elaine567 Posted February 17, 2019 Share Posted February 17, 2019 And it’s hard to believe an ex who seems bitter over a break up when everyone who surrounds him doesn’t know think highly of her. At all. I am not ashamed I just know the judgement would come. My dads too over protective Everyone?? You said... "Yeah I don’t appreciate a comment on of his friends made. He said to him “I thought you were gonna get your Life to get i thought you were gonna be with this girl (scorned) and you were gonna get your life together” ugh they treat her like she’s his savior." I know you do not see it but you will not be seen as gf material to these guys and girls in his circle. You are just some girl he is using at the moment for sex. If that is fine by you, then carry on, have some fun for a while till he gets bored, picks up some other "hotter" girl, or goes back to his ex, but do not expect to be taken seriously here. You need to learn to look after No. 1 and that is YOU. At 20 you can have your choice of men, forget about old pervy DJs, with mad exes who cause nothing but trouble for you. Go seek out some real fun. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted February 17, 2019 Share Posted February 17, 2019 (edited) You did state that his friends and family followed her on social media. It's somewhere in these 12 pages of you only answering the points you want to! So have you looked into your BF's criminal record like any responsible adult would? This is not something like theft it's a sex offence with a minor, you can't take the offender's word for what happened. My guess is you somehow think this guy is something to be proud of catching. A dj on social media. Wrong, this is a 32 year old sex offender who broadcasts out of his mother's home, he's not going to be the next big thing and you'll never make it big by being by his side. Bad enough he's already talked you and your friends into some seedy video, better watch or it'll be something more x-rated next time! Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fix spacing 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 17, 2019 Author Share Posted February 17, 2019 (edited) You did state that his friends and family followed her on social media. It's somewhere in these 12 pages of you only answering the points you want to!<snip> I did look since everyone kept suggesting I should. Andhis record says “sexual actswith 16 or 17 year old minor” that I knew already. As I’ve stated he said he did not know of her age. And yes his friends and family did follow her on social media but I stated that his family does not like her at the moment. I’m just trying to see the good in this situation. He’s judged by everyone all the time. Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 17, 2019 Share Posted February 17, 2019 (edited) He’s judged by everyone all the time. He was judged by a jury and convicted in a court of law by adults who were mature, had no personal interest in the outcome of the trial, presented with documents and testimony from all sides and not just his side. The jury didn't trust or believe his side of the story because they are not biased relatives or 20 year old girls blinded by hormones and wanting attention from older men even if they don't know them very well at all and are clearly creeps. I hope someday you will raise your standards for what you want in a man. Like, ya know, at least the ability to give you a good life and not a creep. This guy is going to be 37 years old when the ankle bracelet is removed. You'll be 25. It's hard enough building a good life starting from a younger age let alone starting over at almost 40 years old with a criminal history. And, by the way, a guy in his late 20s knows when a girl probably looks older than she is and smart enough not to take that chance. If he wasn't, then he's not only guilty of raping a minor, he is also guilty of being stupid and/or just not caring how old she was. It's all three for him anyway,I'd say. Maybe your minimum standard for dating a guy could be that they are not stupid and doesn't only think with and follow his d*ck and then build on that. Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote, bold, add paragraphs Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 17, 2019 Share Posted February 17, 2019 (edited) Bad Boys Be Winning. The only problem is that this guy is not a "boy". He's a 32 year man (using that term loosely) with nothing to offer a woman so he looks for young girls who have nothing to offer a grown, 32 year old man except snatch. That's not winning. It's pathetic. That makes him a pathetic loser. Edited February 17, 2019 by Redhead14 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 18, 2019 Author Share Posted February 18, 2019 (edited) Hey redhead let me know when you’re present , there’s something I want you to readRe Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redact quote of prior post Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 (edited) <snip>And yes his friends and family did follow her on social media but I stated that his family does not like her at the moment. <snip> Truthfully who cares what his family likes. This isn't some good guy with a bright future who is a catch. His family should be happy anyone is interested in him and I doubt he is picking girls for his family's approval. Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 18, 2019 Author Share Posted February 18, 2019 (edited) The only problem is that this guy is not a "boy". He's a 32 year man (using that term loosely) with nothing to offer a woman so he looks for young girls who have nothing to offer a grown, 32 year old man except snatch. That's not winning. It's pathetic. That makes him a pathetic loser. One of my friends Read her blog on blogger . She likes to blog and “empower” herself supposedly. I copied and pasted cause I wanted you to read. Because that blog did nothing but show she is weak over him still. Dealing with betrayal is the hardest thing ever....but why is it so hard when I saw it coming? I remember how important I felt. I was finally connecting with his family. I drove an hour to my house so that they could hear his voice on the phone. They were so nice to me. They told me they were planning a big party for when he came home and I was invited. I was happy. FINALLY we were gonna be on the right path. When he came home, everything changed. I saw him the first night. After that I would have to beg to see him. He wanted to hang out with the