darkmoon Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 when was she last around to worry about? this thread has already been going for a week or so... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 5, 2019 Author Share Posted March 5, 2019 @darkmoon when she sent him a text a few days ago basically stating she was happy they separated because she’s happier and met new friends and stuff like that. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 (edited) so she orbits around, making you nervous, if you are his, then he must do something, make some gesture to set your mind at rest... if he trivializes your concerns, trivialize him back as for the she "questioned him too much" he is hinting to you not to question him - i suspect you took the hint to make him happy - like he is so high and mighty, that nobody has rights but him he might dazzle you, but oldies like me can see his head-games, his manipulation, a mile away. Edited March 5, 2019 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 5, 2019 Author Share Posted March 5, 2019 so she orbits around, . EXACTLY. She does. It’s like she’s not here.... but she is. He hasn’t blocked her on anything. She could contact him right now if she wants. He says “I don’t block people” whenever I ask him why Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 (edited) EXACTLY. She does. It’s like she’s not here.... but she is. He hasn’t blocked her on anything. She could contact him right now if she wants. He says “I don’t block people” whenever I ask him why But making you happy is his job. I bet he can see sadness and confusion in your eyes, no spontaneous fun and laughs lately. He just drags you along anyway. What are you caught up in? He plays on your understandable need to be his favourite, and he uses the ex to keep you on your toes. Don't you just want a man who makes you secure? A better man who appreciates you? A fancy dinner date? God Bless you. I can add nothing more xo Edited March 5, 2019 by darkmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 8, 2019 Author Share Posted March 8, 2019 she has to look down on you, Emily because you're lowering yourself by being with him . . . Finally something happened that I did not like today. His birthday is next week. He made a huge post for his celebration on Facebook. Tagged everyone even random friends.... but not me That bothered me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 13, 2019 Author Share Posted March 13, 2019 so she orbits around, making you nervous, if you are his, then he must do something, make some gesture to set your mind at rest... if he trivializes your concerns, trivialize him back . So he actually ghosted me. He doesn’t call me or anything anymore. I have no idea what went wrong. I found out yesterday that he contacted the scorned ones male bestfriend asking him to call him. As I’ve stated before the scorned one is a dancer and her male bestfriend is a professional choreographer. They all USED to be cool until he broke up with the scorned one. So It makes me wonder why he’s asking her bestfriend to contact him. Knowing that he’s still best friends with her?. He told me he never said he and I were dating. We were no strings attached. I asked him is he looking to get his ex back because he’s contacting her best friend who I’m sure will tell her! And to make it worse he contacted him on his own bday so instead of celebrating his birthday, he’s messaging her friend asking him to call him. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 You need to move on with your life Emily. Consider this, a bullet dodged. Link to post Share on other sites
darkmoon Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 But making you happy is his job. I bet he can see sadness and confusion in your eyes, no spontaneous fun and laughs lately. He just drags you along anyway. What are you caught up in? He plays on your understandable need to be his favourite, and he uses the ex to keep you on your toes. Don't you just want a man who makes you secure? A better man who appreciates you? A fancy dinner date? God Bless you. I can add nothing more xo I also sent you this, which was my actual last comment ps.. next time, ffs, get your dad to meet them in future 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 13, 2019 Share Posted March 13, 2019 (edited) He told me he never said he and I were dating. We were no strings attached Emily, we kept telling you that his family wasn't acknowledging you as "the girlfriend" because he never treated you like a girlfriend and never told them you were his girlfriend. They could see that he wasn't "all that" about you. They knew that. You've been insecure about this guy which is why you were so wrapped up in what was going on with the Ex. This guy wasn't doing enough, if anything, to make you feel secure in the relationship. Just because a guy is having sex with a girl and calling her on the phone in between, doesn't mean she's his girlfriend. If the guy isn't making it clear in other ways that you are his girlfriend and he's having sex with you, you aren't a girlfriend, you're just another girl he's banging. If this guy was doing a good job of treating you like a girlfriend and making you feel special, etc., you wouldn't have been thinking much about his Ex, if at all. In this case, your gut was telling you something, I think. I'm sorry this happened to you. Take it as a lesson learned and learn how to expect more for yourself from a man in terms of how he's treating you and what he has to offer you. You deserve a really good, quality man, with little to no baggage/drama attached to him and one who has a lot to offer, one you can really have a good time with and share life experiences with. Now go out and find a nice young man, nearer to your age, who has a bright future and is making plans for that. In the meantime, start making a plan for yourself and what you want for yourself and your future and do what's required to achieve those goals. Best of luck to you. Edited March 13, 2019 by Redhead14 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 15, 2019 Share Posted March 15, 2019 But why does his EX have to be a part of our relationship? You just said EX. Meaning they aren’t together and she hasn’t tried to speak to him in months. Ex means they’re over. You know that right? His ex is a part of your relationship because he allows her to be a part of your relationship. Period. Every human understands the meaning of the word "no" by the age of 18 months... he hasn't used that word effectively enough with his ex for it to stick. That is the long and short of it. To him, ex doesn't mean anything is over, if she is still popping up. You might be 20, but you're still seeing things in black and white, as 20 year olds are wont to do. You can't see the shades of grey yet--and that is what Mr. 32 and Ms. 26 are seeing and dealing in. