Author ShaunaN Posted March 31, 2019 Author Share Posted March 31, 2019 I'd like to say Lá na Máithreacha Sona duit. (Happy Mothers day) to every one 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted March 31, 2019 Share Posted March 31, 2019 I'd like to say Lá na Máithreacha Sona duit. (Happy Mothers day) to every one Here in the US (and many other countries), mother’s day is in may! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 31, 2019 Share Posted March 31, 2019 I’m glad you’re there safely Enjoy the day! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 31, 2019 Author Share Posted March 31, 2019 I thought I was going back today, turns out he has booked me a flight for tomorrow. So said to mum and dad I'd take them out tonight. They've been fussing over me. even brought me breakfast in bed and in general. We've had lunch together as I thought I had to go back but found out my flight is tomorrow :') Spoilt Ste to these https://i.imgur.com/VeFPlLY.jpg?1 He has spoilt me with this flight and break. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 1, 2019 Author Share Posted April 1, 2019 So I am back Flight back was actually really really good. Got let in to the lounge at Dublin airport and got treated like a queen on the plane. I got to the hospital they wouldn't let me see Ste, They were changing his bandages. They said one was a bit sticky? but recovering. Apparently he was on the phone this morning speaking a foreign language and they want him to cut down on the long phone calls. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 1, 2019 Author Share Posted April 1, 2019 They are talking about letting Ste home potentially Saturday! SO SO SO HAPPY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 Great news!!! I’m so happy for you both!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 1, 2019 Author Share Posted April 1, 2019 Great news!!! I’m so happy for you both!!! Theres a lot that needs to be put in place. but I am so happy. I need to clean the house, put new bedding on, get a shop in. Lots! I might have to admit defeat and get help on the cleaning. I saw I can get a cleaner for £100 for a deep clean. I am also thinking of getting the carpet cleaned. I need to have the community nurse and a social worker come and visit to make sure its all suitable. I'm crying right now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 I'm so very happy for you that you have such a joyful homecoming to plan! Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 Tears of joy!! Yay! Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted April 1, 2019 Share Posted April 1, 2019 Big step - congratulations! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 2, 2019 Author Share Posted April 2, 2019 You'll all be surprised to know I am at home so I can get the place sorted and cleaned. Got the carpet cleaner coming tomorrow. Did go to see Ste, he just wants to go home now. I hope they don't dash his hopes on Saturday. I'm going to be honest. I'm scared of him coming home, What happens if he has a fit, or something goes wrong? People were right here he has the doctors and nurses at home he will have me, just me. Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 What did the doctors say about his possibly having an emergency while at home? Are you guys going to have a diect number to call? Is he going to have some kind of healthcare aid at home? Are you going to be required to be with him 24/7? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 2, 2019 Author Share Posted April 2, 2019 What did the doctors say about his possibly having an emergency while at home? Are you guys going to have a diect number to call? Is he going to have some kind of healthcare aid at home? Are you going to be required to be with him 24/7? It could happen, I should just dial 999 and his care team (Which I'll have a direct dial for) and he is going to have a nurse pop in and check on him until the treatment has finished. I won't be required to be with him 24/7. I'll also have to sleep in my PJs his tshirts are so much better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 3, 2019 Author Share Posted April 3, 2019 So I've had the carpets cleaned today. Had a social worker round and they are concerned about his support network. I said his best friend and mum and dad would help. They want to speak to them before they recommend him to go home (Its not needed I've been told but makes things easier) So slight set back Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 How close do his parents and BF live? I don’t really see that being a problem as long as they are relatively near-by and can come help out with whatever support you both may need. As a parent it’s difficult to navigate how to be present without overstepping boundaries on a son’s relationship but I’m sure if you or he asked for help they’d be more than willing to give help in any way you could need. They probably don’t want to bombard you and come off as seeming controlling. A meeting with a social worker seems like a very great idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 3, 2019 Author Share Posted April 3, 2019 How close do his parents and BF live? I don’t really see that being a problem as long as they are relatively near-by and can come help out with whatever support you both may need. As a parent it’s difficult to navigate how to be present without overstepping boundaries on a son’s relationship but I’m sure if you or he asked for help they’d be more than willing to give help in any way you could need. They probably don’t want to bombard you and come off as seeming controlling. A meeting with a social worker seems like a very great idea. His parents live 20 minutes by car away. They would come if they can and help. I've also learnt from the social worker (Because usually I'm told its a community nurse that does these meetings) that Ste's mum and dad aren't actually his mum and dad. They adopted him and the reason he calls his best friend his sister is they grew up in care together. When the social worker realised she said I'm to forget about it. Not that it matters to me. I'm just wondering why Ste never said, should I raise it with him? Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 No I’d wait for him to bring it up. If he hasn’t shared by now it’s for a reason and the reason could be that to him they are his real parents. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 3, 2019 Author Share Posted April 3, 2019 No I’d wait for him to bring it up. If he hasn’t shared by now it’s for a reason and the reason could be that to him they are his real parents. It makes sense why Ste and his best friend are really close and call each other brother/sister. I just want to be there and understand whats going on. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Now you know. I don’t know why it matters who it comes from. If he didn’t see the need to share I would respect that. He and his best friend can identify with each other on a level you’ll never be able to grasp having not lived through the same experiences and maybe it’s somethkng he’d rather leave in the past. I’m sure memories weren’t always good ones so why go there? Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 3, 2019 Author Share Posted April 3, 2019 Now you know. I don’t know why it matters who it comes from. If he didn’t see the need to share I would respect that. He and his best friend can identify with each other on a level you’ll never be able to grasp having not lived through the same experiences and maybe it’s somethkng he’d rather leave in the past. I’m sure memories weren’t always good ones so why go there? I know, I'm not going to go barging in. If he talks, he talks. I'm surprised the social worker was so free about the information Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 She probably wasn’t thinking or presumed you already knew. I’m glad you’ve decided to let it go but it could explain why he doesn’t believe in leaving others behind. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 3, 2019 Author Share Posted April 3, 2019 She probably wasn’t thinking or presumed you already knew. I’m glad you’ve decided to let it go but it could explain why he doesn’t believe in leaving others behind. It also explains why he is ultra ultra protective of his best friend. I just hope he knows he can tell me anything Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 I’m sure he does know that. Chances are he just doesn’t want to talk about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted April 4, 2019 Author Share Posted April 4, 2019 Very true. It looks like they are not going to let him out Saturday. They want him to complete this chemo cycle in hospital Gutted. Link to post Share on other sites
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