Why is society like that? I want to form a good friendship with everyone

[Tagalz]

Hey!

 

I'm posting it here because this thread has more viewing so I hope I could get more advices.

 

People these days are jumping to conclusion very fast and their way of thinking is offensive and direct. I'm more of a defensive thinker. For example If I see two guys going into the changing room I don't think they're gay, maybe he wanted advice. I can assure you that most people would think they are gay but I don't think like that. I'm thinking twice before making a judgment.

 

Some part of the society I understand like you can't control what people think of you.

 

There was a situation where a customer said that he wanted the prize and then I got confused and said "If you win the lotto of course you get the prize" and then he was like "You need to learn how to take a joke" I could see that my co-worker was laughing with him.

 

Here the customer is probably thinking wow he can't even take that of a joke. BUT just because I got confused doesn't mean I can't take a joke there is a difference. Here you can see that he was judging too quick while my co-worker agreed. Like WHY? Don't they see other side?

 

Also!

 

My co-worker was laughing at me for no apparent reason and when I asked him what is so funny he said nothing. So I then said don't laugh if it nothing is funny and he said I can laugh at you if I want because I can. Here he clearly wanted to make fun of me while I didn't say anything har hurt him. He started it and I was just peaceful doing me

Edited January 24, 2019 by Tagalz

[Garcon1986]

There are too many perspectives on life and too many different upbringings to form good friends with everyone. If as a grown adult, you have 10 lifelong friends, you are doing pretty good. You just can't work hard enough to form friendships with literally everybody and be a people pleaser. It's an unfortunate fact of being an adult.