friends that weren’t there for him and I wasn’t important. He told me I was too old to dance.... I missed an important audition because of him. That family party happened and I wasn’t invited. He said “family only” but I thought I was family too.... I didn’t understand what I did wrong. Did I gain weight? .... maybe he didn’t find me pretty.... I didn’t understand it. He told me his mother thought I was the devil.... why? I hadn’t done anything. “Because of your past” he said...... what past? You mean every time I got upset because you were hurting me? How come no one cares how I felt? Some weeks we’d be good other weeks we wouldn’t speak....he’d make me sneak in.... why’d I have to sneak in? “Because my mother doesn’t like you!” I remember the pain I felt when he said that.... it felt like nothing I ever did would be good enough for his family. The next month he forgot my birthday.... “IM SORRY I FORGOT! I HAVE A LOT GOING ON IN MY HEART OK!” Is what he said..... I let it slide.... at least he said sorry right? He never says sorry.... I guess. The next week he was incredibly sweet.... like a significant other.....a real one... maybe he wants to be with me now? Nope he’s just moody and confusing..... the next week I questioned him as to why we can’t hang out.... I got called a bitch and told he hopes I die. Why was I questioning him???? He told me he hates it. Because I wasn’t gonna be a doormat anymore that’s why. He said he hopes I die and I hung up. Yes like he hopes I don’t exist anymore..... that’s what he wanted....It was October..... then November.... then December.... we talked.... he said he didn’t want to talk about saying he hopes I die. “Did you mean it?” “.....No” is what he said..... was he unsure? Or too cowardly to admit he felt something?? He told me he needed to see me.... but then cancelled.... he said tomorrow? Tomorrow came.... He went live on Instagram instead of hanging out with me. Why couldn’t I be there? He wasn’t doing anything.... we argued “you sound like a broken record” is what he told me. Finally I asked that dreaded question..... are you sleeping with someone else? ..... I’ll never forget.....”yes”..... I burst into tears..... how could he? Who was she ? “Someone” is what he said.... “does your family know?” “Yes” *make the tears stop* I felt overwhelmed with sadness and pain..... that stomach dropping instant heartbreak that I was so used to with him. Then i see this video. He’s surrounded by these non 21 year olds in underwear. I mean one of them had braces.... are you kidding ? They all looked so young. For christ sake He didn’t like me to wear tights to the gym and he’s putting these girls on the internet in panties..... he doesn’t respect you ladies. Then it dawned on me..... he doesn’t HAVE To respect them. They don’t talk back like me, they aren’t feisty like me and he can do whatever he wants..... he wanted me to feel that at 28 I am “old” when I’m still a baby to some. He didn’t want me to dance cause I’d be better in life than him. And I’d have my own identity..... I wouldn’t be breakable.... I threw myself into dance and I plan to audition in 4 months. Some days I cry before I dance but I feel good knowing I’m doing something I love. And creating my own identity. I’m not 100% healed yet but I’m gaining wonderful experience on this journey. Healing is power As you can see she makes snide comments on how he doesn’t respect me. And she’s not getting over it. I copied and pasted it. And before you make fun of my friends for looking at her blog, we laughed at it. Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Properly quote off-site content, add paragraphs Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 (edited) Good for her. She sounds like she is a woman who has been deeply hurt and by a scum bag and is venting for release. It also sounds as though she is smart and finding way to work through the hurt like a grown up woman should do. And, her statement "he wanted me to feel that at 28 I am “old” totally confirms what we've been telling you -- that he will dump you as soon as he feels you are "too" old because he likes 'em young and he knew exactly what he was doing when he raped that minor girl. I hope you don't have a younger sister and, if you do, don't ever let her be alone with him. Ever. Because if you allow that you will essentially be an accomplice when he molests and/or rapes her. "she makes snide comments on how he doesn’t respect me" He doesn't. But what's worse than that, is you don't respect YOURSELF. Edited February 18, 2019 by Redhead14 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 18, 2019 Author Share Posted February 18, 2019 (edited) He told her she’s too old to be auditioning for dance because she wants to be an Nba dancer and trains for it. That’s what she was referring to her auditioning for in 4 months. I don’t have a younger sister. I really felt he would be with her still if they didn’t argue as much as he told me. Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redact quote of prior post Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 As you can see she makes snide comments on how he doesn’t respect me. And before you make fun of my friends for looking at her blog, we laughed at it. The fact that you laughed at her post with your friends shows your maturity level... There is a lot of truth and wisdom in this post. You are just too young and frankly, ignorant to realize that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 (edited) I don't see any snide comments, I see a woman who is finally breaking free from a bad situation and doing something that makes her feel better within herself. As Bailey said the fact that you and your friends laughed at this post only reflects poorly only you and your immaturity. I'm curious, do you work or go to college? What do you do apart from hang about with this man? Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fix spacing Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 19, 2019 Author Share Posted February 19, 2019 (edited) The only reason I laughed is because she said that he doesn’t respect us.... meanwhile she got dumped. Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redact quote of prior post Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 He doesn’t respect any of you. At least she has the good sense now to realize that he is no good. She is moving on with her life, having learned a valuable lesson - something that you still have not learned... