I'm very nervous about meeting my boyfriend's sister

[d0nnivain]

But if nothing about my life has ever gone well why would it start now also so sorry for snapping at you there I just suddenly felt incredibly angry

 

You didn't snap. There is nothing about your interaction with me that call for an apology but if it makes you feel better, I accept.

 

You said you fainted or something this morning & that DOCTOR asked about your stress levels.

 

Have you considered that things don't go well because you ignore things, like your mental health, that need to be addressed? You feel alone, accept for your one friend & this BF but you are not. Let the adults at your school help you. Everybody needs helps once in a while. I have an ongoing problem & reached out for help yesterday. Now I'm at least aware of where the right track is. I am sad to admit I still haven't managed to get on that track because I'm feeling scared & overwhelmed but my point to you is reach out. Don't try to go this alone.

[Olivia_daviss]

Everyone says it isn't a real thing or don't worry about it but is it worth it to invest in mental health most people are saying don't worry about and it will go away is this true

[Olivia_daviss]

Because I wouldn't admit it irl. But even I have noticed I have changed a bit my average heart rate has gone up I get stressed around certain things like large bags or small rooms or rain at night I also am saying I'm going to therapist but I've only really gone twice my bf is at training most mornings and when he doesn't take me his friend does and when his friend does I don't actually go in

Rn I just kinda hate myself

[Olivia_daviss]

It is also so much easier to communicate my emotions in a not face to face situation when I'm in them I almost start to panic

[Olivia_daviss]

Also what they are doing now they have all stopped the physical abuse but now it's just constant torture they do small things that make me really nervous that aren't against any rules ie putting a zip behind my head and pulling it back and forth this just makes me really tense I have no idea why

[d0nnivain]

Everyone says it isn't a real thing or don't worry about it but is it worth it to invest in mental health most people are saying don't worry about and it will go away is this true

 

I assume "most" of these "people" are college students like you?

 

At various points in my life I have been a college professor. Who do you think is right? The adult (me) who is encouraging you to seek professional help or your friends?

 

If you had a broken bone would your friends tell you to skip the hospital, the doctor & the cast because eventually the bone will heal itself? You have a broken spirit. Don't ignore that.

 

In addition since the nonsense has not stopped tell your BF, tell the school & tell the police. They stopped the worst of it but since some of these mean people didn't get the message, get more help. Your failure to stick up for yourself by getting reinforcements is allowing this torture to continue. Use the brains that got you into college.

[Olivia_daviss]

But it isn't really illegal that's why I don't think I can report it

[Olivia_daviss]

It causes me huge amounts of distress but it isn't illegal to open and close you bag behind someone's head

[d0nnivain]

But it isn't really illegal that's why I don't think I can report it[/quote

 

Right after you get a law degree you can determine what is illegal.

 

FYI harassment is illegal. Terroristic threats are illegal. Bullying is illegal. Assault (which is actually the anticipation of unwanted physical touching) is illegal. If the people who are currently bothering you are friends & colleagues of the ones who are already in jail, & all of them acted in concert they could possibly be convicted of conspiracy and/or racketeering; RICO is a very broad statute.

 

Since I identified 4, possibly 6 crimes, will you please call the police now?

[Olivia_daviss]

OK I called and I'm waiting for a follow up

[d0nnivain]

Good for you!

 

Be well.

[Olivia_daviss]

Il try to I'm unsure if I can but il try