Klolooll Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Hey guys first time posting her, I never used a forum before for this kind of problem but I really require outside help now, the story is I've know this girl now for the best part of 10 years but roughly 4 years ago I started developing feelings for he, after a while I decided to confess and was shot down in the spot but we continued to hang out as friends and started to become closer and closer about 2 years ago we had a big fight because all our friends were seeing us always together and were always pestering us to start dating... We stopped talking for a whole month her sister told me she got herself locked in her room crying for hours, we started go get along again but not the same in the beginning of 2017 I decided I wanted to spend more time with her she didn't want that much but little by little we started hanging out more frequently and I asked our friends to stop pestering us and they respected and stopped not much happened the rest of that year but in 2018 we became really close and in the beginning of summer I was with a huge depression from my work and when I was talking to her letting my feelings out she said to me she didn't let us advance or try anything cuz shes afraid of ruining our friendship but since then she's been treating me completely different from our other friends like I do sh*t she always gets mad at me like she has a higher standard for me and we started having arguments more frequently to the point it looks like a couples fight and recently a common friend we have told me when he asked her if she didn't like me she said she didn't know anymore and when he pressured her to say yes or no she said no but avoided the conversation, and here I am I like her I'm having a wonderful time with her we go on walks, help a dog shelter, dinner, I buy her stuff she buys me stuff and I don't know if I should continue perusing her romantically or just give up... (since yesterday I've stop responding to her until I can get my head straight) Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 How old are you?? And how old is she?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Klolooll Posted January 31, 2019 Author Share Posted January 31, 2019 How old are you?? And how old is she?? We are both 24 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 At 24, I think you have logged in enough time trying to pursue a relationship. If I were you, I would think about putting that time and resources into a new individual who wants to have a relationship. You can still be friends with the original woman, just don't devote so much time and energy into the friendship. This woman sees you as a friend and does not want to advance the friendship. You have to accept that and know it will go no farther. At 24, this is the best period of your life, don't waste time trying to date someone who doesn't want you (in that way). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Klolooll Posted January 31, 2019 Author Share Posted January 31, 2019 At 24, I think you have logged in enough time trying to pursue a relationship. If I were you, I would think about putting that time and resources into a new individual who wants to have a relationship. You can still be friends with the original woman, just don't devote so much time and energy into the friendship. This woman sees you as a friend and does not want to advance the friendship. You have to accept that and know it will go no farther. At 24, this is the best period of your life, don't waste time trying to date someone who doesn't want you (in that way). I shall take your advice I already was distancing myself for a while I just got confused after my friend told me that she told him when they were alone she was not sure anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 Of course she misses you. She is used to having you around (as a friend) that is understandable. By the same token, you need to date, have relationships and enjoy your 20's. It is OK that she is not that person, but you deserve someone who wants you, romantically. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Klolooll Posted January 31, 2019 Author Share Posted January 31, 2019 Of course she misses you. She is used to having you around (as a friend) that is understandable. By the same token, you need to date, have relationships and enjoy your 20's. It is OK that she is not that person, but you deserve someone who wants you, romantically. Yeah I really do, funny enough we a year ago we both stopped dating other people and started only going out with each other Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 You gave it a try and it didn't work out. We have all had a failed "try" or two. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Klolooll Posted January 31, 2019 Author Share Posted January 31, 2019 You gave it a try and it didn't work out. We have all had a failed "try" or two. Indeed... well thanks for the help Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 31, 2019 Share Posted January 31, 2019 You're wasting your time. She isn't going to suddenly become attracted to you after all these years! Face reality. I'm sorry it's harsh, but if anything was going to happen, it would have happened years ago. By now you are like a brother to her and she is getting so familiar she feels she can scold you like one, so just stop! Start dating other women. This is never going to be a healthy relationship. She's angry because she trusted you to be just her friend and then she finds out that's not the case. She's angry because you being around is blocking her from having a real dating life! She would miss you as a friend, but she does not want you around all the time messing up her social life. Step aside. Once she gets an actual boyfriend, she will not be able to keep being friends with you in all likelihood. Because he'll know you want more and she knows it. This is unhealthy. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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