Almost 2 months no contact

[andrew.forte]

Okay so I’m going to try to make this as short as possible. My ex and I were in a relationship for a little over a year. She is 19 and I’m 23. Throughout the relationship we have definitely had our ups and downs. Most of it were things that I did. For instance, I got jealous a lot and stupid things like that. Nothing major.

 

Well, everything was going great. We did everything together. We planned on getting married whenever she got out of cosmetology school and moving off together. She always told me I was her best friend as well. The last day that I spoke to her I found out I had a death in the family. And I was not myself that day at all. Later that night I ask her could I call her, and she said that she was in the middle of a game on her ps4.

 

I made the mistake of going off on her, telling her that she played all day and she could turn it off to call me. Well she called me crying and told me that she has been losing the romance in our relationship. And that she didn’t know if we needed to take a break or to split up, but she just couldn’t be in a relationship with me right now. I didn’t really beg or anything but I did cry a lot on the phone with her. And we haven’t had any contact since that night. It’s been 7 weeks.

 

She still has me on all of her social media. She removed all of our photos together on Instagram, but still has that we are in a relationship on facebook. I haven’t watched any of her stories on Snapchat or Instagram, but she ALWAYS watches mine and even liked one of my posts a couple of weeks ago. I guess my question is, should I continue no contact, or should I try to reach out? She can be stubborn and prideful so I don’t know if that might be a reason she isn’t contacting me first.

 

 

Oh and btw yes I have been improving myself in so many ways since I’ve been doing no contact. Hitting gym hard, reading books, becoming happier with myself etc..

Edited February 18, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[stillafool]

She is the dumper so therefore she should be the one who comes to you and admits she made a mistake and ask you back. Until she does that stay no calling with her. She knows she hurt you but she's had 7 weeks to correct this and she hasn't. It is not wrong to want comfort from your mate when losing a loved one to death. But, as she said she had been losing that romantic feeling for you for a while so she had already been thinking of breaking up with you. You are doing right by not looking at her social media.

[d0nnivain]

You are not the one who needs improvement.

 

Your childish teenaged GF chose to play a video game rather then talk to you after you had a DEATH in your family. She was wrong!

 

You say you were talking about getting married. Marriage vows talk about in good times & in bad. Especially in a time of crisis you have to be there for the other person. Why would you want to get back with someone so callous & unloving that she abandons you when you are grieving?

 

Maybe you weren't the "best" BF. So it's good to improve but at this point, there is too much water under the bridge with you & her. She's also no where near mature enough to be settling down.

 

If you want to reconcile, you have to talk. If you are done, block her everywhere & stop looking at her social media. You have to virtual disconnect to be NC

[abotha5]

Okay so I’m going to try to make this as short as possible. My ex and I were in a relationship for a little over a year. She is 19 and I’m 23. Throughout the relationship we have definitely had our ups and downs. Most of it were things that I did. For instance, I got jealous a lot and stupid things like that. Nothing major.

 

Bad news bud. If you are still checking her social media you havent gone NC yet. She knows you are checking so she knows she can still get you back anytime. You are her backup plan not a priority. Stop all of this to be in NC