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 15, 2019 Author Share Posted March 15, 2019 You might be 20, but you're still seeing things in black and white, as 20 year olds are wont to do. You can't see the shades of grey yet--and that is what Mr. 32 and Ms. 26 are seeing and dealing in. Could you explain what you mean by this? Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 15, 2019 Share Posted March 15, 2019 What Kendahke means is that you are only 20 years old and "you ain't seen nuthin yet". You don't have a clue about what goes on in the world and between people yet and what relationships are about. You haven't experienced very much yet at all. Be focused on just you, what you see for yourself in the future and do what's needed to accomplish your goals. And, just have fun in life right now while you can. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 15, 2019 Share Posted March 15, 2019 You might do well to go over to the Dating and/or Relationship forums on these boards. You'll see just how difficult it can be to navigate in dating and relationships especially if a person isn't experienced and doesn't understand what to look and watch out for. You'll learn from experience, which is the best way, really but you, for sure, were going down a path that wasn't a good beginning for a young woman into the world of relationships/boyfriends, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 16, 2019 Author Share Posted March 16, 2019 . You'll see just how difficult it can be to navigate in dating and relationships especially if a person isn't experienced and doesn't understand what to look and watch out for. . Well everyone who surrounds him hates her. His parents don’t want them together. He had to sneak her in. He SAID he hated her. There’s NO WAY she could have feelings for her. If he loved her THAT much to go against what everyone says.... I would’ve seen it. She would’ve been around. I don’t feel I was naive with that Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 The opposite of love isn't hate. It's indifference. Saying that he hates her only shows that he has strong feelings about her. He snuck her in because he wanted to see her despite what everyone else said. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 16, 2019 Author Share Posted March 16, 2019 [quote=basil67;7759600 He snuck her in because he wanted to see her despite what everyone else said. Your theory is off since HE’S the one who told everyone how she is which is why they hate her Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 Your theory is off since HE’S the one who told everyone how she is which is why they hate her When you experience this as a friend or family of a person who complains about their partner, you will see that it's not uncommon. One day it will happen that a friend will tell you about all kinds of dreadful things about their partner. You will see that the partner is a nasty person. But that friend will just keep on seeing them anyway because for some reason they are unwilling to let go. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 Well everyone who surrounds him hates her. His parents don’t want them together. He had to sneak her in. He SAID he hated her. There’s NO WAY she could have feelings for her. If he loved her THAT much to go against what everyone says.... I would’ve seen it. She would’ve been around. I don’t feel I was naive with that Okie, dokie, then. The bottom line though is that YOU weren't his girlfriend or else he'd still be calling you and you'd still be around. We told you to stop worrying about the Ex and focus on you and how he was making you feel in terms of where you were with him -- and, guess what, we were right. And, here's something else we might be right about -- sure, he was likely mad at her at some point, etc. and the family backed him up. But, once the dust settled and the reality that he was losing her set in, he started having second thoughts, perhaps -- just like he did all the numerous times they had broken up and gotten back together during the course of those 6 years. History often repeats itself and the bang material in between is the last to know usually. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 Your theory is off since HE’S the one who told everyone how she is which is why they hate her It seems you don't want to listen to anything people are telling you on this forum and you seem to know the answers. If this is the case, what do you want from LoveShack? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 Emily, gaslighting is a power tool of mental and emotional manipulation . . . Do you think girls will sleep with him if they think he's still into his Ex? In other words, he's gonna act like he's done with her to get laid until . . . Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 16, 2019 Author Share Posted March 16, 2019 Do you think girls will sleep with him if they think he's still into his Ex? In other words, he's gonna act like he's done with her to get laid until . . . I know for a fact his family hates her. That’s why she had to sneak in. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 I know for a fact his family hates her. That’s why she had to sneak in. Then what are you worried about? You know everything. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 16, 2019 Share Posted March 16, 2019 I know for a fact his family hates her. That’s why she had to sneak in. Kind of like Romeo and Juliet... two star crossed lovers, coming together despite the wishes of their family... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted March 17, 2019 Author Share Posted March 17, 2019 Okie, dokie, then. The bottom line though is that YOU weren't his girlfriend or else he'd still be calling you and you'd still be around. We told you to stop worrying about the Ex and focus on you and how he he bang material in between is the last to know usually. My father found out and got really mad. When I told him I’m legal he said that “legal” is a disgusting way of looking at it because the guy has a 14 year old son. He said to me that anyone who justifies this with legal is sick. You all told me to stop worrying about his ex but are now trying to make it like he secretly loves her. If that’s the case.... why doesn’t he message her? They’re not blocked from eachother. Why doesn’t he call and reach out. If he loves her so much? Wouldn’t he be torturing himself not being with her ? Link to post Share on other sites
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