My girlfriend of 10 years left me because I've made mistakes

[jasonkconcertfan]

Weirdest email ever this morning. I have not contacted her. I've stopped checking up on her social media after she created a message that she found a "really sweet and handsome" guy that made her rethink not dating again. So that's that. I've been done. I haven't moved on or anything but done. I've been focusing on my mom and work.

 

"I was just curious if you might have any interest in the dogs. I hate to let them go, but, Chloe has been a bitch to everyone because she wants you, and kramer would be best with Chloe. I totally understand if your not interested. Also how is your mom....i really do care

Lisa"

 

WHAT THE...?

 

She cares more about animals than she ever has anything else. The dogs sleep in bed with her every night. They have done this for the eight years that we've had them.

 

I feel sorry for these dogs. They are not going to be happy with either one of us most likely. My initial thoughts.

Edited April 16, 2019 by jasonkconcertfan

[Marc878]

No response needed. Let her figure it out.

 

Bud, at some point you have to let this go. There is no better time than now.

 

Block all social media, texts and emai.

 

You are the only one keeping yourself in this.

[elaine567]

Forget about the "relationship" and just make sure the dogs are going to be OK.

[Highndry]

My two cents: If you want the dogs I would send somebody else to get them, making sure you do not see her in person. I would ignore the question about your mom. If she asks again I would firmly respond that it's no longer any of her business and to please not contact you again.

[darkmoon]

the dogs are the bait... orbiter alert...

[lil_missy]

I only read the first page but I understand where your gf was coming from. She went bankrupt from you and you guys having been living in debt for god knows how many years! Stopped going out and doing fun things due to having no money. That kind of stress I just cannot handle. How can you enjoy life when your struggling to pay the necessities? I’ve been dealing with my husbands excessive spending problem for about a year now and his pretty much lowered our standard of living, we can no longer afford to go on holidays and I wanted a nice new car which we cannot afford. I want the nicer things in life and I’m pretty much Done with this marriage. If we didn’t have a young child I’d be long gone.

I’m sorry but I feel it is the mans responsibility to look after his family financially, that is his duty. If he cannot support his family and provide a good life for them then there are other men that will.

I’m coming from a point of being more than financially independent myself and looking for an equal partner. Not trying to mooch off a guy and be a gold digger.

Basically sort your financial situation out, nobody wants to date a broke guy.

[gaius]

How about skipping the pink concert and using whatever money you were going to spend to pay off a bill or two.

 

Start putting together a plan to get your financial life back in order, execute it successfully, THEN go to a concert. Right now you haven't earned it. Not by a long shot.

[jasonkconcertfan]

How about skipping the pink concert and using whatever money you were going to spend to pay off a bill or two.

 

Start putting together a plan to get your financial life back in order, execute it successfully, THEN go to a concert. Right now you haven't earned it. Not by a long shot.

 

I was working 12 hour days there for months straight and got my bills caught up, my girlfriends, AND my moms. You also missed the part that we were volunteering at the concert thus got free tickets. Thanks for the lecture tho

[dim84]

Stay strong mate. At the end of the day:

 

1. ... you do have a job you are not THIS bad

2. She is older than you

3. Can't have kids

4. She sounds like a psycho.. reptiles and 70 carnivores and whatever else

5. You have the problem of your mother

6. At the end of the day you put her in debt something like 15k not such a big deal

7. She earns 700 age 46 while you make 7 times more

 

Hey I don't think it is only in you. You beat yourself too much.

You might not be good in anything like she says, but you are certainly her best chance to not die alone. If she figures this out great, if not so be it.

 

For the time being stay focus on you and your mother. In six months you can try a new beginning assuming no change, although I would tell you, given 1-7 do a new start anyway.

[healing light]

Just finished reading this thread. It sounds like you've been busting your ass and she's been quick to post herself on dating sites. You can take her out and pay for dinner for her as friends? After lecturing you in a doorway and asking everyone on the planet to get you to leave? Ew.

 

I would arrange for someone else to retrieve the dogs like another poster said above. Then block/delete when it comes to any other interaction from her. She sounds like she is over everything and while I understand there were many trying times, it doesn't appear that she even appreciates anything you've done. I get where she would not have felt like a priority or where the romance may have long been drained from the relationship with all the challenges.

 

I would never point blank tell a person they weren't good at anything they've tried (jobs, sex, finances, etc.). That is just plain cruel.... kicking someone when they're down. She basically called you a loser in the meanest possible way, but yet wanted you to take her to dinner after. Yuck. Even if I internally thought those things were true about someone, I just would have more respect for them as a human being than to knock their emotional state like that.