My wife dislikes my best friend

[MrMurphy]

My wife and the mother of my 3 children dislikes one of my best friends. My friend is my age which is 41 and is a female who i went to school with. I don't see the friend much but when I do, my wife makes her feelings known. My wife doesn't like the way my friend has spoken to her in the past, saying she spoke down to her and purposely tried to wind her up, I didnt hear it. My friend and I slept together twice when we were 16. My female friend is now married to my other best friend who I also went to school with and they have kids. My wife also doesn't like the fact that my friend is still friends with my ex partner who not only cheated on me but actually 2 timed on me with the same bloke for 5 years. I know my wife actually does have my back and is protective of me and my wife says that if she was a true friend she would of written off my cheating ex when she hurt me so much.i know that if My wife was to have her way she would rather me stop all contact with the friend BUT she hasn't actually asked or told me to do so, she's only hinted. She's never asked me to write anyone off before but I have a feeling she's pretty staunch on this

[whichwayisup]

First mistake, your wife needs to be your best friend, not another woman.

 

Which is more important to you, saving your friendship with the woman best friend or your relationship with your wife? That's what it comes down to.

[preraph]

You should totally believe your wife that that friend took a shot at her. She was trying to see if she could scare her off I imagine. No reason for your wife to make that up. That old "friend" you used to have sex with is blocking you from having a relationship and you need to gain a lot of distance from her and never tell her or her friends anything about your marriage or anything else she can use.

[BaileyB]

The question is fairly simple - to whom do your greater loyalties lay, your wife or your friend?

Edited March 6, 2019 by BaileyB

[crispytoast]

It sounds like some wife swapping fun could solve this one

[Marc878]

My wife and the mother of my 3 children dislikes one of my best friends. My friend is my age which is 41 and is a female who i went to school with. I don't see the friend much but when I do, my wife makes her feelings known. My wife doesn't like the way my friend has spoken to her in the past, saying she spoke down to her and purposely tried to wind her up, I didnt hear it. My friend and I slept together twice when we were 16. My female friend is now married to my other best friend who I also went to school with and they have kids. My wife also doesn't like the fact that my friend is still friends with my ex partner who not only cheated on me but actually 2 timed on me with the same bloke for 5 years. I know my wife actually does have my back and is protective of me and my wife says that if she was a true friend she would of written off my cheating ex when she hurt me so much.i know that if My wife was to have her way she would rather me stop all contact with the friend BUT she hasn't actually asked or told me to do so, she's only hinted. She's never asked me to write anyone off before but I have a feeling she's pretty staunch on this

 

That's not a friend bud. Who needs that in their life?

 

Your wife may be a lot smarter than you give her credit for. Better watch your lack of good judgement doesn't bite you in the ass.

[crispytoast]

Some things to be noted are that she is "one of his best friends" not his "best friend". Also, she is married to another one of his best friends. He can't cut one out without the other. They come as a package.