Trust issues

[ekaterina]

I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 26. We are dating for 6 months. He is a doctor and I found out a flirty one too.

He asked me to go with his very close friends at ski resorts for a weekend and I agreed. We have a nice time together. Everybody was so pleasant and nice to me. When we came back, I offered him to plan the similar trip with my friends after some weeks. Surprisingly he rejected the idea and told me that he is not able to come with me because he is a doctor and have too many things to do and cant leave his patients alone (when he has done it already for several times) then I asked to go not for a weekend, for a day somewhere close to the city to enjoy time together but he again rejected my idea and told me, he is so tired that he prefers staying at home whole day on the weekends and do nothing than relax alone with me. BUT offered me to go to the cinema on weekends LOL.

Some days later he told me he wanted to go somewhere with me when he saw me sad but I think that was a short time promise to make me feel better.

Sincerely he does not care my feeling most of the times (I feel that). He says he loves me, introduced me to friends, some family members but when its about doing things that will make me happy, he never does. Changes plans everytime. Says he is busy to meet (even we meet max 2 times a week)

 

when we were on ski resorts I saw his messages with a girl telling he loves her but joking its a friendly love (thats absolutely bull**** for me) and says he is gonna get a girlfriend (when we are dating for already 6 months) when I told him that I have read them he got very angry and told me she is very good friend and saying - I love you is their kind of joking.

Also he has been flirting with lots of girls but his excuse was that they were friends that he knew for a long long time.

I really think I need to get rid of this boy but I really cant. I became so addicted to him. I think that all my life I have never had any problems with boys, Every time i was the popular one and after I've meet him, I see he is a bit different and my interest in him is increasing every day.

Please give me some advice, what should I do, trust hime and say ok every time he changes his plans or try to forget him or or..

[PegNosePete]

You should dump him.

 

He has no respect for you or your relationship.

 

You need to respect yourself, and not let people treat you like this.

[littleblackheart]

Sincerely he does not care my feeling most of the times (I feel that).

when we were on ski resorts I saw his messages with a girl telling he loves her but joking its a friendly love (thats absolutely bull**** for me)

 

I really think I need to get rid of this boy but I really cant. I became so addicted to him. I think that all my life I have never had any problems with boys, Every time i was the popular one and after I've meet him, I see he is a bit different and my interest in him is increasing every day.

 

You already know he is treating you poorly because you gut instinct is telling you. That's enough proof right there that you need to leave this relationship asap.

 

If I were you, I would not wait for more proof. Being 'addicted' to someone, as you say you are, has very bad new written all over it.

 

This isn't a project; he could really affect your emotional and mental stability in the long term.

[BaileyB]

I really think I need to get rid of this boy but I really cant. I became so addicted to him.

 

I don’t believe that.

 

You have good reason to end this relationship, and you know it. Don’t make excuses for why you would tolerate his poor treatment. Have enough self respect to let him go.

[Curiousroxy86]

I know he is handsome and he is a doctor and all but girl your going to effing kick yourself if you stay with this guy and found out what you already suspect that he is playing you like a drum and don't give two sh*ts about you as far as making you happy. He cares about himself. Leave. It's only going to be harder and hurt much worse if you wait. You want a guy who wants to do things with you and is clearly into you and not other girls.

[edgygirl]

The only way this could possibly change is if after you boot him, he realizes what he's lost. If you stay, things will continue to be the same - he's taking you for granted and disrespecting you.

 

I'm familiar with the addiction feeling. Although it seems impossible now, you can and will get over him. Do you really want to continue being treated like this? If you do, you should do some thinking on why you're putting up with being disrespected. I've been there in the past, and I just couldn't see it. Do yourself a favor and learn to recognize it.

[d0nnivain]

He's a young doctor. He thinks the world revolves around him & that he can do anything he wants & treat people cavalierly because of his profession.

 

Understand he won't marry you. He has no respect for you.

 

So what are you sticking around for? If you are OK with being a "kept woman" where he buys you things & spends time with you solely on his schedule without any emotional commitment, carry on. If you want a relationship you will need a new guy.

[stillafool]

Yep, he's a young, good looking doctor with the world at his feet and he expects you to be at his feet as well. When you get tired of being his step stool you'll break up or be unhappy for a long time.

[Orokotikki]

He's a young doctor. He thinks the world revolves around him & that he can do anything he wants & treat people cavalierly because of his profession.

 

Understand he won't marry you. He has no respect for you.

 

So what are you sticking around for? If you are OK with being a "kept woman" where he buys you things & spends time with you solely on his schedule without any emotional commitment, carry on. If you want a relationship you will need a new guy.

 

And even if he did marry OP, such a selfish person is the classic case of those likely to 'trade in' their wife for a younger model after a few years.

 

Value yourself more OP, kick him to the curb...