Annatinli Posted February 6, 2019 Share Posted February 6, 2019 (edited) A guy i met in a yoga class at the gym, we began talking here and there after class then one day he asked for my number to save me a place, then one thing lead to another he asked me to movies, made me soup when i was sick, bought me very expensive gifts for my bday like a coach bag and wallet and 800 dollar MCM purse, then beautiful big roses that proabbly cost 300, bought and brought me lunch everyday while i was studying at the library. We saw each other every day. He knew I was a virgin from the start and i told him i'm waiting till marriage. Anyway after any sort of fight or arguments he'd always make up, then there were =some jealous cases from his end thinking my eye may be out for other guys. There was a fight then he didn't pursue me anymore. Now he makes random excuses and text me like hey i saw a car that looked like yours and thought it was your etc. Anyway, could he have been fake all this time given all of the actions? Since he ended up giving up it makes me question...The other day he texted with me with a pic of a car like mine saying he thought it was me..Is he trying to come back? Does it sound like he was fake? My other ex relationship, same texted me non stop all day, would make up after any fights we had, took me to nice restaurants, talked about the future since he was older (33) also knew I was a virgin. But eventually he stopped making up as well? Is it me or are they just never into me truly? Help I really need to understand Edited February 7, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge duplicate threads and add paragraphs Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted February 6, 2019 Share Posted February 6, 2019 Guys who are only looking for another notch on their belt don't typically spend that sort of money and then disappear without getting laid. My guess is that at first he was ok with you holding out until marriage to have sex and then he realized he couldn't wait that long. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Annatinli Posted February 6, 2019 Author Share Posted February 6, 2019 Well I mean he dind't try to sleep with me or make any type of advances or even talk about it. But yeah you're right if he wasn't truly into me he wouldn't have. Now he makes random excuses to text me like the pic of the car to tell me he thought it was me. Why do you think he's doing this? Restart things? Link to post Share on other sites
Normm Posted February 6, 2019 Share Posted February 6, 2019 Why don't you ask him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Annatinli Posted February 7, 2019 Author Share Posted February 7, 2019 What made you think it's the fact that he couldn't wait anymore..? It's not like our fights were about sex and he never tried to touch me like that was very respectful Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 I think that it's fair to assume he ended it because of the fights. Also, I don't know if you were behaving in a way which would make him jealous - or if he was making mountains out of molehills. But either way, being jealous in a relationship is no way to live. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 There was a fight then he didn't pursue me anymore. Hi Annatinli, I remember you from this previous thread That last fight you had also involved you breaking up with him. I'm assuming it was for good reason. This is why he's no longer pursuing you except for the occasional breadcrumb. I can't see any reason to assume he was fake. Link to post Share on other sites
fairyfloff Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 You sound like a lot of work from this post. Everything is about what the other person has done for you and all you have is you’re a virgin. Edit: I’m surprised they even lasted that long, I would of given up ages ago. Link to post Share on other sites
healing light Posted February 7, 2019 Share Posted February 7, 2019 How old are you? Are you intentionally starting fights with these men? It sounds like they were initially into you, but got tired of the drama. I could see where that would really wear on a man if there wasn't physical affection of some kind and emotional support. No self-respecting person is going to put up with bad behavior forever if you're picking fights on purpose. The guy you're initially inquiring about sounds like he's sniffing around to gauge your interest but no longer willing to make grand overtures because of all the fighting. At some point they probably don't feel the risk is worth the benefits and back off. This would happen whether or not sex is in the picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Annatinli Posted February 7, 2019 Author Share Posted February 7, 2019 Oh okay, that makes perfect sense. Thank you for clarifying. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Annatinli Posted February 19, 2019 Author Share Posted February 19, 2019 (edited) I felt that he was crazy about me, we were together for 3 months. Although we fought a lot, he always tried making up. We're both Armenian and traditional and he knew I was a virgin from the start and he was looking for a wife. Although he knew I wouldn't have sex he did suggest doing other things. Anyway constant fighting he always made up then until he didn't and the roles reverse and I was the one chasing him. I recently asked him to meet since I always catch him staring at me in church he said it won't work today because he had to take his dad to alteration and it's in opposite direction. I said ok. He asked about my school etc. Anyway, he's 34 and I'm 28 and our relationship was for the purpose of marriage but how do I know if it was genuine or not. After fights I'd break up and he'd try to make up but eventually after the last one he didnt. If he truly liked me would he have given up? Could he like me now but be playing hard to get etc? this constantly plays in my mind if he was genuine after all this time why doesn't he come back or when I suggested to hang out why did he respond like this, it means he wasn't genuine? Edited February 19, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge threads and add paragraphs Link to post Share on other sites
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