amaysngrace Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 I'm meant to be looking after him He’s in the hospital. He’s being looked after already. Go enjoy the time away from there for a bit. You deserve that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 23, 2019 Author Share Posted March 23, 2019 He’s in the hospital. He’s being looked after already. Go enjoy the time away from there for a bit. You deserve that. I feel guilty though. I went mad in New Look. Got myself some new tops and a few other bits. Got my husband a few things too and my new glasses too 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 You feel guilty probably because you’re catholic. It’s been drilled into you. The only reason I say that is because I was raised catholic so I know just how it goes. You’re probably looking like a rock star in your new digs. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 23, 2019 Author Share Posted March 23, 2019 You feel guilty probably because you’re catholic. It’s been drilled into you. The only reason I say that is because I was raised catholic so I know just how it goes. You’re probably looking like a rock star in your new digs. True, It has been drummed into me. I feel like I am taking. I felt really bad when I was having a burrito (it was so good Ste would enjoy it) As for the tops. There is two I'm not sure on. What do you think? https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/knitwear/pale-grey-roll-neck-popper-cuff-top/p/577203802?comp=Browse https://www.newlook.com/uk/womens/clothing/tops/black-3-4-sleeve-fine-knit-top/p/606235701?comp=PDP-Color-Swatch 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 I like the first one better. Looks soft and comfy. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 It’s funny because right now I’m being sent outfits via text from my daughter then I see this from you! Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 Definitely the first one! ... It's warmer, more approachable ... thicker ... And it looks great! ... and will invite him to hug you and lean on you. Funny comments about guilt. My thinking these days is that a lot of us could reset our "guilt" radars ... Save guilt for cheating money out of other people, being cruel, murdering other people, harming ourselves and other people. Treating yourself a little extra nice IN THE MIDST OF AN OVERWHELMING CRISIS (like this one) lots of us (not just you Shauna) need a firmware update to turn off guilt for that one. Looking forward to hearing about the time outside. BTW: Shauna ... at some point, I really think you should save this thread ... you can start ... I really think you'll want to look at this thread in 20 years and in 50 years and in 60 years ... You'll see how yourself and you'll love what you see. Seriously save this thread at some point! Copy and paste into a file ... and save that file and back it up for the rest of your life. This thread is an amazing diary. Without it, in ten years, looking back becomes this blur. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 23, 2019 Author Share Posted March 23, 2019 Definitely the first one! ... It's warmer, more approachable ... thicker ... And it looks great! ... and will invite him to hug you and lean on you. Funny comments about guilt. My thinking these days is that a lot of us could reset our "guilt" radars ... Save guilt for cheating money out of other people, being cruel, murdering other people, harming ourselves and other people. Treating yourself a little extra nice IN THE MIDST OF AN OVERWHELMING CRISIS (like this one) lots of us (not just you Shauna) need a firmware update to turn off guilt for that one. Looking forward to hearing about the time outside. BTW: Shauna ... at some point, I really think you should save this thread ... you can start ... I really think you'll want to look at this thread in 20 years and in 50 years and in 60 years ... You'll see how yourself and you'll love what you see. Seriously save this thread at some point! Copy and paste into a file ... and save that file and back it up for the rest of your life. This thread is an amazing diary. Without it, in ten years, looking back becomes this blur. I think I feel guilty as I was spending his money and I didn't contribute/earn it. I bought both tops and a pair of jeans. I needed some face creams, he said to put them on his card with my glasses. It was like £250. I did treat myself to a free make over in one of the department stores What I thought was really really sweet was he has a picture of me and him on his debit card. Never noticed it until now. I have to admit I enjoyed the time away, having a coffee. Just general things. Heck I even enjoyed the drive. I got back and some kids who always come and get bored as they are here a lot Ste was showing them pictures of planes, the flight tracking site and he had his work radio on and you could hear ATC. Seemed he really enjoyed teaching these kids. They thought he was great because he "fixes aeroplanes" and can listen to the planes. As for this being a diary I guess it is, I'll look to save it. What do people think of my Lelystad idea? