tanjaanja Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 Hello everyone, My ex broke up with me 1.5 weeks ago - a week before Valentine's day. We were in a long distance relationship which lasted for 8 months. We met in the most romantic way while we were solo traveling. The chemistry was instantly there, and we had great sex. After summer and travels, we were both going back to our daily lives. I started university, he started going to school again. We were trying to keep our relationship together. During the last 1-2 months, I have been feeling really stressed. I just moved out, had exams, got classes, and other stuff while trying to keep the relationship going. It got so bad because we easily got into fights. I was frustrated and I gave my frustration to him. We made each other sad rather than happy. The winter was hard for both of us. One day, we had a fight and it became too much for him so he called it off. I was heartbroken and couldn't believe it. I begged him to call me during the evening so we could talk. We talked for 1 hour so but I couldn't change his mind. I decided that I wanted to go no contact mostly because I googled that this is the best solution to get an ex back, but also because I know I need the space and time to heal. To days before Valentine, he sent me a gift that I have received today. It was pictures of our memories that I gave him for his birthday. For Christmas, I had cut out paper pieces writing sweet things like quotes, dreams, memories etc. He had stuck the paper pieces behind the pieces while adding comments on them. It is all too sweet and it makes me sad that I have lost my man. He explained that he loves me and that I am his greatest loss. He writes that he wishes that I will be happy and that he wants to be happy too. He says that I couldn't give him what he needed (happiness) and therefore he needs to find it himself. I really want to just call him. I also just want to wait in a month or so when I feel better and write to him a long letter explaining how I love him and miss him. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to react. Any advice for the broken hearted? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 18, 2019 Share Posted February 18, 2019 Reconciliation requires contact & communication. Waiting a month makes everything worse because it shows him that he can get along without you. You two tried to make this fairytale magic from your trip & recreate it over the distance in real life. Unfortunately that is not sustainable, as you learned. When you added all the pressure of life, the magic you had disappeared. You both have too much going on & no short term ability to permanently close the distance. That sad reality fueled the fights. He didn't "give" you a Valentine's gift. He returned the hand crafted gift you created because he no longer wanted it. I'd destroy it as the last thing connecting you Link to post Share on other sites
abotha5 Posted February 19, 2019 Share Posted February 19, 2019 Reconciliation requires contact & Reconcilliation requires space and time. If a person has made up their mind they are not going to change it overnight. They need time and space to realize they miss you. NC will give you the best chance. When a person does not want you in their lives you cant force your way in. You will just pis$ them off. Go NC Link to post Share on other sites
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