Hardcore Loner, is OK?

[SmoochieFace]

No-one seems to know the meaning of the word contentment anymore, and is always striving for the bigger, better, latest, hi-tech whatever.

 

Exactly. It seems the more people *get* the more miserable they become.

[SeanEden]

I find it curious that you so-called loners are being very social with each other. Wouldn't you rather be alone?

 

I loved your post alot lol, it's so funny. I think there is a sense of the LONER CLUB feeling in here, that we can feel good there are others like us lol, if we need to write about it.

 

This thread is the reason I signed up for this forum.

 

 

I'm someone who enjoys my own company, now it's not always been by choice, I have some good friends, but I don't want to get married, don't want to have a family, although I enjoy spending time with my one year old nephew, and would enjoy seeing him grow up, but when's he's not a baby no more, and at school, it won't be the same, so he's been one of the few sources of attachment I've had for a year, but I don't think it's gonna last, and I don't think I'll be living with him and his parents as we do now for the future.

 

 

I feel embarrised to talk about my life on here a bit, I've had to keep this loner part of myself away from my family, I've seen my middle brother's marrage fail, I see how my older brother has little time for interests with his new son and marriage, that scares me, as I enjoy my freedom.

 

 

I can't call myself a hardcore loner, I don't seek it, but I feel it's one of my few options, the older I get, the harder it is to fool everyone around me, who assume I'm getting married, assume I'm gonna have children, this is the problem of familes for me, pressure to be a family man at this age etc

 

And I have lived in my area for almost 19 years now, and been on only really 2 proper holidays to other countaries, I'm looking to go on holiday this summer, maybe a loner where I'm going, but I will meet up with people I consider friends, but I will be spending alot of time alone also.

 

 

I haven't been completely honest about my life, and that would take some extra strength to talk about, but this post felt liberating, that someone might be reading. Take me as someone who realised just how life can be once his he left his teens, and felt victim in the pressure of growing up, and I still am fighting that, and I'm doing it alone, my own strength, I do wanna talk to someone about it, doing this post is the closest I've come.

 

 

I never sought being a loner, if I can find someone I really like someday, great, but until then I have to wear this mask over the real me for those I know, and sometimes I get tired of acting my loner tendencies, there's a bit too much sterotyping on the loner, that it's sad etc, but I guess that's up to the loner and if he's actualy happy, I won't say I'm happy as I like to be, but things could be worse.

[Basic]

Welcome to the so called Loner club.

I'm not sure where you're from, but in some countries individualism is quite the right.

Have you considered announcing your intentions not to marry?

 

You came to the right place for talking about your issues!

[Guest]

I'm thinking upstate NY woods.

 

Dontcha worry about being too far out, everything is UPS-able these days. But I do warn about upstate NY, cheap for a reason. Land fought over in the revolution is now populated by a toothless backwater culture of underachieving vampyres and ghouls. You simply cannot mix with these folks, and I didn't start out being a biggot! But god's country it is, all of it, mostly because not a soul cares a wit for it, it's all just forgotten swamp and farmland, frontier forever. Too bad they didn't leave some of the amazing old-growth forests that made this place truly spectacular.