uk21 Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 Hello all, Im a 26 year old male who seems to think I need a relationship to complete me. Ive always been a relationship type of person. Every relationship I have been in has been long term ranging between 3 to 6 years. I know I want that special someone to enjoy life with, but I feel like this mindset is killing my personal growth. Every time I meet a new women something inside me screams she is, beautiful! This is who you're going to marry, This is the one, when in reality I DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS PERSON! This has just happened to me recently. A friend of mine told a woman about me and gave her my number. Instantly my mind started thinking those "needy" thoughts. like yeah this is the one, Look at how we met, it's fate its meant to be, I can't wait to show and tell my friends. I even found myself on her facebook admiring her thinking about our future when in reality I DONT EVEN KNOW HER!!! This type of behavior is embarrassing in my opinion. Does anyone feel this way or have felt this way in the past? If so how did you break free from this mindset? I know I need to be single and grow as a man, but for some reason I feel anxious that I don't have anyone. I can go a few weeks with being strong and saying this is needed, but eventually I start getting anxiety about being alone. I start acting out in "thirsty" ways. ( like texting women I previously slept with, downloading tinder, randomly messaging women) I really want to break free of this mindset and know that its okay to be single and work on myself and know thatI AM ENOUGH alone! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted February 26, 2019 Share Posted February 26, 2019 This has just happened to me recently. A friend of mine told a woman about me and gave her my number. Instantly my mind started thinking those "needy" thoughts. like yeah this is the one, Look at how we met, it's fate its meant to be, I can't wait to show and tell my friends. I even found myself on her facebook admiring her thinking about our future when in reality I DONT EVEN KNOW HER!!! This rather extreme example aside, I'm not sure why you see wanting to be in a satisfying relationship as a negative thing? I think few would disagree life is more enjoyable with a compatible companion, emotional confidant and enthusiastic sex partner. You seem to be confusing two things. Having the personal resources to be happy if life's circumstances find you alone is different than being motivated to try and change that lot. And in fact, the former often supports and informs the latter... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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