Whokers Posted February 28, 2019 Share Posted February 28, 2019 First of all, forgive my English, I’m French so my story will probably be full of mistakes. Small introduction : I’m with my boyfriend since 9 years, 10 soon. Like all couples we’ve been through ups and downs, no big issue, he has his personality, I always knew he was kind of stubborn, resentful and a bit selfish (not only with me, with everyone family and friends included). that being said, I noticed, a few months ago that we fight more than before, sometimes 2 times a week, sometimes 2 days in a row about stupid things. And it takes forever to calm down... I also noticed that I’m always apologising because he always has something to blame me for. We just got into an argument, he hurt himself yesterday, his neck hurts and can barely move his head without feeling pain. He didn’t go out today, also didn’t eat all day because he didn’t feel well. So when I came back home I cooked, and went to tell him that he could eat whenever he’s ready to get up. Few mins later he got up, went straight to the kitchen and suddenly started to put some clothes like he was about to go out, so I asked him what he was doing And he said that I should have also bought another meal because I’ve only done 1 (dinner)... I told him nicely that I can go to the supermarket just next to our home to buy something else and he answered « if you really wanted to, you wouldn’t wait for me to get up, Ive already put my clothes on » I’m seriously out of words... I really need to know if I’m crazy, I am really doing something wrong?? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted February 28, 2019 Share Posted February 28, 2019 He is in pain & that is making him rude. It does sound like he's picking fights. Perhaps when his neck feels a bit better you can really talk about what's going on. Your English is fine btw. I certainly couldn't have written something similar half as well in French. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted February 28, 2019 Share Posted February 28, 2019 Your English is fine btw. I certainly couldn't have written something similar half as well in French. I always enjoy a non-native English speaker coming on board with something along the lines of "please excuse the deficits in my ability to coherently express myself in the English language", when I have trouble writing a one-sentence post without a typo. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted February 28, 2019 Share Posted February 28, 2019 First of all, forgive my English, I’m French so my story will probably be full of mistakes. At least you use punctuation and paragraphs, already gold star eligible in my book . Is there a change in conditions that started a few months ago? Yesterday was an example but you said this has been going on for a while. I'm also trying to understand the upside in this relationship for you, based on your description he doesn't sound like the greatest BF... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 28, 2019 Share Posted February 28, 2019 what you're doing wrong is dating this clown 1 Link to post Share on other sites
littleblackheart Posted February 28, 2019 Share Posted February 28, 2019 First of all, forgive my English, I’m French so my story will probably be full of mistakes. Bonjour (je suis française aussi!) - nous sommes plusieurs sur ce forum (je crois...) A little weird to be speaking English to a fellow French person, mais bon... Like Mr Lucky, I wondered whether something out of the ordinary happened a few months back - like a move or a new job or a health scare? Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 28, 2019 Share Posted February 28, 2019 He may have underlying anger issues (toward you or someone else) he hasn't resolved. He also sounds immature and unappreciative of what he has in you. Expect more of the same until he deals with his issues or falls on hard times such as you leaving him and him learning what a good thing he had. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whokers Posted February 28, 2019 Author Share Posted February 28, 2019 Bonjour (je suis française aussi!) - nous sommes plusieurs sur ce forum (je crois...) A little weird to be speaking English to a fellow French person, mais bon... Like Mr Lucky, I wondered whether something out of the ordinary happened a few months back - like a move or a new job or a health scare? Bonjour LittlrBlackHeart, Mr. Lucky, Well nothing quite particuliar happened but now that you guys mention it, a slight change of our schedule made us spend every day together, litteralmy 24/7, which is explained by the fact that we have the same job, we’re both models and we only work when we’re book from a brand. Could it be the cause of all these several fights? To get back on the story I was telling, he bought his other meal then he said «thank you for cooking for me though, it’s really nice of you, I wouldn’t be able to do it by myself*» ... but no excuse for his immature reaction... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whokers Posted February 28, 2019 Author Share Posted February 28, 2019 At least you use punctuation and paragraphs, already gold star eligible in my book . Is there a change in conditions that started a few months ago? Yesterday was an example but you said this has been going on for a while. I'm also trying to understand the upside in this relationship for you, based on your description he doesn't sound like the greatest BF... Mr. Lucky Hi Mr.Lucky I answered the part « change a few months ago » with @LittleBlackHeart About the description I made of my bf, well yes I put the « bad sides » under the spotlight but he also has some good sides, he’s generous, protective, funny. His « demons » have always been there but since we’re fighting a lot, I tend to see all the bad too often... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whokers Posted February 28, 2019 Author Share Posted February 28, 2019 He may have underlying anger issues (toward you or someone else) he hasn't resolved. He also sounds immature and unappreciative of what he has in you. Expect more of the same until he deals with his issues or falls on hard times such as you leaving him and him learning what a good thing he had. You’re right, he’s quite immature sometimes... hope that we won’t get to the leaving part though... but thank you for giving me your point of view Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whokers Posted February 28, 2019 Author Share Posted February 28, 2019 He is in pain & that is making him rude. It does sound like he's picking fights. Perhaps when his neck feels a bit better you can really talk about what's going on. Your English is fine btw. I certainly couldn't have written something similar half as well in French. Thank you D0nnivain Yes him being in pain didn’t help... but it still looks like an ungrateful reaction to me... not sure I would react the same way in his situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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