Double Helix Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 Hey Shauna, Just wanted to let you know that you and your boyfriend are in my thoughts and I hope that the operation will go well tomorrow!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Double Helix Posted March 12, 2019 Share Posted March 12, 2019 I meant husband of course , not boyfriend !!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 12, 2019 Author Share Posted March 12, 2019 I'm so glad to hear the Will was done "in contemplation of marriage" or whatever it is called in the UK. Congratulations on your marriage by the way. One of the hard things about this situation is the constant roller coaster - up one minute down the next. It's exhausting. The surgery sounds like it is a very important thing - no wonder you cannot sleep. Sending good wishes to you across a couple of oceans. Thank you The surgery is very important. The doctor explained more today. The risks and such. If it goes wrong it could be literally the end right there. If he pulls through then the serious battle begins. The survival rate drops from 40/60% after a year to 23/27% after 10 years. Realistically if he does pull through and recovers they won't expect him to survival more than 5 years. However they have said the first 48 hours after the operation are the most vital. If he survives the operation and the first 48/72 hours his chances are good. I'm scared. What if he doesn't survive? What am I going to do? I'll have lost my world. Hey Shauna, Just wanted to let you know that you and your boyfriend are in my thoughts and I hope that the operation will go well tomorrow!!! Thank you I hope so too! He had his manager come visit today, they had a talk and told him his job is safe, he shouldn't have been sent a letter regarding returning, nor should anyone try and rush him. He brought a big card from his colleagues. They talked about some software for a plane and when he is better if my husband wants he can supervise the software loading, or just watch the planes as his colleagues miss him. We talked a lot about the things, us, what happens and if he dies. I'm scared of what the future holds. I don't want to eat. My husband said when he is in theatre he wants me to eat. If I eat from the chippy so be it. He will pay (he knows that will guilt trip me into eating). I'm going to try and do some work tomorrow however I don't think I'll get much done. I got the boiler fixed. Hubby shouted at the gas board. but it was his dad who fixed it. He did something on a radiator and all this air come out and it warmed up. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Sending you and your husband lots of positive thoughts. I wish you strength and as much peace as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Sending love and good thoughts to you and hubby, Shauna. Wishing for the very best for you both. xo Link to post Share on other sites
josi334 Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Hi Shauna I've been following your story - just want to send my positive thoughts and prayers to your hubby tomorrow! Hope You'll have great news for us tomorrow! Be faithful! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 Thank you. Needless to say we are scared. My husbands putting a brace face on. I can't Ive not slept at all Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 (edited) Still no news. I'm petrified. Ste's best friend has turned up. I hadn't ate and she forced me to go and eat. Its like she's been asked to look after me. The nurse we've made friends with keeps bringing me coffee and biscuits. It shouldn't have taken this long. Edited March 13, 2019 by ShaunaN Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Maybe they got a late start or are just being very thorough. (((big hugs to you right now))) Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Just sending best wishes... hang in there Shauna. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 I've asked and I'm not getting any information. One of the nurses told me that they'll give me information when they see fit and I should be thankful they let me stay?!? How rude of her. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Not everyone is cut out to be a nurse. She may be one of those people. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 Not everyone is cut out to be a nurse. She may be one of those people. He has been gone 9 hours, surely someone knows something. I've been reading an old magazine he had in his bag, its an interview he gave at work, Brought some comfort. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 How long were they saying it would take? Maybe they’re waiting for him to come to before they give a report. If he’s sleeping it’s best that he rest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 How long were they saying it would take? Maybe they’re waiting for him to come to before they give a report. If he’s sleeping it’s best that he rest. They said 9am the operation starts and it'll be finished "Worst case" 3pm and he will be back on the ward by 4. Its now 6:35 and nothing. Somethings happened. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Maybe it was more detailed than they had planned or ran into complications along the way. He may still be in surgery and you’ll need to wait it out. I know it’s not what you wanted to hear, you want answers. That’s understandable. I think at this point you’ll have to have faith that he’s in good hands. xo Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 Maybe it was more detailed than they had planned or ran into complications along the way. He may still be in surgery and you’ll need to wait it out. I know it’s not what you wanted to hear, you want answers. That’s understandable. I think at this point you’ll have to have faith that he’s in good hands. xo Something has happened I can sense it. Link to post Share on other sites
Double Helix Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Hey Shauna, I hope you have heard something by now and I hope it is good news... Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 Hey Shauna, I hope you have heard something by now and I hope it is good news... I've heard nothing Somethings happened hasn't it Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 He is back. They found a lot more cancer than they expected. His heart also got too weak and stopped towards the end of the operation. They resuscitated him. The doctor told me that its not looking good and I should call people. I want to call a priest so he can receive the last rites. I don't know who to call in relation to a Priest (IE his priest or a priest) nor who I call to come. His best friend is really really quiet. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Call a local priest of the same denomination that he is. The hospital may know of somebody too of the same faith who will come out. His heart stopping isn’t a good sign but it does happen. My own father coded for 45 minutes once and they brought him back. It’s very stressful for the hospital staff because they all need to take turns giving cpr. You’re smart to call in family and listen to the doctor right now. Your husband may surprise you all, I hope that he does, but it’s best to be prepared for the worst. Sending love, hugs and prayers xo Link to post Share on other sites
Double Helix Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 I am sorry to hear that things are not looking too good right now. I can not imagine what you must be doing through...sending you a lot of strength. I agree it’s best to listen to the doctors now. Is your husband close to a priest? Or are you close to one? I can imagine that having someone there you have a Personal relationship with and trust would be much more comforting. Otherwise just ask the hospital staff for help. Expect for the rude nurse the staff seems very sweet and helpful. I hope your husband will surprise you and that things will look up. Please eat and take care of yourself, can someone from your family in Ireland come over and give you some company? It sounds like even if your husband wil pull through the road ahead will not be easy.... Sending you lots of love. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ShaunaN Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 I am sorry to hear that things are not looking too good right now. I can not imagine what you must be doing through...sending you a lot of strength. I agree it’s best to listen to the doctors now. Is your husband close to a priest? Or are you close to one? I can imagine that having someone there you have a Personal relationship with and trust would be much more comforting. Otherwise just ask the hospital staff for help. Expect for the rude nurse the staff seems very sweet and helpful. I hope your husband will surprise you and that things will look up. Please eat and take care of yourself, can someone from your family in Ireland come over and give you some company? It sounds like even if your husband wil pull through the road ahead will not be easy.... Sending you lots of love. I really don't know who would be his priest. I've spoken to his parents. His dad said he would call a priest. He also suggested I get the hospital chaplain. I could call the Irish priest. I don't know I can't eat I'm not going to leave him I can't leave him. I can't ask my parents to come over. I need to do this its unfair they keep flying over. I'm lost. None of his friends or people he would want to say goodbye to are picking the phone up. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 Deep breath Shauna. Take a nice deep breath. Talk to the hospital staff. They should have a priest or chaplain who would be available to see you. This is not an unusual request, they should know exactly what to do. Big hug. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 (((Hugs))) Where there is life there is hope. Link to post Share on other sites
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