What does it mean when a guy calls a woman "trouble"?

[AshWinder]

Not sure if this would go here & apologize if is. But I am a tad confused.

 

You see yesterday a colleague made a comment as I passed him and another chap that the 2nd guy is supposed to watch me because I am "trouble".

 

I am a very outgoing friendly people person, particularly compared to most colleagues who more hang among themselves, so not sure if I am conveying the "wrong" message to male colleagues?

 

For the record I am not "flirting" with any one of them. They're all older and not exactly my type.

 

Thanks

Edited February 28, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[chillii]

Well here like that we might say joke to a mate she's trouble or whatever just stirring her up in humor, she'd chuckle if she has any sense of humor at all.

PS , come to think about it, l joked that a few weeks ago to a bunch of 80yr olds in a shop, they had a giggle , think they felt 50yrs younger haha

Edited February 27, 2019 by chillii

[d0nnivain]

It was flirtatious. It was also a casual, throwaway compliment meaning you combine sex appeal with confidence & you are competent in your tasks. Don't give it another thought.

[Mr. Lucky]

It was also a casual, throwaway compliment meaning you combine sex appeal with confidence & you are competent in your tasks.

 

Agreed. The opposite would be "no big deal", an equally casual dis...

 

Mr. Lucky

[chillii]

It was flirtatious. It was also a casual, throwaway compliment meaning you combine sex appeal with confidence & you are competent in your tasks. Don't give it another thought.

 

 

Really , holy Toledo , that's quite an analysis.

Better watch what l say if l'm ever over your way

[GorillaTheater]

Better watch what l say if l'm ever over your way

 

Yeah, that Donnivain. She's nothing but trouble, brother.

[preraph]

Yeah, that's just kind of a flirtatious comment, but not out of line. It's just a way to say something to you and get your attention. It's kind of an old saying.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Yeah, that's just kind of a flirtatious comment, but not out of line. It's just a way to say something to you and get your attention. It's kind of an old saying.

 

I agree.

 

OP, I don't think you've done anything to lead this man on. He just was flirting a little.

[AshWinder]

Okay. I didn't think I'd 'led him on' it just seemed very strange/random as I barely say 10 words to him on a good day. Thanks.

[basil67]

Okay. I didn't think I'd 'led him on' it just seemed very strange/random as I barely say 10 words to him on a good day. Thanks.

 

It could also be a standard thing his says to women who he feels have a good sense of humour. While it could be construed as flirting, it can also be used in a lighthearted way.

[thefooloftheyear]

I dunno....ask Taylor Swift, she probably would know...

 

TFY

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I dunno....ask Taylor Swift, she probably would know...

 

TFY

 

Just when I got the Paragard commercial out of my head, now you put this in there....

[alphamale]

you need another job sister

[oldtruck]

Okay. I didn't think I'd 'led him on' it just seemed very strange/random as I barely say 10 words to him on a good day. Thanks.

 

The price one pays when they are "trouble". Flirting/teasing with you.

[crispytoast]

It was flirtatious. It was also a casual, throwaway compliment meaning you combine sex appeal with confidence & you are competent in your tasks. Don't give it another thought.

To build on this I'd say it's all of these things plus it's a suggestion that you are the type of woman a man could fall for and get his heart broken very easily

[edgygirl]

People have said it to me many times - I also have no clue. But it’s usually said in a jokingly way. I think low level employees feel more comfy saying that kind of thing, and they feel comfy with me as I treat everyone nice and in a bubbly way.

[guest569]

It means that he thinks you’re a good person and good worker. It’s sarcastic sort of banter. I’ve seen it a lot at work:

 

mischief maker, keep an eye on this one, she’s so loud, she’s trouble.

 

It means the opposite.

 

I’m no way would I consider this flirtatious as the guys say it to each other all the time.

[oldtruck]

It means that he thinks you’re a good person and good worker. It’s sarcastic sort of banter. I’ve seen it a lot at work:

 

mischief maker, keep an eye on this one, she’s so loud, she’s trouble.

 

It means the opposite.

 

I’m no way would I consider this flirtatious as the guys say it to each other all the time.

 

I never have seen that "word" being used to indicate someone level

of competence as an employee. It is a tease with finding the recipient

attractive.

[guest569]

I never have seen that "word" being used to indicate someone level

of competence as an employee. It is a tease with finding the recipient

attractive.

 

Yep, seen it often and I feel that my explanation makes sense. How would this exchange be flirtatious or indicate attraction? Especially given that it is happening in the workplace?

[oldtruck]

Open your eyes people flirt at work all the time.

I know lots of people that met through work, dated, then married.

[major_merrick]

It depends on the situation, but some women are called trouble because they are genuinely troublemakers...causing drama and such. Other times, it is an affectionate thing. My husband regularly says "Hey there, Trouble" when he calls me on the phone.

[guest569]

Ok, straight guys call each other this in the workplace. “He’s trouble, you have to watch this one” it’s just some stupid banter. I’m not a fan really.

 

As if he is flirting.

[AshWinder]

Thanks for the responses. I admit I can be mischievous and would have thought less of this "trouble" dub had other colleagues I banter with made it. To them I can be a bit of "trouble"

 

 

. But as said I don't say much to this guy.

 

And it gets weirder. Today the same guy who called me "trouble" said don't refer to "my girlfriend" in front of another colleague I enjoy bantering with.

 

This guy said it (girlfriend) twice so I take it the other colleague must have had a surprised look (my back was turned as I was doing my job just listening).

 

 

When I found "trouble" guy later and said didn't appreciate being called his "girlfriend" he said it was in jest but got, in my mind, defensive by how he spoke quickly/nervous and the rest of his response. Particularly when I wasn't angry or anything, was even smiling a bit to try and calm him down, just neutrally said didn't appreciate being called his "girlfriend".

 

Like said I could understand the banter f we actually talked but most conversations are stilted/awkward or about things like the weather.

Edited March 5, 2019 by AshWinder

[stillafool]

I think you're reading waay too much into what he's saying. Do you like this guy or something? I can't imagine bringing this to a forum if you don't.

[AshWinder]

I think you're reading waay too much into what he's saying. Do you like this guy or something? I can't imagine bringing this to a forum if you don't.

 

If you read the start you'd see I said none interest me. This guy's as boring as watching paint dry on a wet day; maybe some people like dull & boring I don't

 

I am asking as the place I work is a rumour mill and all I need is some bloody janitor who cleans toilets on a daily basis going around saying I am his " girlfriend ".