Hopeful30 Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 I'm curious how men feel about being single. I realize that it depends very much on the individual, but as a general observation I've noticed that women who don't want to be single blame outwardly (there are no good men out there!) and men who don't want to be single blame inwardly (i'm not tall enough, rich enough, etc.) Just curious if this is a true generalization? For me personally, I believe I'm still single (when I don't want to be) because I haven't found the right man. I blame myself a little bit for wanting what I want (and wish that I wanted less) but truth is I can't compromise myself. I made a promise long ago not to betray myself anymore -- surprise, surprise, years later I'm still single ha! But I feel better about myself, and I value that more than a relationship status. What about you single gentlemen? Does being single affect you this much? Or is it easier not to be bothered? Just curious if there's a difference between the sexes when it comes to feelings related to being single. Cheers! Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 They hate being without regular sex..... 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 They hate being without regular sex..... I'm 100% in agreement with this statement!! I never - ever want to be married, but I like having regular sex. It can be with a FWB or a girlfriend, don't really care. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted February 15, 2019 Author Share Posted February 15, 2019 I'm 100% in agreement with this statement!! I never - ever want to be married, but I like having regular sex. It can be with a FWB or a girlfriend, don't really care. Hmmm.. I guess this supports the notion that women have a powerful influence over men with their sexuality. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 I know a lot of single men who really really (REALLY) wish they had a girlfriend... so nope, gonna guess that there's no difference, or perhaps even that men are more likely to be unhappy with singlehood. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 Hmmm.. I guess this supports the notion that women have a powerful influence over men with their sexuality. To some extent... if it becomes too much work to have sex with one particular woman, I'll quickly move onto the next. Plenty of fish in the sea... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LastStraw Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 I've had multiple talks with men on the topic and the consensus is, sans the regular sex, there isn't much that a man misses out from not being in a relationship. Many solve the problem radically by using escorts and never even reach out to attempt 'dating'... Exceptions are of course men looking to have a child, then they need a woman for obvious reasons lol. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 Not all women hate being single. I loved it until I met my husband. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
LastStraw Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 To some extent... if it becomes too much work to have sex with one particular woman, I'll quickly move onto the next. Plenty of fish in the sea... Yeah and the nagging how much they want to be a wifey after 1-2 years of dating lol. Next is always an option, naggers don't account this in the plan... Link to post Share on other sites
allofme Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 Most of the guys I know want to be in a relationship more than my girl friends. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 Yeah and the nagging how much they want to be a wifey after 1-2 years of dating lol. Next is always an option, naggers don't account this in the plan... Again... in agreement, here. Most of my relationships dissolved at 2 years just for that very reason. The women started in about commitment, marriage, etc. and I'm gone... Onto the next! My present long term girlfriend never wants to re-marry and since I never wanted to get married (in the first place), we are in agreement on that major subject. So it works. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Johnjohnson2017 Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 Men who want a serious relationship hate being single. The ones who only want to play the field love being single. I hated being single. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Wallysbears Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 I don't think there is anywhere close to a one size fits all answer to this question. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 i loved being single after my first marriage ended. It felt like the war was finally over and there was peace. I also love being married to my wife more than you could imagine but if I never met her or a woman as good as her I would gladly be single. That being said men don't all think alike and neither do women. People are individuals and not defined by their gender. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LauraXX Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 Nah, I don't think so. I absolutely loved being single for several years after my last break-up! And I know several guys who can't stand to be alone and jump from one relationship into the next. Of course it's the other way around for a lot of people, but I don't think you can generalize. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
T-Rexus Posted February 15, 2019 Share Posted February 15, 2019 I hate being single. And yes there is so much more than just the sex. I miss having somebody to do activities with. I miss going out to eat with somebody and her giving an input on what she wants. Most of all I miss the intimacy. One of my favorite memories with my ex is that we would be when we're watching TV she would lay on the couch and put her legs over my lap as I'm sitting up. Lastly coming home from work and having somebody waiting for me is an amazing feeling that I've only got to experience a couple of times. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hopeful30 Posted February 15, 2019 Author Share Posted February 15, 2019 (edited) Brain development is heavily influenced by hormones, so we actually can generalize (to a degree) differences between men and women because since prenatal development, our brains have been operating under differet levels of testosterone and estrogen. Edited February 15, 2019 by Hopeful30 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loversquarrel Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 In my experience, men like being single even less than most women do. That's why you see so many desperate dudes on here and on social media constantly stressing over how to get a girl. speak for yourself. I enjoyed my single life, I don't need to be tied down in a relationship, I'm in one because I want to be but I can just easily not be in one. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 More. 10 characters. Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 (edited) Not even close true in my world. Single guys l meet or know wanna be because the've just had enough of women and just like it better without one. Most can get women if they want one but they don't. Or they'd like to meet someone special but just haven't met the right one. Never have l ever heard in my world , l'm not rich enough tall enough or whatever , none of that even matters there's all kinds of women out there. Physically , no one l know or meet would put up with a women just for that. l know a couple of guys have one coming and going part time when they feel like it but no way they're letting it go any further than that. Personally when l was single what l really missed was closeness and cuddles, l have to be right into someone and want her to want intimacy and there aren't many l want, Edited February 16, 2019 by chillii Link to post Share on other sites
GTR King Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 When I Split up with my ex (Oct 2013 5 years ago) I liked being single for a little while doing my own thing etc.. after awhile I hated being single, But I am now in a happy relationship and love spending time with them going out doing things or chilling at home watching tv people who are serious about a relationship and want a girlfriend usually get bored of being single, the people who just want sex are usually not fussed about being single etc 1 Link to post Share on other sites
chillii Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 Yeah , l didn't like being single either l much prefer life as a couple. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GoodOnPaper Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 I hated being single. It was next to impossible to get any dates and I seemed to be the last guy who any woman would want for casual sex so I had to get into relationships for any sex and intimacy. What was the most frustrating was that the good things I had going in my life seemed to be disregarded or even worked against me in the eyes of women, especially at that all-crucial meeting/attraction stage. I always felt this embarrassment about being single - especially when, for so long, every remotely attractive/interesting woman I met brought up a "boyfriend" or "fiance" in the first few minutes of our conversation. By the time I did get married, I was very bitter and my self-esteem was at an all-time low. I don't know about a gender generalization about this issue. I have always gotten the sense that women tend to have a keen sense of what they (as individuals) are looking for and keep their focus on that. My insecurities were more about how I felt like I was not measuring up as a man - figuring out the specific qualities in a woman that I did and did not want seemed like a luxury I couldn't afford. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BluEyeL Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 Some men hate being single as much as some women hate being single. And there are both men and women who prefer being single . There are some men who don’t enjoy chasing women and prefer to have one SO to meet their needs. It is proven by the fact that divorced men remarry faster and at a higher rate than divorced women. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted February 16, 2019 Share Posted February 16, 2019 I'm older so probably outside the target demographic of your question. Most of my single male friends do seem to wish they had someone to share their lives with. And in many cases, the script has flipped from younger days, as many 50+ single women seem happy with a life built around friends, kids, grandkids, etc. Draw your own conclusions... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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