elaine567 Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 I guess patients and visitors are easy targets as their mind is probably elsewhere and not on personal security. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 (edited) Ste had a really good night, So much so I got some sleep. I just want to hear his voice and see him awake. I'm still on edge. However as Ste would say "it looks like the luck of the Irish is rubbing off on me". Happy St Patricks day everyone "May you live as long as you want, and never want as long as you live." I've decorated to room a bit. The nurses are really lovely they brought me in a full breakfast again, Said to pretend its a full Irish one. I'm checking Facebook and I'm seeing all the shenanigans people back home are getting up to. I thought I'd be missing it. I am a bit don't get me wrong, but I remember everything I want is next to me in the bed. I'm in a reflective mood, I texted my English mammy saying I can't go mass or the Irish centre after because of what's gone on. She said she understood and everyone must be proud of me for doing what I've done. I said I've done nothing special. I'm sure anyone else would do what I've done. I do have a regret, that we didn't get married earlier. We've had no real honeymoon period. Its been straight in at the deep end. All this has made me realise how much I love him. Sorry if I've been boring you. I'm just in a deep reflective mood today. Sláinte! Edited March 17, 2019 by ShaunaN 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 (edited) A slight set back. We've found out that my husband has had a reaction to one of the chemotherapy drugs that was quite bad. So they're having to give him some other drugs to counteract it. The doctor also said to me he thinks it would be beneficial for me to speak to a councillor. He thinks it would help me as I've been through a lot recently. Edited March 17, 2019 by ShaunaN Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 Happy St. Patrick’s Day, Shauna!! The room sounds lovely and your husband would likely be happy to know you’re not letting this get the best of you. I hope he wakes up today to see the room dressed up proper. ???? And nope, not bored of your writings at all! It’s good the bank was able to act quickly and put a stop on the card for you. You’re keeping it together really well and it’s super sweet to hear. I hope you get the Guinness and a good meal to go along with it. We Irish do what needs doing to keep our spirits high. Sometimes a Guinness is required for that. Enjoy the day! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 Oh dear, just saw your latest post about chemo. Luckily there are many to choose from and they noticed it quickly. If that’s the worst news the doctor has to report it sounds pretty good, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 Happy St. Patrick’s Day, Shauna!! The room sounds lovely and your husband would likely be happy to know you’re not letting this get the best of you. I hope he wakes up today to see the room dressed up proper. ???? And nope, not bored of your writings at all! It’s good the bank was able to act quickly and put a stop on the card for you. You’re keeping it together really well and it’s super sweet to hear. I hope you get the Guinness and a good meal to go along with it. We Irish do what needs doing to keep our spirits high. Sometimes a Guinness is required for that. Enjoy the day! I have to admit, I am not coping well when I'm on my own with no one and I think. I cry, I panic and I generally go into overdrive. I'm sat in the pub now. Got my Guinness! http://oi63.tinypic.com/jfdl5l.jpg I've also treated myself to chicken wings and steak, I already feel super guilty because I have. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 It’s good for your nerves to have a drink. Being wired and on mental overdrive takes a toll on your body. Crying is very good too. Tears release toxins that are built up due to stress. Go ahead and have a good cry if you need to. I hope he wakes up today. That’d be really great news. Is he out of the danger zone? I remember you saying 24-48 hours being critical, has that time passed? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 It’s good for your nerves to have a drink. Being wired and on mental overdrive takes a toll on your body. Crying is very good too. Tears release toxins that are built up due to stress. Go ahead and have a good cry if you need to. I hope he wakes up today. That’d be really great news. Is he out of the danger zone? I remember you saying 24-48 hours being critical, has that time passed? Yeah, today is day 4. They are still a bit worried because of the other day when his heart stopped and they had to restart it, but he has been improving ever since. I'm worried for when he wakes up. Will he remember who I am? Will he be ok? I'm scared somethings happened and its damaged his brain. I just want him to be back to his old self. Then again, what do I say to him when he wakes up? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 Play it by ear. You love him, you'll know what to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 Oh dear, just saw your latest post about chemo. Luckily there are many to choose from and they noticed it quickly. If that’s the worst news the doctor has to report it sounds pretty good, right? True, he hasn't woken up yet. I'll be much happier when he has woke and I know he is ok. I'm glad it was picked up early. Play it by ear. You love him, you'll know what to say. Thank you. Hopefully. A young lad who looks no more than 6 years old who I've seen come see his grandma brought me a cupcake he made for his gran, He seemed all shy. Was all red when he was speaking with me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 Aww, that's sweet Sometimes I think God/Angels/The Universe (whatever you believe in) sends us little messages of love and support. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 He had the surgery 4 days ago and hasn't woken up since? Why is that? Is he in a coma? Or are they medicating him to keep him asleep? What does the doctor say about this? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 (edited) He had the surgery 4 days ago and hasn't woken up since? Why is that? Is he in a coma? Or are they medicating him to keep him asleep? What does the doctor say about this? They are medicating him. They want to stop it and let him come round, However at the moment they are awaiting, which is fine. Edited March 17, 2019 by ShaunaN Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 Keep eating Shauna ... we'll forgive you on this end! ... Get some more chicken wings was it?! Just a few things to keep in mind ... yes, ideally you'd be there when he awakes, but seriously, you also want enough rest ... and when he wakes up ... if he sees you in an hour two ... he's fine ... About a sleeping pill, they can give you a light pill ... and trust me, when he wakes up, you'll wake up! ... Your adrenaline and love and your desire to take care of him ... will wake you up! So when's the next massage? You know your husband would be telling you to get one! ... is there a chapel or quiet room in the hospital where you can for a break ... for some rejuvenation? ... Well four days is a lot for you to be on edge ... no getting around that ... that's a lot of waiting! ... Hang in there ... Link to post Share on other sites