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst68 Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Yeah cause nothing says respect like persuading young girls to dance around in their underwear. Before you start saying it was for a music vid I take it there wasn't any auditions, any professional dancers lining up? Just some young girl who started randomly turning up at his house and her friends. No matter how it happened his ex is well out of it and moving on with her life! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 19, 2019 Author Share Posted February 19, 2019 (edited) I wish you could actually see the video so you wouldn’t be so judgmental Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redact quote of prior post Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 (edited) Seeing that video won't change one thing about the fact that a 32 year-old convicted sex offender is having young girls parade around for him in their underwear under guise of making a music video. What a crock of bullsh*t. Unless this guy is majorly famous with some kind of credibility, you are being used PERIOD. Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Redact quote of prior post Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 19, 2019 Author Share Posted February 19, 2019 @redhead14 just trying to show you that the video was all fun. It was nothing that was inappropriate Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 20, 2019 Author Share Posted February 20, 2019 So being “famous” would make him a good person to you? Music is really all he has. He actually is trying to make a life for himself. Is he not supposed to have a life? It’s hurtful. He’s actually trying to make a life for himself. She’s upset because she’s bitter so she reports him. That’s interfering with how he makes a living. So because he’s a SO, he can’t make a living? If he was famous would it be ok if I was in his video ? Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 (edited) If he was famous would it be ok if I was in his video ? It's not really about famous so much as it about being credible and legitimate and offering a product produced by professionals with the intent of a professional purpose and outcome. Instead of, a perve who is a convicted sex offender pretending to make something valuable and exploiting young women for his personal pleasure and/or his buddies or social media followers who are likely as perverted as he is. Music is all he has . . . it might not have been this way if he used his big head instead of the little head . . . The root of the issue is that a 32 year old convicted sex offender is using and "dating" 20 year old girls . . . that's disgusting. Edited February 20, 2019 by Redhead14 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 Fame is an illusion. This is my opinion, and no doubt you will find it very judgmental... But, this is a 32 year old man who doesn’t want to grow up. Despite his conviction, he continues to participate in a youth oriented culture where alcohol and drugs are abundant, sex and the exploitation of women are the norm, and he is exposed to all the things that have caused him problems in the past. If he was really serious about making a life for himself, he would distance himself from this culture, perhaps get an education, or find a job that provides more service to society than playing music at parties and making music videos with young girls. It’s hard to take that seriously - especially for a man who is old enough to be a responsible, contributing member of society. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 Fame is an illusion. This is my opinion, and no doubt you will find it very judgmental... But, this is a 32 year old man who doesn’t want to grow up. Despite his conviction, he continues to participate in a youth oriented culture where alcohol and drugs are abundant, sex and the exploitation of women are the norm, and he is exposed to all the things that have caused him problems in the past. If he was really serious about making a life for himself, he would distance himself from this culture, perhaps get an education, or find a job that provides more service to society than playing music at parties and making music videos with young girls. It’s hard to take that seriously - especially for a man who is old enough to be a responsible, contributing member of society. Yep. He hasn't learned anything. If he wants to make a serious change in his life and set himself up for a better life as an ex-con, he needs to stop being involved with young people and their culture. He sticks out like a sore thumb and the authorities are likely taking note . . . Mixing it up with barely legal girls is going to be scrutinized and one more case of "oh, I didn't know how old she was" happens again, it's back to prison. And, it won't be pretty. There are programs offered to ex-cons that help them learn new skills and prepare them for a new, adult and responsible life in the world. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emilyperkins Posted February 20, 2019 Author Share Posted February 20, 2019 There are programs offered to ex-cons that help them learn new skills and prepare them for a new, adult and responsible life in the world. He takes classes that are required of him for his probation. His Probation officer knows what his ex has been doing. He has stated that he’s let his him know Incase she tries to get him in trouble. So his probation officer knows what’s going on. So he’s not sneaking and doing anything that would send him away. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 He takes classes that are required of him for his probation. His Probation officer knows what his ex has been doing. He has stated that he’s let his him know Incase she tries to get him in trouble. So his probation officer knows what’s going on. So he’s not sneaking and doing anything that would send him away. That's what he tells you . . . LOL. That's crock of baloney. A probation officer doesn't give a rats ass about an ex-cons ex. Paleeze LOLLLLLLLLLL Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 20, 2019 Share Posted February 20, 2019 His Probation officer knows what his ex has been doing. He has stated that he’s let his him know Incase she tries to get him in trouble. His ex is not the problem here. If anything gets him in trouble again, it will not be his ex girlfriend... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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