Blue_Cloud Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 I need some advice. I’m involved in a love triangle for over a month now. I do have a long term boyfriend that I’ve had for 6 years, the other man is almost 20years older than me, he has all his hair, muscular, and very attractive. I’ve known him since 2014, only met him once then, and three times last year. My friend kicked his wife of 11 years out on New Yers Eve. I don’t know the entire story, but it’s been about two months now she has been out. I recall back in November he did lightly flirt with me. I also saw him looking at my legs. I thought nothing of it, because even though I met him years ago, I didn’t really know him. My boyfriend of 6 years, has always cheated on me, even had an entire other relationship behind my back, till I caught him. It hurt me a lot where I have anxiety and panick attacks now. I’m having doubts and regrets about this love triangle. Mid January I spent the week with my friend. Another friend slept over. Nothing happened sexual at that time. Then we started hanging out alone. And things happened. I never felt right or comfortable being in this relationship. His wife he kicked out was a friend of mine, but she went crazy. That’s why she got kicked out. I feel guilt that he might have kicked her out cause I came around, and he wanted me. Two weeks ago all I could do was think about him. I was in love. I tried to dump my boyfriend. I was fighting like crazy with my boyfriend. I spent an entire week with the other guy, and it’s like I’m sick of him, and thinking of dumping him. What should I do? Also the sex is bad. We only had sex like 4 times in a month. He has ED. It’s frustrating to me. With my boyfriend around my age never had that issue. He knows it’s not fair to me. He only takes natural supplements that claim to help with it, but it doesn’t do anything. I want to dump him for that reason, the age gap, and sick of hiding this from friends Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 It seems pretty obvious to me. You need to dump both men and spend some time getting your life sorted out. First, you stayed for six years with a man who cheated on you, repeatedly. That’s a problem. Now, you are engaged in a “love triangle” that I would call an affair because you have been cheating on your boyfriend with another man - clearly not compatible by age or sexual ability and also, your friend’s recently separated husband? That’s also a problem, several problems to be sure. Who needs soap operas... You have enough drama here to keep you well occupied for as long as you continue to be involved with these men. Good luck to you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
PinkPampies Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 I’m sorry, but it’s really hard to follow your post and make out the major players... - You have a boyfriend of 6 years that has cheated on you the whole relationship - older man who you’ve met a few times before kicked his wife out recently - older man has ED or your boyfriend? How long have you been seeing him and are you still with the boyfriend? Is the older man separated or getting divorce? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Blue_Cloud Posted February 26, 2019 Author Share Posted February 26, 2019 (edited) The older man I met in 2014 and he has ED that I’m cheating on my boyfriend of 6 years with the older man. Want to dump older man cause the sex is bad, and don’t like the feeling. I have tried to dump the older man a couple times. He looks like he will cry. The older man is separated right now, but he was hitting on me towards the end, a month before he kicked his wife out Edited February 26, 2019 by Blue_Cloud Link to post Share on other sites
mark clemson Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 I'm with Bailey - disentangle yourself from this whole situation and walk away... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
The Dude Abides Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 Blue Cloud The older guy is a dead end for a lot of reasons, most especially because he is still married . Just spend some time here at LS and read all the stories about people dabbling with a SO who are married. It is almost never a happy ending. And six years with a BF who cheated continuously? WHY would you want to stay with that guy? WHY would you want to do that to yourself, especially now that it has led to the anxiety and panic attacks? Please consider that there are a lot of men out there who will treat you well and be faithful. You deserve to find one of those men, and you won't find them while part of this terrible triangle you're in. Best wishes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Turning point Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 Both of these men are simply getting in the way of you finding a far better man to be with. Dump them both and be on your own for a while so you can think clearly about the kind of qualities in a person that matter most to you. Sexual interest alone is not enough to make a relationship. It hasn't kept your boyfriend loyal, or helped your older man rise to the occasion. Link to post Share on other sites
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