some_username1 Posted March 17, 2019 Share Posted March 17, 2019 I've been rooting for you and your husband with each page of this thread Shauna. Please don't doubt yourself and understand that you have been doing everything you possibly could. The sense of love and care is palpable. Contrast that with the messages you have been getting telling you to give up and walk away and I hope that makes you realise that the average person would put themself first and leave someone they profess to love to suffer. You sound like a very special person and your husband couldn't have hoped to have anyone better fighting his corner. I've got everything crossed that things work out for the best for both of you and am hoping to read some good news. Happy St Patrick's Day. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 Keep eating Shauna ... we'll forgive you on this end! ... Get some more chicken wings was it?! Just a few things to keep in mind ... yes, ideally you'd be there when he awakes, but seriously, you also want enough rest ... and when he wakes up ... if he sees you in an hour two ... he's fine ... About a sleeping pill, they can give you a light pill ... and trust me, when he wakes up, you'll wake up! ... Your adrenaline and love and your desire to take care of him ... will wake you up! So when's the next massage? You know your husband would be telling you to get one! ... is there a chapel or quiet room in the hospital where you can for a break ... for some rejuvenation? ... Well four days is a lot for you to be on edge ... no getting around that ... that's a lot of waiting! ... Hang in there ... Have to admit they were delicious. I could eat some more right now! I'll be honest. I'm scared of taking sleeping pills and such. I'm scared if I take one I won't wake up. I slept well last night. I can't wait to get him home and sleep in our bed. I know we've cuddled/slept here but theres been machines and nurses disturbing us. I just want to get him home now. Is that bad of me? I'll be happy at home and can concentrate on everything. I haven't booked one yet. I can't justify that much time away from the hospital. I would like to get my hair redone, but against I can't justify the time away. My inlaws text me earlier asking if I needed/wanted anything. I feel guilty asking but I asked for some cake from the cake shop where we got our wedding cake from (Its open at all sorts of crazy times!). This is our hospital wedding cake https://www.eggfreecake.co.uk/s355.html It is "egg free" I was unsure as I prefer a classic cake and they could make us a cake quickly and I know its a Birthday cake but they iced it up and made it up really nice. Today I don't feel like I'm coping. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 I've been rooting for you and your husband with each page of this thread Shauna. Please don't doubt yourself and understand that you have been doing everything you possibly could. The sense of love and care is palpable. Contrast that with the messages you have been getting telling you to give up and walk away and I hope that makes you realise that the average person would put themself first and leave someone they profess to love to suffer. You sound like a very special person and your husband couldn't have hoped to have anyone better fighting his corner. I've got everything crossed that things work out for the best for both of you and am hoping to read some good news. Happy St Patrick's Day. Thank you for your kind words. I'm no one special, I'm just me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 Ste's best friend is looking after me. She's made us some food for when she comes up to see him. It looks delicious! http://oi67.tinypic.com/1z5oxhj.jpg 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 I'm up really early, My husband had an alright night. Lots just spinning round my head today Link to post Share on other sites
Double Helix Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 Good morning Shauna, I am glad your husband had an alright night. Considering the big operation and severity of his disease he seems to have been pretty stable these last days. I hope the doctors can stop medicating him soon and let him wake up. I can imagine it must be pretty lonely for you just sitting there in the hospital room, no wonder lots of things are going through your mind. I am still impressed how well you are managing and handling everything. I hope the nurses brought you some nice breakfast by now and you are feeling slightly better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 Good morning Shauna, I am glad your husband had an alright night. Considering the big operation and severity of his disease he seems to have been pretty stable these last days. I hope the doctors can stop medicating him soon and let him wake up. I can imagine it must be pretty lonely for you just sitting there in the hospital room, no wonder lots of things are going through your mind. I am still impressed how well you are managing and handling everything. I hope the nurses brought you some nice breakfast by now and you are feeling slightly better. Thank you. He is heavily sedated, its when they want to wake him up we have to start worrying, Him being calm now is good just means his heart is strong and he hasn't had major fits. It is very lonely here, Apart from the doctors/nurses, if no one has come to visit I don't get to see anyone, Furthest I go is to the next room for a shower or the toilet. Nurses didn't bring any breakfast today, The night sister brought me a blanket as I was feeling a bit run down. I've not eaten except for a banana and an apple today. Hopefully someone will come soon so I can grab some food. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 I need to eat. I need someone to come. I feel lightheaded Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 Ask the nurse or an aide to bring you a snack or even a nutrition drink. I’m sure they have something to offer you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 18, 2019 Author Share Posted March 18, 2019 Ask the nurse or an aide to bring you a snack or even a nutrition drink. I’m sure they have something to offer you. I don't want to disturb them, they have done a lot for us already. I'll try and get something later. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 18, 2019 Share Posted March 18, 2019 Can you order in? Link to post Share on other sites
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