Mrs._December Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 Ahhh, the old revenge affair. I read about these all the time. The truth is that he was angry and hurt as hell, and was wide open for any opportunity that came his way. You happened just to be that opportunity but I believe it could have been just about anyone. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrs._December Posted March 4, 2019 Share Posted March 4, 2019 I think that there's a reality of the situation that i was not going to leave my husband, which is why I think he was stringing his GF along. They're very compatible in some ways, but I was the one he connected to and talked to. The terrible things he used to say about her, hours on end, I can't imagine that he really loved her. I think he was caught up in her looks, accomplishments, and the 'glory' of her. I think you're reaching. Really, really reaching. He's where he wants to be, he's not there because you're not available. Secondly, cheaters lie. They lie, manipulate, tell you what you want to hear, and they lie some more. Would you really have been that enamored with him if he'd told you lovely things about her all the time, and how wonderful she was, and how much he loved her? No, you wouldn't have. So you got to hear all these horrible things about how awful she was - coming from a man who CHOSE to move away with her. Who chooses to move away with such a horrible, awful woman? So if he was filling your ears with horrible, negative lies about her, you can bet the bank that he's saying horrible things about you since she found out about your affair. Don't be surprised when you learn he told her that you're a stalker who pursued him, and that you're crazy and that you blackmailed him into staying in the affair with you and that you're unattractive and sex with you was awful and the list of nasty things about you will go on and on and on and on and on... That's what they do. It's called damage control. You've romanticized this into something it just wasn't. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author SmittenKitten1 Posted March 4, 2019 Author Share Posted March 4, 2019 I do believe that it may have started as a revenge affair, but I think the emotions were real, it lasted for six months! He told GF that he wasn't in a place to love anybody but her at that time, he was too hurt. I think that he's just rewriting history for her benefit. Just because he was in love with her, and hurt, doesn't mean that he didn't love me. Link to post Share on other sites
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