It honestly sucks being single. Anyone that claims its great, are liars

[Normm]

Some guys, myself included, love behavior like that.

Perhaps those guys just aren't for her, not returning her chat...

 

 

Anyone who is going to go from zero to 100 with a person they've only known less than a day needs to question their mental stability. My opinion only of course.

 

 

 

I can't take your posts seriously given your need to make them rhyme for some odd reason. This is about peoples lives not about poetry.

[littleblackheart]

Oh, where I grew up the kids literally don't tell anyone, lol. Not even most of their friends, except perhaps 1 or 2 confidantes. I only found out after we were all grown up how many people had had relationships in secret!

 

Ah ok. Most of the misunderstandings on here come from cultural differences, I find .

 

Back home in my teenage years, I was pretty much the only single one. There was peer social pressure to 'hook up' to prove your social value, most of it behind parents' back. I had as much interest for that back then as I do now, which is none.

 

It's the same now - the kids with the most social value are seen as the ones who have the most attention.

 

My 9yo daughter is still oblivious to it, but my son has explicitly said the only reason he has agreed to have a 'gf' is for social credits. They don't socialise together, they don't go to the same school, they've seen each other once in 4 months, he doesn't care to see her more than that. It's the status, not the actual person, that he is after. I suspect she is the same.

 

I am hoping his confidence grows and he soon sees that not having a gf at 12 or at any other age is fine.

 

I think looking at how a socially vulnerable person is affected by relationship issues gives another perspective to the social pressure that definitely exists for single people.

 

Between the different religions telling us for centuries the only way to be is coupled up, the films that perpetrate unrealistic standards, the fixation on sex, the laws and social habits that make it easier to be a couple than single, the pressure can be intense.

 

Obviously those who have been in long-term relationships most of their lives can not really comprehend that - that's not a criticism, just a fact.

 

As I said earlier, I wish there were more relatable single role-models to look up to so more people realise it is perfectly possible to live a healthy life unattached.

[Els]

Ah ok. Most of the misunderstandings on here come from cultural differences, I find .<snip>

 

 

Haha, I hid my first semi-relationship from all of my friends. I thought that I was weird for having a boy whom I was close to, so better not to let anyone know. Only later I found out that I wasn't the only one in my circle feeling that way...

 

Yeah, culture is a weird thing.

 

I'm glad your kids have a great role model. I personally think the most important thing is that they should have the confidence to be whomever they want to be, regardless of what society says.

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[S_A]

Because at the end of the day I’m sleeping in my bed alone. Can anyone understand my point of view?

 

That's a ****ty feeling. I'm not clingy... but if my wife goes out of town, we both have trouble falling asleep. Though it's not like I'm texting her every other hour to find out how she's doing or trying to facetime her. It just feels weird when a woman isn't in my bed.

[chillii]

Ah ok. Most of the misunderstandings on here come from cultural differences, I find .

 

Back home in my teenage years, I was pretty much the only single one. There was peer social pressure to 'hook up' to prove your social value, most of it behind parents' back. I had as much interest for that back then as I do now, which is none.

 

It's the same now - the kids with the most social value are seen as the ones who have the most attention.

 

My 9yo daughter is still oblivious to it, but my son has explicitly said the only reason he has agreed to have a 'gf' is for social credits. They don't socialise together, they don't go to the same school, they've seen each other once in 4 months, he doesn't care to see her more than that. It's the status, not the actual person, that he is after. I suspect she is the same.

 

I am hoping his confidence grows and he soon sees that not having a gf at 12 or at any other age is fine.

 

I think looking at how a socially vulnerable person is affected by relationship issues gives another perspective to the social pressure that definitely exists for single people.

 

Between the different religions telling us for centuries the only way to be is coupled up, the films that perpetrate unrealistic standards, the fixation on sex, the laws and social habits that make it easier to be a couple than single, the pressure can be intense.

 

Obviously those who have been in long-term relationships most of their lives can not really comprehend that - that's not a criticism, just a fact.

 

As I said earlier, I wish there were more relatable single role-models to look up to so more people realise it is perfectly possible to live a healthy life unattached.

 

 

Must admit. l have two friends both early 50s haven't seen either with a partner in yrs.

l was talking to her just the other day as she was doing renos on her house and wondered about her single life,

l know she use to wanna get married , never happened.

The guy l saw few mths back. l often wonder about him too when we do see each other. he travels almost non stop.He's only ever back home for a week ot two and then he's back on a plane to somewhere. Often wonder if it's just a habit filling a void .

[chillii]

That's a ****ty feeling. I'm not clingy... but if my wife goes out of town, we both have trouble falling asleep. Though it's not like I'm texting her every other hour to find out how she's doing or trying to facetime her. It just feels weird when a woman isn't in my bed.

 

 

 

 

Yeah , we really feel it at night too especially bed , when we're apart.

A night or twp is a nice break but longer and it gets weird.