RecentChange Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 Oh I thought for sure this was a a couple in their very early 20’s! As for “how many girlfriends have sex every time they see their boyfriends”. Well, I always did. And I always wanted sex just as much as they did, if not more. But I am harking back to my 20’s - as I have been in a relationship for nearly two decades now. I am not sure what the customary habits are for people dating in their 50’s. I will say my husband texts me things much raunchier than “I want to make out” and it makes me hot for him! But I am the higher drive partner, and he knows the dirty talk gets a green flag. Like others said, communicate with him about your needs. I also really recommend sending him some flirty texts on occasion, unprovoked so that he doesn’t feel like he always has to chase, or feel undesirable 1
greymatter Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 I'm in my early 50s with a partner who is a bit younger, and we have sex every time we see each other (assuming we can be alone). We both definitely want that!
Author Stormysea2 Posted February 5, 2019 Author Posted February 5, 2019 OP, you mentioned that he wants to have sex every time you see each other. How often are the two of you seeing each other? Roughly half the time.
Author Stormysea2 Posted February 5, 2019 Author Posted February 5, 2019 I'm in my early 50s with a partner who is a bit younger, and we have sex every time we see each other (assuming we can be alone). We both definitely want that! How long have you been together?
Author Stormysea2 Posted February 5, 2019 Author Posted February 5, 2019 Oh I thought for sure this was a a couple in their very early 20’s! As for “how many girlfriends have sex every time they see their boyfriends”.” According to Healthline the average frequency committed couples have sex ranges between once a week and once a month.
RecentChange Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 Roughly half the time. Do you two see each other twice a month, 5 times a week? How often? Makes a difference!
RecentChange Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 “Health line” what is that? What was their sample size and sampling method? Surveys can very vastly - certainty something I learned earning my sociology degree. I have heard numbers more like twice a week, but this is an area that is hard to get good data on. I am 40 and have been in a relationship for 18 years. When sex is infrequent we have it about once a week or every 10 days at least. When we are “on” we have sex daily. In my relationship I would be gravely concerned if we were having it just once a month.
preraph Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 Haha!!! THANK you! I'm glad at least one person can relate! I was feeling so outnumbered. And yes, I also get the impression this site is a one-way man road. I mean he is a good guy and usually makes me very happy. But no relationship is perfect all the time, right? And we're all entitled to our feelings, even if they differ. The important thing is you spoke up and he hopefully listened and reacted nicely, so that's great. Men aren't psychic. And a lot of people assume everyone thinks the same as them and make a misstep. It wasn't anything egregious, just not your cup of tea, and you let him know. I always thought women were more interested in just being appreciated and the man thinking they're interesting, in addition to finding them sexy. I like a little mystery, myself. And I don't want anyone working themselves up to sending pictures of their junk!! 1
greymatter Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 Roughly half the time. I was asking how many times a week you see each other.
greymatter Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 How long have you been together? We've been together for 11 months. When we see each other and are alone which is 1-2 times a week, we have sex more than once per date (sorry if that's more than you wanted to know) i.e. if we are together from Friday night through Saturday evening, there is sex happening multiple times. If we see each other on a Thursday evening before a weekend date, then also.
greymatter Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 If kids or some kind of schedule issue gets in the way and there is no opportunity to stay over, then we meet for lunch or a walk or something and then there is no sex, but only at those times. Our drive is pretty well matched (first time in my life this has happened).
Author Stormysea2 Posted February 5, 2019 Author Posted February 5, 2019 Do you two see each other twice a month, 5 times a week? How often? Makes a difference! About every other day.
Author Stormysea2 Posted February 5, 2019 Author Posted February 5, 2019 The important thing is you spoke up and he hopefully listened and reacted nicely, so that's great. Men aren't psychic. And a lot of people assume everyone thinks the same as them and make a misstep. It wasn't anything egregious, just not your cup of tea, and you let him know. I always thought women were more interested in just being appreciated and the man thinking they're interesting, in addition to finding them sexy. I like a little mystery, myself. And I don't want anyone working themselves up to sending pictures of their junk!! ExACTly. We are on the same page. Those are the things that I want to be valued for in that order. Yeah I don’t really want to get him more worked up than he already is by adding sexting to the mix. I’m usually at work or with my daughter when we’re not together so it’s not really a good time for that anyhow.
BaileyB Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 As for “how many girlfriends have sex every time they see their boyfriends”. Well, I always did. And I always wanted sex just as much as they did, if not more. But I am harking back to my 20’s - as I have been in a relationship for nearly two decades now. I am not sure what the customary habits are for people dating in their 50’s. Well, I’m not in my 50’s but I’m also well past my twenties, and we would very happily have sex everytime we are together... Unfortunately, we don’t because work and life and so many other things tend to get in the way. Sometimes we are just so tired from work and life that we just cuddle and have a good nap together (he may say sometimes that is better than sex, but not me). And, not a day goes by without some kind of suggestive text sent by one to the other. But, that’s just us. We’ve been together for three years now. We are planning to move in together this summer.
greymatter Posted February 5, 2019 Posted February 5, 2019 The important thing is you spoke up and he hopefully listened and reacted nicely, so that's great. Men aren't psychic. And a lot of people assume everyone thinks the same as them and make a misstep. It wasn't anything egregious, just not your cup of tea, and you let him know. I always thought women were more interested in just being appreciated and the man thinking they're interesting, in addition to finding them sexy. I like a little mystery, myself. And I don't want anyone working themselves up to sending pictures of their junk!! Preraph, I didn't think you were dating any longer but it sounds like you are. That is awesome!
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