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 I think he’ll love that! It’s so sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 23, 2019 Author Share Posted March 23, 2019 I think he’ll love that! It’s so sweet. He can show me what me loves about Holland too, and he can nerd out at the museum teaching me about planes. I want to get involved in that part of his life. He agrees about the burrito I snuck him one in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 23, 2019 Author Share Posted March 23, 2019 https://www.aviodrome.nl/attracties/rondvluchten/ Oh my! He would LOVE that. (He really doesn't have that link saved on his computer) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 23, 2019 Author Share Posted March 23, 2019 Take away and full fat coke. How the other half live I bought us a TV card. I'm tucked up in bed with him, I know I shouldn't but its nice to cuddle up. I know its only a hospital bed but I'm still next to him and that makes it amazing. Watching speed. not much on nor is the screen very big but the cuddles are good. All you need is cuddles 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 Save guilt for cheating money out of other people, being cruel, murdering other people, harming ourselves and other people. Treating yourself a little extra nice IN THE MIDST OF AN OVERWHELMING CRISIS (like this one) lots of us (not just you Shauna) need a firmware update to turn off guilt for that one. I absolutely love this thinking! Thank you for sharing! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 23, 2019 Share Posted March 23, 2019 https://www.aviodrome.nl/attracties/rondvluchten/ Oh my! He would LOVE that. It doesn’t seem so expensive. I’d have thought it would’ve cost way more than it does. Enjoy your cuddles Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 24, 2019 Author Share Posted March 24, 2019 (edited) It doesn’t seem so expensive. I’d have thought it would’ve cost way more than it does. Enjoy your cuddles I know he has talked about these flights, he has never been on one. I think it will be nice. Ste has shown me you can get married at the aviodrome https://www.aviodrome.nl/collectie/boeing-747/ I don't like planes to his scale but I have to admit that is cool! I enjoyed the cuddles a bit too much, I fell asleep cuddled up. Woke up this morning wrapped up in his bed covers cuddled up to him. Asked Ste why he didn't wake me he said I was peaceful and didn't want to disturb me or relegate me to a chair Today they want to get Ste walking see how all his functions are after the op. Ste is saying his eyesight is much better. Actually feeling positive today. Edited March 24, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 24, 2019 Author Share Posted March 24, 2019 Pub lunch for me today Ste got some visitors from I think they said Delta? Apparently he is their favourite engineer and they heard he wasn't well, so wanted to see him next time they are here. One of the group said they'd have lunch with me, its nice to have lunch with someone. None of my UK friends have offered to have lunch (I'd have even paid!). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted March 24, 2019 Share Posted March 24, 2019 Your friends may have sensed you wanted to stay close to your husband so didn't mention having lunch. I'm sure if you bring it up they would love to go out for lunch with you. I'm very happy for you both that you and your husband can finally start making plans for places to go and things to do when he gets out. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 24, 2019 Author Share Posted March 24, 2019 Your friends may have sensed you wanted to stay close to your husband so didn't mention having lunch. I'm sure if you bring it up they would love to go out for lunch with you. I'm very happy for you both that you and your husband can finally start making plans for places to go and things to do when he gets out. I asked if they wanted to meet up and they all was busy. We still haven't planned a honeymoon as of yet. I don't think we can go far until the end of his treatment. Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted March 24, 2019 Share Posted March 24, 2019 You know, people get scared, even paralyzed when someone is ill. They often retreat and will throw out the cover line "I didn't want to interfere." There is no such thing as interfering when someone is ill. If you come to visit and aren't needed, you come back later ... person is sleeping, you come back later ... It's just awkward when someone is sick beyond having a cold. All of our optimistic pre-programmed phrases no longer work. Sorry for all this Shauna. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 24, 2019 Author Share Posted March 24, 2019 You know, people get scared, even paralyzed when someone is ill. They often retreat and will throw out the cover line "I didn't want to interfere." There is no such thing as interfering when someone is ill. If you come to visit and aren't needed, you come back later ... person is sleeping, you come back later ... It's just awkward when someone is sick beyond having a cold. All of our optimistic pre-programmed phrases no longer work. Sorry for all this Shauna. Why are you sorry? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 24, 2019 Author Share Posted March 24, 2019 So Ste's friends left earlier. They said if I'm ever flying with them I'll be well taken care of. I'm not feeling too well I feel a bit low too Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 24, 2019 Share Posted March 24, 2019 Go cuddle The rest will do you some good Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 24, 2019 Author Share Posted March 24, 2019 Go cuddle The rest will do you some good He is getting a wash from the nurses. Then cuddles. I can't spend the night in the bed with him again. I can't be unfair to him. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 24, 2019 Share Posted March 24, 2019 It’s really not fair to you either if you won’t get a good sleep. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted March 24, 2019 Share Posted March 24, 2019 Did he manage to walk? I understand that patients who have stayed in bed for too long may need practice walking again. Link to post Share on other sites
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