After 3 months, he confessed he’s a MM, so I was unknowingly the OW

[Jjigae]

Possibly the things he said are part of it. Guilt also comes to mind as you said. Possibly also self-protection in that if shows no consideration of your feelings at all you are more likely to talk to his wife out of anger.

 

So, a combination of multiple reasons at once perhaps?

 

Yes, I agree, thanks again. I'm certainly not going to ask him -- 9 days of NC, hooray!

[mark clemson]

Yes, keep it up Jjigae. With this kind of deception there's nothing worth going back to. The faster you move on, the sooner you're healed up emotionally and the sooner you can start a relationship worth having.

 

Wish you all the best!

[Jjigae]

Yes, keep it up Jjigae. With this kind of deception there's nothing worth going back to. The faster you move on, the sooner you're healed up emotionally and the sooner you can start a relationship worth having.

 

Wish you all the best!

 

Thanks for the encouragement!

 

You know, when I started NC, I didn't realize its power. But now that I've done it for over a week, I realize it really really helps. I'm now able to see that the previous RL was all built on lies that he created. He knew the truth (about all the lies from the start), and I didn't.

 

And I'm beginning to accept that I deserve better. I deserve someone who can actually commit to me for real. That may seem small but I promise you that it's big for me in my progress. Thank you again, LS folx

[mark clemson]

Of course you deserve that, Jjigae - absolutely true!

[stillafool]

You do deserve better Jjigae and with your attitude you will surely get it. Stay strong.