Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 When people break up, it takes a long, long time to get over the feelings and emotions associated with it, even the dumper struggles usually. And, the anger usually hangs around longer. And, people go back and forth between various emotions. It's just like grieving a death almost. And, it's only been a couple of months. The longer a couple has been together, the longer it takes to process everything after the break up usually. Men are notorious for masking and pushing down their emotions and anger is the one that comes through most often for them. These two had been on again/off again for all those years. And, don't you think he was doing other girls during their relationship and in between those past break ups and they still got back together??? They had problems before you came along, Emily. You were just in the right place at the right time, this time . . . Like I said it's only been a couple of months. There are tons of stories on these boards about people who had been broken up for only a couple of months, getting back together and putting aside their issues over and over again. These two did that lots of times. You think if he they did start talking again and thinking about getting back together again, he would choose a 20 year old he's only been seeing for a couple of months over a woman he'd been with for 6 years? You ain't out of the "rebound woods" yet, Emily. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 She didn’t. She found out about he and I. Because she said he lied to her. He embarrassed her when she tried to check him about me on his live in front of everyone. She went ballistic. How is that her dumping him? And this was in December. It’s March. Wouldn’t he be over his “anger” by now. He could’ve still been with her if he wanted. Sorry, I was mistaken. I agree with Redhead though, you are not out of the rebound woods yet. I also wouldn’t trust this man to be monogamous. That said, I can’t spend more time trying to convince you that this relationship is not going to be your happily ever after. You are a grown woman, capable of making a very bad decision. Trying to convince you otherwise is like trying to nail jello to a tree... there is not much more to say than good luck to you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 BaileyB, I've tried to leave this thread a couple of times. It's frightening how naive the OP is and I can see why a guy like this would/could pull in young girls like this. It's very sad. We can only hope that she is able to get out of this without any serious mental and emotional harm. We can only hope she doesn't have her own baggage for the future when this ends and it will end badly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 These two had been on again/off again for all those years. And, don't you think he was doing other girls during their relationship and in between those past break ups and they still got back together??? You ain't out of the "rebound woods" yet, Emily. I feel like you guys are purposely trying to discredit any way he may actually care for me. Like he left this woman for me. He doesn’t even want to own her text messages! Does no one think that’s a huge sign he doesn’t want to be with her? He hasn’t seen her in months. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Why does it matter so much to you what a bunch of strangers on the internet think? If you were at all confident about this man and your so called relationship you wouldn't care! The ex isn't blocked because he wants to keep an eye on her and what she's up to. The message you shared show her to be a mature individual who talks a lot of sense, your posts unfortunately show the opposite. What is the attraction of a man who not only is a convicted sex offender, a proven cheat (he must have cheated on his ex at the time his offence occurred, probably more often but wasn't caught) and posts a photo of your friend in her underwear his profile picture. This is a man who probably can't get a GF his own age or at least near to it because they wouldn't be taken by him or be happy sitting night after night in his mother's house! I can see why you feel threatened by the ex even though she had obviously moved on but can't see what you are getting out of this! Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 (edited) I feel like you guys are purposely trying to discredit any way he may actually care for me. We are purposely trying to discredit this guy. And, he discredited himself already by being a convicted sex offender/criminal/pedophile and by being 32 years old smashing it with a 20 year old girl. This entire situation is inappropriate and suspect to a spectacular degree. But he does not actually care for you and we can tell that from this side of the keyboard. One big reason we know that is that you are looking for all kinds of little tiny signs that he is somehow invested in you instead of being made to feel confident and secure in the relationship by HIM. A woman whose boyfriend is making her feel special, feel like a priority, treating her well, showing her off, making it clear to his family and friends that she is his girlfriend, will not be worrying about whether or not his mother is friending her on Facebook and whether or not he is ignoring his Exs texts, etc. This guy doesn't give a crap about you and like I said earlier, if you stopped being intimate with him and started requiring more of him in terms of a demonstration of commitment, etc., you'd be at the curb. End of story. Edited March 4, 2019 by Redhead14 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Is this your first relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 Is this your first relationship? No I just got out of a relationship in October 2018. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 No I just got out of a relationship in October 2018. Why did that relationship end? Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 He may very well like you. But, he's a guy on house arrest. How many women would settle for that in a boyfriend? I'm going to guess he doesn't have a lot of options. Why are you settling for this? Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 (edited) He may very well like you. But, he's a guy on house arrest. How many women would settle for that in a boyfriend? I'm going to guess he doesn't have a lot of options. Why are you settling for this? We asked this question numerous times. Why would any woman want that? I like to go out, to be able to be seen with my BF, do things/go places with him. Share experiences. Have common goals in life. Be able to plan for a nice future. Not be couped up in his mother's house like laying around a crack house or something with nothing to do except maybe watch tv, have sex and be on my phone. What a waste of life even for a short time, let alone for an extended period. Even as young women, we women here/I, expected and demanded better for ourselves than this guy. That's for darn sure. Edited March 4, 2019 by Redhead14 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 @Redhead14 because I think he felt I was too clingy Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 @Redhead14 because I think he felt I was too clingy Looks like you're setting yourself up for that situation again. You said earlier that you're ALWAYS there, always . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Have you ever thought that your standards are WAY too low? I mean a convicted sex offender who is living with his Mom and you have to go to his house to see him because he's wearing an ankle bracelet is REALLY low on the list of men 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Y'all have been trying to talk Emily out of this relationship for a month now. It may be time to throw in the towel and let her learn the hard way. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Y'all have been trying to talk Emily out of this relationship for a month now. It may be time to throw in the towel and let her learn the hard way. Gorilla, we know I've tried to leave it alone but it makes me sick to my stomach think about her situation. It's terrible. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 [quote=Wallysbears;7750679 I mean a convicted sex offender who is living with his Mom and you have to go to his house to see him because he's wearing an ankle bracelet is REALLY low on the list of men[/ He can leave his home lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 He can leave his home lol. You totally missed the point. What is SO great about this guy? Is he like super good looking? Rich? Amazing in bed? A celebrity that you think elevates your own social status? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 @Wally yes he’s super good looking! So handsome. I can even admit his ex is beautiful. Like STUNNING. I feel like she looks down on me Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Ok, so you think this guy is attractive. Do you have good self-esteem? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 Do you have good self-esteem? I do. You all are treating this like he treats me bad. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 @Wally yes he’s super good looking! So handsome. I can even admit his ex is beautiful. Like STUNNING. I feel like she looks down on me Rather than looking down on you, I think she's more likely worried for you. She knows that your young age is a large part of what draws him to you. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 (edited) he treats you well because you are young and at your most radiant and beautiful and that is the problem you have a shelf-life, we all do, which is why we are suspicious of him, him who knows the perfection of youth will pass one day you don't need concealer, but then you notice your under-eye looks a bit grey, then a few fine lines develop, wrinkles are developing... Edited March 4, 2019 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Frankly, I think she has to look down on you, Emily because you're lowering yourself by being with him . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 5, 2019 Author Share Posted March 5, 2019 (edited) By look down I mean as if she’s better than me. You all keep pointing out age. She’s like 28. She looks really young. Not gonna lie, the girl is stunning. Really really pretty. She’s just mouthy, questioned him too much and is mean as he said. So when i say look down on me she thinks she’s better. She’s not out of shape or anything. She’s a dancer. She is probably going to be an NBA dancer this year. This is why I want her away completely. I just could see her throwing that in his face. That she made it after they broke up. Because she missed her audition last year because of him. And I’m just over her and I want her away. Edited March 5, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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