other employees that works for other stores.

 

Me in general don't want anything to do with co-workers. Meaning I'm just doing my job and everything that I speak about is related to the job. The same with female workers too I don't dip my ink in company's ink.

 

Actually, you do not really need to befriend your co-works directly, but it is a good idea for building connections to advance your career. You never know who will help you get that next job, after all. That being said, you can always go through your co-workers (or just about anyone) to meet new people as well. Your goal is just to come in contact with as many people people as possible.

 

Conventions: It does not have to be work/career related. You can try hobby conventions like anime, comic, pets, movies, etc. There is even one for flat-earthers, so you can bet there is pretty much one for your interests.

 

Local Events: Contact your friend. lol You could always tough it out and go alone too. I do that all the time myself. It is not so bad since you get to set your own pace. At least you would get attention for being alone. Might also be good practice for building character.

 

School Buddies: You might be amazed at who remembers you, though. As people get older, they tend to change for the better, or at least become more level-headed to where you can talk to them without any name calling or trash talking. I had plenty of classmates that were either full of themselves, troublemakers/delinquents, or awkward, but now that they are older, they became more reasonable to talk to, and these were people that I never cared for or talked with too. I know nothing of Norwegian cultures, but I do know that people change when they get older.

 

To add a few more...

Concerts: Easy to talk to people because everyone loves music. I personally opt for classical and operas myself.

 

Parks: Even just a casual stroll in the park for exercise or sight-seeing can give you the chance to meet some people, and it is easier than you would think as long as you are willing to speak up.

[PRW]

I drive 530 km to meet new friends that share my interests because there are none where I live who share my interests.

Mine are a round trip of 200miles (320km). Even the mesquites go somewhere else to bite people.

[alphamale]

Even the mesquites go somewhere else to bite people.

 

BAAHAHAHaa

[Tagalz]

Actually, you do not really need to befriend your co-works directly, but it is a good idea for building connections to advance your career. You never know who will help you get that next job, after all. That being said, you can always go through your co-workers (or just about anyone) to meet new people as well. Your goal is just to come in contact with as many people people as possible.

 

Conventions: It does not have to be work/career related. You can try hobby conventions like anime, comic, pets, movies, etc. There is even one for flat-earthers, so you can bet there is pretty much one for your interests.

 

Local Events: Contact your friend. lol You could always tough it out and go alone too. I do that all the time myself. It is not so bad since you get to set your own pace. At least you would get attention for being alone. Might also be good practice for building character.

 

School Buddies: You might be amazed at who remembers you, though. As people get older, they tend to change for the better, or at least become more level-headed to where you can talk to them without any name calling or trash talking. I had plenty of classmates that were either full of themselves, troublemakers/delinquents, or awkward, but now that they are older, they became more reasonable to talk to, and these were people that I never cared for or talked with too. I know nothing of Norwegian cultures, but I do know that people change when they get older.

 

To add a few more...

Concerts: Easy to talk to people because everyone loves music. I personally opt for classical and operas myself.

 

Parks: Even just a casual stroll in the park for exercise or sight-seeing can give you the chance to meet some people, and it is easier than you would think as long as you are willing to speak up.

 

Thanks I will try to try out everything

[PRW]

BAAHAHAHaa

And these mosquitoes are big enough to need a runway and layover.

[PRW]

Tagalz, weren't you in South Africa? Am I confusing you with another?

 

Anyway, I meet most through meetup events via Meetup.com

[Nilfiry]

Thanks I will try to try out everything

 

Good luck!

 

Tagalz, weren't you in South Africa? Am I confusing you with another?

 

Anyway, I meet most through meetup events via Meetup.com

 

Sadly, not available in Norway according to TC.

[PRW]

Sadly, not available in Norway according to TC.

The web site is not tied to geography and the site does not run or operate the groups. It is just a platform, like Facebook or YouTube. All it takes is an ambitious person from that area to create a Meetup Group around a theme. It can even just be a wide open sky's-the-limit social group.

[Nilfiry]

The web site is not tied to geography and the site does not run or operate the groups. It is just a platform, like Facebook or YouTube. All it takes is an ambitious person from that area to create a Meetup Group around a theme. It can even just be a wide open sky's-the-limit social group.

 

So what you are saying is that the TC should start his own social group.

[PRW]

So what you are saying is that the TC should start his own social group.

Either that or keep checking to see if someone else has.

[Tagalz]

 

Sadly, not available in Norway according to TC.

 

Yo! I checked and we do have meetup.com!

[Tagalz]

Either that or keep checking to see if someone else has.

 

As for the groups the only one that I’m interested in are «nightlife in Oslo» and «gaming at House of nerds»

 

All the other is how to paint and stuff.

[Tagalz]

Working in the mall is perfect!! Is there a food court where you can have your lunch?? If so, talk to the women in the food court or sitting around the fountain (assuming your mall has a fountain or water feature). Try to strike up a conversation...

 

Yes there is! How exactly do I strike up a conversation?