fred123 Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 what do you do when the girl you are seeing is making you feel insecure? Link to post Share on other sites
Garcon1986 Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 If she is talking to other men, my response to her poop test would be, you should always shop around for the best deal. I challenge her to find a better deal than me in the man department - she'll always find a sexier man, but not a better overall man. Being insecure as a man is unacceptable in the initial dating game. The woman wants to know that you are her Rock of Gibraltar - then she will be least likely to cheat on you. Let her know you are the best by showing the best body language. But you are well within your rights to verify if she is cheating. The definition of cheating and not cheating should be established early on in your relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 Are you insecure in all your relationships? In other words, is it you? If it's always a problem, then you go to therapy yourself. But if normally you are fine in other relationships and in this one, you feel she's being deceitful and you're sure, then why even stay? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 25, 2019 Share Posted January 25, 2019 You figure out what it is she's doing which makes you feel insecure and address it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted January 26, 2019 Author Share Posted January 26, 2019 like examples like this: sending a pic of yourself ( selfie) to the girl you are seeing and she says its a nice pic. and then you reply saying "its just for you:)" and she says " we dont do cringe" . kind of made me upset and bit hurtful when i was just trying to be sweet to her. funny enough later that evening i found something cringey she did with her ex. she had posted in her previous relationship a pic of a padlock with her and her exes name on it with love hearts. another example is when she says that i say stupid things and thats why she cant introduce me to her worl mates and friends. these are things that would make u feel insecure right? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted January 26, 2019 Share Posted January 26, 2019 I’m sorry Fred. I would break up with a person who wouldn’t introduce me to her friends and coworkers. You deserve to be with someone who is proud to be dating you, and wants to share their life with you. Don’t settle for anything less. Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted January 26, 2019 Share Posted January 26, 2019 I honestly cringe to myself whenever I read about a guy sending things like that trying to be cute or sweet as you say. Learn from this and don't play cutsie, it emasculates you. I think you should next her and don't make that mistake again. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted January 26, 2019 Share Posted January 26, 2019 Is this about your ex or a new girl? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Curiousroxy86 Posted January 27, 2019 Share Posted January 27, 2019 I wouldn't ignore those feelings Those feelings signify something you don't like Don't know what she doing but if it were me I would really evaluate the actions she is doing and determine if it's acceptable and find ways to cope or unacceptable which would mean I need to speak up and/or leave Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted January 28, 2019 Share Posted January 28, 2019 like examples like this: sending a pic of yourself ( selfie) to the girl you are seeing and she says its a nice pic. and then you reply saying "its just for you:)" and she says " we dont do cringe" . kind of made me upset and bit hurtful when i was just trying to be sweet to her. funny enough later that evening i found something cringey she did with her ex. she had posted in her previous relationship a pic of a padlock with her and her exes name on it with love hearts. another example is when she says that i say stupid things and thats why she cant introduce me to her worl mates and friends. these are things that would make u feel insecure right? I'd move on from this one...as someone else mentioned, you want to be with someone who includes you in their friend circle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted January 28, 2019 Author Share Posted January 28, 2019 Is this about your ex or a new girl? yes my ex. im having therapy seesions now as im still struggling with everything in my head Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted January 28, 2019 Author Share Posted January 28, 2019 I’m sorry Fred. I would break up with a person who wouldn’t introduce me to her friends and coworkers. You deserve to be with someone who is proud to be dating you, and wants to share their life with you. Don’t settle for anything less. according to my ex when i was with her she said " you cant break up with someone you arent going out with" that was in response to me telling her id brrak up with her over something in a funny jokey way. we werent in a relationship just casually seeing each other. but her actions still made me feel insecure Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted January 28, 2019 Author Share Posted January 28, 2019 what makes people feel insecure when they are dating someone they like? id love to know peoples examples etc. me personally i think and felt a bit hurt in that if i say something sweet to a girl she respomds in a way that shuts me down Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted January 28, 2019 Author Share Posted January 28, 2019 I honestly cringe to myself whenever I read about a guy sending things like that trying to be cute or sweet as you say. Learn from this and don't play cutsie, it emasculates you. I think you should next her and don't make that mistake again. please explain? Link to post Share on other sites
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