Author Samuel_22 Posted February 8, 2019 Author Share Posted February 8, 2019 It's entirely up to you. But if she is open to a fresh start & you think that is something you want, go for it. You have to figure out what you want. In this thread alone you have changed your mind at least 2x. d0nnivain this is because I don't trust women anymore, I have been with a lot of girls and I have been in a lot of relationships, but I have only fallen in love twice before, both ended with a kind of betrayal, those I was not in love with, loved me like crazy, those 2 I loved, didn't love me back... My guard is up somehow because she has the potential to be my number 3... I am really into her, but believe me that I don't want another night with my tears in my eyes and all over the town, I am emotional, I don't like to admit it, but I am. I really don't know anymore... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samuel_22 Posted February 8, 2019 Author Share Posted February 8, 2019 Only if you truly mean it. The problem is I don't know what to do... I am emotionally and physically drained at the moment, tired of everything... I should keep hiding my emotions from now on, I shouldn't tell her I love her, until she can reconnect, and all I keep hearing here is, she will leave. Do you think there is a chance? or do you think I am postponing the inevitable? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 8, 2019 Share Posted February 8, 2019 You are over thinking everything. In doing so you are ruining it all. Chill. Keep your thoughts about love to yourself. Say nothing. For now, see her at work. Be professional. Go on occasional dates, no more then 2 per week. Let her dictate where this is going & how fast. Guard your heart & keep your mouth shut on the subject of "relationships" & "what are we?" Get to know each other as people. At this point you should only be thinking about 1-2 weeks ahead. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samuel_22 Posted February 8, 2019 Author Share Posted February 8, 2019 You are over thinking everything. In doing so you are ruining it all. Chill. Keep your thoughts about love to yourself. Say nothing. For now, see her at work. Be professional. Go on occasional dates, no more then 2 per week. Let her dictate where this is going & how fast. Guard your heart & keep your mouth shut on the subject of "relationships" & "what are we?" Get to know each other as people. At this point you should only be thinking about 1-2 weeks ahead. Alright sounds like a plan, I will do as you said. I don't know how to thank you for all your time and attention, people like you are one in a million Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samuel_22 Posted February 9, 2019 Author Share Posted February 9, 2019 (edited) [update] Now that I am playing it cool as d0nnivain said, she is showering me with a lot of attention and love, I am kind towards her, that's in my nature, but I don't say anything romantic like she does now because I am afraid, do you think I am involved with a player, she is playing hot and cold or is it unintentional, do you think I am in a toxic relationship? she was close to her period the night she told me those things, but can it change a woman's behavior this much? Edited February 9, 2019 by Samuel_22 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted February 9, 2019 Share Posted February 9, 2019 Be authentic. You can't change your core self. Dating is a try out. At only 2 months do you really want the drama? That **** gets old really quick. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 9, 2019 Share Posted February 9, 2019 she was close to her period the night she told me those things, but can it change a woman's behavior this much? Not in my experience, no. It can make us moodier, of course, but pre-menstrual hormonal fluctuations are generally not going to make us suddenly disinterested in our partners - if we're really into them. I think you have a young and fickle girl here, OP. She likes the ego boost of your attention but she doesn't appear to be ready for a serious relationship with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samuel_22 Posted February 9, 2019 Author Share Posted February 9, 2019 Not in my experience, no. It can make us moodier, of course, but pre-menstrual hormonal fluctuations are generally not going to make us suddenly disinterested in our partners - if we're really into them. I think you have a young and fickle girl here, OP. She likes the ego boost of your attention but she doesn't appear to be ready for a serious relationship with you. This is so true. I have the same feeling, but don't you think it is too much to ask for anything serious only after two months? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Samuel_22 Posted February 9, 2019 Author Share Posted February 9, 2019 Be authentic. You can't change your core self. Dating is a try out. At only 2 months do you really want the drama? That **** gets old really quick. I am not playing any game, I just want to protect me, as her intentions are not clear to me, the last time we spoke she said this change is needed so that we can know each other better, she said she wanted to know if we could make it... That was cool, but right now these reactions don't simply makes sense, if our friend is right and she just wants my attention and not anything serious, why should I give her what she wants? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 9, 2019 Share Posted February 9, 2019 This is so true. I have the same feeling, but don't you think it is too much to ask for anything serious only after two months? Yes, which is also why I think it's silly that she'd been telling you how much she loved you within 2 months too. Link to post Share on other sites
PRW Posted February 11, 2019 Share Posted February 11, 2019 No offense intended to your friend, but this is nonsense. If we are into you, we aren't suddenly worried the relationship will become boring, and we sure won't essentially tell you to back off.I'll ditto this for sure. It is nonsense. Even besides what he "coach" said doing stuff like this never "saves" anything. Link to post Share on other sites
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