joelG35 Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 (edited) We met at a time at a friends party we were both single. She asked her friend about me and we started texting and talking to each other. After 2 weeks of texting we finally went on a date and we had a great time. She told her friends how she had such a great time with me. We would talk all day and night, then she started pulling away. She saw how I am successful in my career making a good salary. A week later Canceled dates and opened up to me she has a lot going on she has a exam she needs to pass to better her career and I was leaving for a month for a work trip. We called it off due to timing. A week into my work trip, she texted me out of the blue we started talking for a while and by the end of the night we were back together. She even mentioned how I made her night. Throughout the entire month trip, we spoke every day and I called her every night. We then really opened up about our families, bucket list and planning future dates. She would say things how she thinks of me all the time more each day and how happy I make her and how a guy like me is single. She was just excited as I was to see her when I got back from my trip. We would be on the phone until we were about to sleep. We were getting along great! I got back we were excited to see each other, we were smiling. I took her out then she came over and we got close. Towards the end of the night she started acting weird and following day she is getting cold feet. She then opened up to me how she was in a toxic relationship with her ex and it took a lot out of her and when we got close it hit her. I later realized it was only a month of a breakup until we started dating. I talked her into giving it a chance with realization we built something that meant a lot to her. She is also getting stressed out about passing her exam because she wants to better her career, she had some financial issues came upon her the day after. We went on another date then she asked me for space a few days later. We spoke a week after and she said it's not a good time right now, as she really just wants to be alone right now. Who knows maybe later on but it's not a good time right now. I replied back I wish her the best and she said the same. I still think of her everyday and neither of us cut ties with each other on social media. She has been more active then ever, and even though I don't like the post I see them. It's been almost a month and weird because I went on 2 dates with different girls and both of them were just looking for a hookup. Edited March 5, 2019 by joelG35 Link to post Share on other sites
Fair Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 You sound like a guy who's post I commented on last night, almost exactly. Are you the same guy? Anyway, not sure what your question is, but if it's over, it's over. People have to learn to take rejection and just move on. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 Stay away from rebounds. Link to post Share on other sites
I'veseenbetterlol Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 We spoke a week after and she said it's not a good time right now, as she really just wants to be alone right now. Who knows maybe later on but it's not a good time right now. I replied back I wish her the best and she said the same. I still think of her everyday and neither of us cut ties with each other on social media. She has been more active then ever, and even though I don't like the post I see them. It's been almost a month and weird because I went on 2 dates with different girls and both of them were just looking for a hookup. She isn't interested in a relationship w/you. All she is doing is rejecting you w/out looking like she is rejecting you. I've had a couple guys tell me that and the situation never ended w/me being w/them. Good on you for dating others and do not wait for her. I'd be super cautious if she reaches out to you again and personally would not date her again. Link to post Share on other sites
crispytoast Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 If she reaches out to you and you take her back, you're gonna have a bad time Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 I've had that happen before. You'll never know if that was just an excuse, or if she really does just want to be single. If she was just out of something, she probably does want space. I wouldn't wait around on her. I know it's hard to forget her, but this is why I also don't talk on the phone/text for weeks on end. It is easy for her because she can pretend to be in a psuedo-relationship, without having to really do the hard work. I'm sure she meant all those things she said, and I'm sure she doesn't mean to hurt you. The main thing you have to accept, and it sounds like you have now, is you can't talk her into giving it a chance. All you can do is respect her decision, walk away, and maybe she will come back. If she does, you have to go slow with her. Don't allow her to build you about the future and take her compliments as only applicable in that very moment. Be skeptical about a relationship. Make her earn you. That's the only way you're going to get her to forget her ex. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 It sounds like she's not over her ex, OP. She has pulled back a few times now. It's time to let her go for good. The likelihood that this would work out well even if she did she in touch again are very slim. Link to post Share on other sites
Larry56 Posted March 5, 2019 Share Posted March 5, 2019 Believe it or not. Women use Men to get over other Men. Link to post Share on other sites
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